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WindWife
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 9:30 am


To start off so no one gets confused- I identify as pansexual I guess? Not sure really but we'll go with that.
Secondly- I would put this under relationship problems but it's less of a relationship problem and more of a life issue now because of what the person said to me.
- - so I'll just start now.

Back over the summer I developed feelings for a friend of my sister- he was 18, a two years younger than me and returned my feelings as much as he could I guess.
We got along really well and hanging out with him was something I would really look forward to.
Then he left for college- on the other side of my state and we didn't talk as much and of course he started losing interest in me- which was expected.
It hurt though. I didn't realize it sooner but he wasn't a "one person, person".
Right before Christmas I asked to hang out and it was only like the second time I brought it up in a time span of 3 months maybe? and he exploded on me. Told me I was clingy and needed to find someone else- but the thing that got me is his words "I love you, but you aren't that important to me".
I won't lie- I was crushed... after all I shared with him about my past and after he had accepted my flaws he does this? I guess I was angry at myself for being surprised.. I guess I should have known it wouldn't have worked for whatever reason.
- -
He tried to hang out with me a few times after he told me to scram- which I don't understand. He's an idiot, my family says, and I guess he might as well be.
He's back at college now and we rarely talk.
His words just keep echoing in my head though and it depresses me a little, I guess?
I don't know how to get over it.
- -
So if you got this far- congratulations. -gives you some truffles (the chocolate not the mushroom).
I guess this was a rant mostly but if someone could maybe help me understand what in all the f--k happened? Haha because I'm still not sure.
PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 1:44 pm


PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...

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WindWife
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:09 pm


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PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.
PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:18 pm


PunkyHeart_Vampire
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PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?

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PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:21 pm


ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?


Hahaha.. that would be wonderful.
My beautiful partner in crime, you'd be!
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PostPosted: Sun Jan 19, 2014 3:26 pm


PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?


Hahaha.. that would be wonderful.
My beautiful partner in crime, you'd be!
heart

I like the sound of that!

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PostPosted: Tue Jan 21, 2014 8:12 am


ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire

That's a stupid thing for him to say. There's better ways to say that. Like "sorry, but we're not right for each other?" Maybe that's nt much better. I've never been in a relationship, so I wouldn't know...


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?


Hahaha.. that would be wonderful.
My beautiful partner in crime, you'd be!
heart

I like the sound of that!


Now I'm utterly confused.
About a month after he was an a*****e to me- last night, he apologized for being such an a**.
&& so I laughed my butt off... It was a little late to be apologizing but of course I forgave him already.
I just... do not understand xD what the heck.
PostPosted: Tue Jan 21, 2014 8:28 am


PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?


Hahaha.. that would be wonderful.
My beautiful partner in crime, you'd be!
heart

I like the sound of that!


Now I'm utterly confused.
About a month after he was an a*****e to me- last night, he apologized for being such an a**.
&& so I laughed my butt off... It was a little late to be apologizing but of course I forgave him already.
I just... do not understand xD what the heck.

Did he? Well... He better not do it again!

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TheTwitch88

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 10, 2014 2:47 am


ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire
ShiningStar KiraKira
PunkyHeart_Vampire


He wasn't clear about what was going on at all ever.
I mean I'm not even sure if he considered us as dating.
-sigh-
I just sorta want to run over his foot with my car.

I'll do it for you?


Hahaha.. that would be wonderful.
My beautiful partner in crime, you'd be!
heart

I like the sound of that!


Now I'm utterly confused.
About a month after he was an a*****e to me- last night, he apologized for being such an a**.
&& so I laughed my butt off... It was a little late to be apologizing but of course I forgave him already.
I just... do not understand xD what the heck.

Did he? Well... He better not do it again!

Lawdy going through that was funny. Mostly the part about running over his foot. I could do it as well, all the while rocking he handicapper sign thingy and a wheelchair to top it off.

However, sorry to say this hun, but I wouldn't recommend even trying to throw your lot in with him, at least not until he really realizes how much of a d he's being with you. He is in college, and like you said, drifting away and loosing interest. It's natural, probably the single reason I never tried to do anything either the one girl in high school who I knew was into me, but I also knew she was going to be going to any college she picked.

That life at college is a crazy one, the most part is experimenting and discovering your own sexuality. With your lil man, it's sounding like he's playing the field, and when he's striking out, he turns to a "sure thing", you. Course I mean this in the most figurative way, but I know you get the idea.

Sorry, but that's what I think. I hate it, I've been through it, being on the line and getting jerked around like a fish on a string, but I think it has to happen to everyone at least once in your life. Hopefully this will be the first and last time for you.
PostPosted: Wed Feb 26, 2014 8:17 pm


TheTwitch88


Well in the end he was a ******** idiot and using me i guess?
i don't know. he considered me a friend even with all we'd been through together.
and i told him that i was done and i hoped he got his s**t together.
i haven't spoken to him since and i don't think he ever cared because he acted like nothing happened which i know can be a coping method but.. oh well. i'm just done. biggrin
funny story actually... the weekend i found out from him what he thought of me my family and i were eating at a resturaunt on the way home from our lake house. i got really spicy bbq because when i'm pissed off i eat spicy things. and it was too hot for me so my mom gave me a chicken strip and it happened to resemble the male's "twig && berries" so i took it and ripped the "berries" off and threw them and shrieked "******** YOU WES" and xD it was priceless...

also it wasn't my first time being strung around... hopefully it's my last though.

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