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 Posted: Tue Nov 19, 2013 10:42 pm
Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes.
My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard.
The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break.
It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore....
I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess.
Thanks for listening...well reading technically.
P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately.
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 7:44 am
Well, I can't really offer any advice, but I can send my apologies and best wishes.
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 10:23 am
Riley Forte Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes. My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard. The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break. It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore.... I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess. Thanks for listening...well reading technically. P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately. I went through something similar about two months ago. :/ It's extremely hard, but you both will make it through. If you want to talk about it more, you can PM me. It's hard to give advice not knowing the full situation. :c However, I will say this: Do not force a friendship just because you care about her. It may be best for you two to take a break from each other... completely. I took a break from my ex for a few months. I made sure that I was able to handle speaking to her as a friend before I made any attempts at contact. Friendship should not be forced, it should come with ease. >.< Otherwise it'll just be a weight on both your shoulders.
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 12:08 pm
Hikishi Masashi Well, I can't really offer any advice, but I can send my apologies and best wishes. Thanks smile
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 5:42 pm
Riley Forte Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes. My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard. The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break. It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore.... I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess. Thanks for listening...well reading technically. P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately. 'I'm like the others, I will love to listen if you want to vent, or just to talk. Message me anytime!
As for advice..I'm not very good at it. I kind of went through this. I wanted so badly to hang on and hold the prayer of a life together in my heart, while the one I loved let go and moved on. My love lasted and theirs faded away. What I held on to was an idea. What I wanted, needed and hoped that the one I loved would be, but they weren't and it was so hard to realize I had been wrong. I hope that isn't the way it is for you, but if it is, trust in the fact that you -WILL- be ok. It might take time but the sun will shine again.'
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 8:28 pm
Tattered Irish Smile Riley Forte Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes. My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard. The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break. It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore.... I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess. Thanks for listening...well reading technically. P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately. 'I'm like the others, I will love to listen if you want to vent, or just to talk. Message me anytime!
As for advice..I'm not very good at it. I kind of went through this. I wanted so badly to hang on and hold the prayer of a life together in my heart, while the one I loved let go and moved on. My love lasted and theirs faded away. What I held on to was an idea. What I wanted, needed and hoped that the one I loved would be, but they weren't and it was so hard to realize I had been wrong. I hope that isn't the way it is for you, but if it is, trust in the fact that you -WILL- be ok. It might take time but the sun will shine again.'
Thanks for your kind words and sharing your story, I feel a little better knowing I'm not completely alone on the subject. I'm sorry for what you went through, I know how much it sucks to be hung up on someone (this is my second time going through it, but that's a whole other story) As for what I'm going through right now...it's really complicated. Like i said I'm not even a 100% sure why we split. Moving on is a little hard, see i asked her if she wanted some space, I offered to go away for a bit so she could clear her head. She said she didn't want me to leave so i didn't, the i asked her if she wanted to go back to just being friends and after convincing her I'd be able to handle it she agreed. It was going well for a bit, but eventually we started drifting apart. I know she's busy with school and stuff and I don't expect to hear from her everyday but it's gone to the point where we only talk to each other twice a week, even then it's not for long. She's going through alot right now and i want to help but i can barely get a normal conversation out of her... Ugh! it's really frustrating at times. s**t...sorry I'm ranting again; bad habit. I'll leave it at that for now.
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Posted: Wed Nov 20, 2013 9:56 pm
I wish I could say something, but I have no experiences to go off of...
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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2013 1:40 am
ShiningStar KiraKira I wish I could say something, but I have no experiences to go off of... Thanks smile Wasn't looking for any advice really, Been bottling this up for awhile now. I feel a little better now that I've let it out.
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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2013 1:51 am
Farzine Riley Forte Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes. My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard. The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break. It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore.... I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess. Thanks for listening...well reading technically. P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately. I went through something similar about two months ago. :/ It's extremely hard, but you both will make it through. If you want to talk about it more, you can PM me. It's hard to give advice not knowing the full situation. :c However, I will say this: Do not force a friendship just because you care about her. It may be best for you two to take a break from each other... completely. I took a break from my ex for a few months. I made sure that I was able to handle speaking to her as a friend before I made any attempts at contact. Friendship should not be forced, it should come with ease. >.< Otherwise it'll just be a weight on both your shoulders. Thanks for the advice smile I think you may be right, maybe sometime off would be good for both of us. As for the full story I'll PM you that if you want, it's rather long.
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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2013 7:33 am
Riley Forte ShiningStar KiraKira I wish I could say something, but I have no experiences to go off of... Thanks smile Wasn't looking for any advice really, Been bottling this up for awhile now. I feel a little better now that I've let it out. Alright!
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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2013 7:43 am
Riley Forte Farzine Riley Forte Hey, not really sure if this is a relevant topic but this has been pretty much taking over my thought's lately, so here goes. My girlfriend and I broke up back in August, we parted on good terms and everything and were doing the whole 'Friends' thing now (not that I mind...to much, still in love with her) but...it's hard. The reason we broke up is a little...complicated (I'm still not a 100% sure why) Lets just say that she wanted some time to figure things out. So we decided to take a break. It went well at first but over that past few month's we started talking less and less and when we do talk it almost feels like it's kind of...I don't know...forced and awkward. I've tried bring it up to her before but that just ends being more awkward. She's going through alot and I don't want to push the topic for fear of losing her completely, I don't know what to do anymore.... I'm not really looking for advice or anything -not that i mind taking any- Just need to get this off my chest I guess. Thanks for listening...well reading technically. P.S: Sorry for the lame title, been playing to much Fallout: New Vegas lately. I went through something similar about two months ago. :/ It's extremely hard, but you both will make it through. If you want to talk about it more, you can PM me. It's hard to give advice not knowing the full situation. :c However, I will say this: Do not force a friendship just because you care about her. It may be best for you two to take a break from each other... completely. I took a break from my ex for a few months. I made sure that I was able to handle speaking to her as a friend before I made any attempts at contact. Friendship should not be forced, it should come with ease. >.< Otherwise it'll just be a weight on both your shoulders. Thanks for the advice smile I think you may be right, maybe sometime off would be good for both of us. As for the full story I'll PM you that if you want, it's rather long. You're welcome. ^ And if you'd like to, you can send it. I'm sure it'll help for you to even just get it off your chest.
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Posted: Sun Jan 05, 2014 11:46 pm
First off, a little factoid: pubic lice, aka the crabs, are nearing the endangered species line, thanks mostly to Brazillion waxing.
Brilliant mental though, eh?
Now, I can relate to you so very well, and it also seems we all can. It hurts, plain and simple, but if you believe that the feelings, the love you shared with her, are still there, then don't give up on hope. Hope is one of those forces that we, as humans, can neither conceive nor see, weigh nor touch, feel anything beyond what our hearts and mind say.
With that said, don't take a back seat and wait for things to unfold. Make an effort to be on her mind, be it making her a cup of her favorite warm drink, a bowl of soup, or if you arent living together, asking if it's alright to come by, sit and just talk. Only talk, about the cosmos, your lives, anything but politics and the question thats obviously longering in your mind, if/when will you two resume being in a relationship.
Like I said, it's hard, hard to balance the line between an over-bearing ex who wants to be back together regardless of whats occuring in the world, or seeming to be disinterested completely, all but dooming the possibility of a reconciliation.
Like all the other lovely women have offered, feel completely safe in asking me any question via the prive mesage system.
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Posted: Fri Feb 21, 2014 10:33 am
Hey all, I'm sorry for the late Reply's; life kind of got in the way...again. Anyway as for the situation with my ex.
Well a little while after i posted this i found out she was seeing someone (man that stung) So after that I took some time off and it did me wonders, I feel alot better.
On the down side we just about lost all contact...thing are just, i don't even know how to word it. I've decided to just let her go. She's moved on and happy and i think it's time i moved on as well.
Thank you all for the advice, it helped me alot smile
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