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 Posted: Sun Jan 05, 2014 11:16 pm
Before I type anything out, I'm going to start of with a confession.
I spend far too much time on YouTube.
I also do not wish to offend a single soul, so if this post offends you, please tell me and I will tear it down ASAP.
I was watching one of many random videos that always lead you down some YouTube ride of sorts, and happened across many a Lesbian channels. Many of the videos were hilarious, all touching on different topics, issues, and quirks that comes with being an out and proud Lesbian. In one of the videos, a very interesting question, issue, quirk, however you want to go about it peaked my interest, the subject: Lesbian views, opinions, beliefs, ect. on Bisexual women.
Within the group of various identities, sorts, labels, what have you, Lesbians, they all seemed to agree that if they were somewhere and their eyes meet with a woman of such beauty, that they went up to talk to her, and they found out that she was Bisexual, they wouldn't pursue the possible relationship, even turn away from said woman and try to either find another woman, or all together leave.
Now, they all had their own reasons why, but I felt like the underlining reason was due to the thought of being left for a man. As one woman said, if someone left her for a woman, at least then she stood a chance of getting her back, but with a man, there are things which cannot be compared to, even in the fairest of courts.
So tell me your thoughts on this, your personal stories if any, or if you are a Bisexual, then please share your response to this.
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Posted: Mon Jan 06, 2014 7:31 am
Well I have had some bad experiences with a few girls claiming to be bisexual.
I know that not all bisexual girls are like this but the ones I happened to date were.
I dated a girl my senior year of high-school and we both went to different schools but met through similar experiences with a mutual stalker. I really liked her and she really liked me but things went bad when I told her I didn't love her (Like two weeks into the relationship) in which she proceeded to cheat on me with the stalker and obtain an STD from him.
Not the best experience.
The other relationship with another bisexual girl was that she wanted to have me and also have a boyfriend- an open relationship (but I wasn't allowed to have anyone else or touch her boyfriend) it was odd and unpleasant.
I don't think I would just not date a girl if they were bisexual and if I liked them but I am weary of the whole possibility that she may leave me for a guy like the other times.
But again- I know not all bisexual girls are like this.
So I'd be willing to try again and again- possibly too many times.
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Posted: Mon Jan 06, 2014 10:14 am
PunkyHeart_Vampire Well I have had some bad experiences with a few girls claiming to be bisexual.
I know that not all bisexual girls are like this but the ones I happened to date were.
I dated a girl my senior year of high-school and we both went to different schools but met through similar experiences with a mutual stalker. I really liked her and she really liked me but things went bad when I told her I didn't love her (Like two weeks into the relationship) in which she proceeded to cheat on me with the stalker and obtain an STD from him.
Not the best experience.
The other relationship with another bisexual girl was that she wanted to have me and also have a boyfriend- an open relationship (but I wasn't allowed to have anyone else or touch her boyfriend) it was odd and unpleasant.
I don't think I would just not date a girl if they were bisexual and if I liked them but I am weary of the whole possibility that she may leave me for a guy like the other times.
But again- I know not all bisexual girls are like this.
So I'd be willing to try again and again- possibly too many times. Ya know, how is it that lesbians have the most stalkers? I had a few in my time, and a girl left me for one, only this one was a younger chick who she tutored in math. Anywho, I can't say that I wouldn't feel any different from what you felt with the second gal, who wanted hwr side open, yet your side closed. That's beyond awkward.
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Posted: Mon Jan 06, 2014 2:04 pm
TheTwitch88 PunkyHeart_Vampire Well I have had some bad experiences with a few girls claiming to be bisexual.
I know that not all bisexual girls are like this but the ones I happened to date were.
I dated a girl my senior year of high-school and we both went to different schools but met through similar experiences with a mutual stalker. I really liked her and she really liked me but things went bad when I told her I didn't love her (Like two weeks into the relationship) in which she proceeded to cheat on me with the stalker and obtain an STD from him.
Not the best experience.
The other relationship with another bisexual girl was that she wanted to have me and also have a boyfriend- an open relationship (but I wasn't allowed to have anyone else or touch her boyfriend) it was odd and unpleasant.
I don't think I would just not date a girl if they were bisexual and if I liked them but I am weary of the whole possibility that she may leave me for a guy like the other times.
But again- I know not all bisexual girls are like this.
So I'd be willing to try again and again- possibly too many times. Ya know, how is it that lesbians have the most stalkers? I had a few in my time, and a girl left me for one, only this one was a younger chick who she tutored in math. Anywho, I can't say that I wouldn't feel any different from what you felt with the second gal, who wanted hwr side open, yet your side closed. That's beyond awkward. It was quite ridiculous.
Especially since her boyfriend was more interested in me than he was in her. And I was like... I'm not even going to go there because I'd get my eyes scratched out. xD
It was...so awkward and not fun.
Sorry to hear you got left as well.
Never fun.
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Posted: Mon Jan 06, 2014 11:40 pm
Hmmm, well, I'm not one for labels... I admit I like how some guys look, but that's practically about it. I'm not bisexual, myself, though. However, there are times when I lean a bit close to it. It's a bit weird.
On the other side, I consider myself a lesbian because of my intense feelings for women.
I like to compare these instances (and more) to how one views the world through an ever changing, always adapting kaleidoscope.
Depending how (and sometimes where) you look through it you might feel differently emotionally, be more open, and so forth. It's complicated, and yet it's not. It depends how you, yourself want to see it.
People are going to be people, so expect the unexpected and try to accept it. Personal experience will lead you in any which direction you choose. Being open is almost always going to be an advantage.
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Posted: Tue Jan 07, 2014 1:38 pm
I've never dated at all... But I had a crush on a bisexual and would've dated her if I had the chance! She was taken...
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Posted: Sat Jan 11, 2014 7:04 am
23Sakkakudaka42 Hmmm, well, I'm not one for labels... I admit I like how some guys look, but that's practically about it. I'm not bisexual, myself, though. However, there are times when I lean a bit close to it. It's a bit weird. On the other side, I consider myself a lesbian because of my intense feelings for women. I like to compare these instances (and more) to how one views the world through an ever changing, always adapting kaleidoscope. Depending how (and sometimes where) you look through it you might feel differently emotionally, be more open, and so forth. It's complicated, and yet it's not. It depends how you, yourself want to see it. People are going to be people, so expect the unexpected and try to accept it. Personal experience will lead you in any which direction you choose. Being open is almost always going to be an advantage. Very well said! One of my ex's, the one you can be a twin with, is pansexual, finding interest in a person despite what sex they are, or were. If more people were this open, even if only to themselves, I think the world over could be better by leaps and bounds. However, we live in the now, and not in the future where something as silly as sexuality is judged as carefully as what color shirt will I wear today.
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Posted: Sun Feb 23, 2014 9:32 pm
I don't really understand the "she might leave me for a guy!" logic.
Sure, she might.
She might leave you for another girl, too.
As could any lesbian you take a fancy to.
Cheating kind of happens regardless of sexuality, historically speaking. ~o.o~
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Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2014 12:47 pm
Exaggerated Rebellion I don't really understand the "she might leave me for a guy!" logic.
Sure, she might.
She might leave you for another girl, too.
As could any lesbian you take a fancy to.
Cheating kind of happens regardless of sexuality, historically speaking. ~o.o~ Exactly what I was going to say. If they were gonna leave you anyway, I fail to see why it matters which sex they leave you for. Maybe I am missing something.
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2014 4:13 pm
I would imagine there is a hesitation because perhaps girls are labeling themselves as "bisexual" as part of a curious phase or they think it's sexy to men. I have not dated a bisexual so I can't offer any stories. But I wouldn't hesitate to date a girl who labeled herself as bisexual... innocent until proven guilty! wink
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Posted: Tue Mar 04, 2014 7:27 pm
Most of the girls I've dated before were bisexual, I've had bad experiences with them but I won't let it bother me. I wouldn't mind dating another bisexual girl, but I have to make sure they are really bisexual and not kidding around or are unsure. I mean this in the most inoffensive way possible...
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Posted: Sat Mar 15, 2014 9:08 pm
iRaveKitteh: I have had this problem only once, and I have dated about 4 bi-sexual girls.
I think It all depends on the girl claiming she is bi-sexual. Some girls are true about it, but a lot of the girls in the bisexual category are only 'bisexual' to get a guys attention -which I think is pathetic.-
The girl I dated for about... two years, (it was our anniversary date) cheated on me with a man. This girl, was about 15 and I was 16, this happened just last year.
Everything was fine, you know, I thought I might possibly fall for her, so anyways, I had called her, she answered and we talked for a brief moment, I said I love you, she just replied with a 'yea... love you too..' then as she was hanging up I heard a small noise, like a creak of a bed, but at the time I didn't think much of it because you know, 'blinded by love' and all that fun stuff. Well I went over to her house to surprise her with roses and her favorite candy, and as I pulled up I noticed a random car parked next to her house that Ive never seen before, I figured that it was her neighbors or something so I dismissed it immediately. Well I used the key she gave me to get in the house, I made sure to be really quiet so I could surprise her and everything, Well... Then I heard a noise in her room. Still, I dismissed it. I opened her door, immediately dropping the items on the floor and just stood there with a, I guess you could say a mixture of surprised and broken expression maybe? Well anyways, Yeah, she saw me and cursed and tried to play it off as he was 'raping her' and after that, I left. We didn't stay together of course. But yeah, She cheated on me with a man on our anniversary. So it was very heart breaking. But I didn't let that affect my view on bisexual girls because I mean not every bisexual girl is like that. But yeah anyways, that was my only bad memory of being with a bisexual girl. gaia_nitemareleft xxx yum_cupcake xxx gaia_angelright
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