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Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2014 8:02 pm

I ask for advice on what to do with my very difficult life now.
I'm 18, my mother died two months ago. For the past 7 years, I have lived with my sister and her children whom I take care of. Since Mom's death, I go to college and take even more care of her kids (to pay for my room and board). Soon, I will have a job also which will be very hard. I hate it here. I've always hated it here for the 7 years i've lived here. I spend most of my time in my room. I feel here is not the best place for me to be.
I'm so depprest. I ask God everyday to get me through this. These past few months, I fell away from God into lust and other sin, but I'm working on growing in Him.
I'm so lonely, want to get away from here and get married. I was thinking about trying online dating.
What i'm asking is your thoughts and/or advice on this. Thank you.

Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2014 1:58 pm

My condolences to you and the rest of your family over the loss of your mother C.- Jlp.

The only good advice that I know to give you is too lean on the Lord for understanding, comfort and guidence with all that has happened in your life over the past few months, and to just stand on God's Word the Holy Bible as the finate word on all things.

If you need to talk to some one when things get strange for you, I'm a good listener and will try to be as helpful as I can be.

Your friend in Jesus;
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2014 5:30 pm

I as well, would like to convey my most deepest and sincere condolences to you and to you're entire family and friends over the loss of you're mother.
From what I have gathered from our mutual friend, Jack.
The past couple of years have been really tough on you, being not only in school but being one of you're mother's primary caretakers as well.
I shall endeavor to keep both you and you're families in my prayers as well for the good Lord to comfort, lead and guide and direct you're foot steps in the the times to come.

While I did see this post last evening here in the guild.
I have to admit that I was a bit hesitant to make a reply; so I did pray and ask the Lord to help me find the right thing(s) to say to you as a reply.
Since I do not beleive in coincidences, when reading my copy of the "Radio Bible Class - Our Daily Bread" for today March 13th, 2014; the story struck me as possibly being an inspiration to you as well as it was to me.
If you will allow me to share it with you now please, I will.

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From the R.B.C -O.D.B. for 03-13-2014
Without Power
(read; Isaiah 40:27-31; 41:10.)

"He gives power to the weak, and to those who have no might He increases strength. - Isaiah 40:29."

In late October 2012, a hurricane-spawned superstorm struck the heavily populated northeastern US, leaving massive flooding and destruction in it's wake. During the storm, more than 8 million customers lost electricity. Power outages alone caused shortages of food, fuel, and water, along with the chaos of gridlocked transportation. The howling winds and surging waters left many neighborhoods crushed, flooded, and choked with mountains of sand. Media coverage of the event reported: "Millions Without Power."
Like a storm of nature, A PERSONAL TRAGEDY can often leave us feeling powerless and in the dark. During such times, God's Word assures us of His help: "He gives power to the weak, and to those who have no might He
increases strength" (Isa. 40:29.).
AtOUR LOWEST POINT, drained of emotional resources, we can place our hope in the Lord and find strength in Him.
He promises us that, for each new day, "Those who WAIT on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint" (v 31.).
God is our Spiritual Power Source In Every Storm of Life.
by R.B.C./O.D.B. staff writer and Pastor - David McCasland

O God, our help in ages past, Our hope for years to come, Our shelter from the stormy blast, And our eternal home! By Watts

"It takes the storms to prove the real shelter."
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I do not know if this reading from the 'Our Daily Bread' will be of any help to you or not. But the Holy Spirit did lay this on my heart to share with you.

As I said before, I shall endeavor daily to include you and you're familys in my prayers during this time of need and healing of you're hearts.
Please remember this, that no matter what... God LOVE's YOU!

You're friend and brother in the family of God, and in the Lord's army!;
Philip
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Posted: Tue Mar 18, 2014 11:00 pm

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I ask for advice on what to do with my very difficult life now.
I'm 18, my mother died two months ago. For the past 7 years, I have lived with my sister and her children whom I take care of. Since Mom's death, I go to college and take even more care of her kids (to pay for my room and board). Soon, I will have a job also which will be very hard. I hate it here. I've always hated it here for the 7 years i've lived here. I spend most of my time in my room. I feel here is not the best place for me to be.
I'm so depprest. I ask God everyday to get me through this. These past few months, I fell away from God into lust and other sin, but I'm working on growing in Him.
I'm so lonely, want to get away from here and get married. I was thinking about trying online dating.
What i'm asking is your thoughts and/or advice on this. Thank you.

If you truely are not happy where you are then I would honestly move once you have a stable income. True the children will miss you but as long as they get to see you sometime I'm sure they'll be alright.

As for the sin/lust parts, I'm sure god has forgiven you once you realized how terrible it was. I can't say what he knows or believes of you since we are all humans and can't actually understand gods work. But I do believe he loves you for putting up with so much and is still walking with you through all these difficult times. He walked with me, and currently still is. I lost my great grandmother 2 years ago and she raised just about all the children in our family. By this I mean, my mother, my grandmother, aunts, uncle, cousins, you name them and they.. no we.. were all raised by her. Her loss was the hardest thing we have ever had to do and it still is. I can't go by her old house without bursting into tears and none of the family can either. So I know what it's like to be in that situation.

My home life as a child was terrible also, but god saved me. My mother abandoned me in a car at a drug dealers home when I was 3 with my newborn sister in the backseat. Being a young child I didn't know how serious the situation was but I eventually got bored of waiting for hours and called my grandmother from my mothers cellphone. I still to this day believe god was protecting me from the people in that house.

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Posted: Thu Mar 20, 2014 8:19 am

Give yourself some time. I think you are looking for love and falling into lustful situations to replace the void that loosing your mom has caused. You need to give yourself time to mourn the loss.
Living with siblings is always hard and it sounds like you are picking up the extra slack while your sister is trying to deal with the loss of your mom. This makes it even harder for you to have time to grieve and may be making you a bit depressed. Between the grief, stress and the depression everything is going to feel blown out of proportion and even the smallest things will seem like an incredible mountain right now.
Keeping yourself in your room all the time will only make you feel more isolated. It is not a boyfriend or future husband you need right now. You need a friend that you can talk to and will help you work out a real plan for your future as well as help you with your walk with God. Going to church and speaking with some of the christian women there can help. Just make sure it a person mature in Christ. The pastor can direct you to someone or you can speak to him.
Yes you will find yourself a job and move out on your own. After some time on your own when you have had time to become comfortable with who you are and your walk with Christ has grown some, you will be able to start dating.This things take time and shouldn't be done in a stressed out panic.
Christ don't worry about your past sins. Once you ask for forgiveness they are forgotten. He can and will move you forward at a pace you are comfortable with. You will find that turning to Him will bring you great comfort and peace. The more time you spend praying and reading His word the easier other things in your life will be to deal with.
I hope this helps. God be with you.

Posted: Sat Mar 22, 2014 11:08 pm

Always remember; God will never give you more than you can handle!

Online dating is not a good idea. You never know who the person you are talking to really is.

I too have been lonely and depressed before. I was diagnosed with Depression when I was 9 years old. I am now 20, and I believe I was put in the situations I was in so I could help people going through similar experiences. At one time I had a boyfriend who severely abused me. At first, he would apologize and say he would never do it again, and I would decide to stay. But the abuse continued. Then he started threatening to kill me and then himself if I ever tried to leave him again. My mother was also severely abusive, and forged papers in order to get legal guardianship. When I turned 18, she told me I would never leave the house again (which was against the law, but no one would do anything). One day I had enough and attempted suicide, because I felt I just couldn't go on. When I woke up in the hospital, I knew I was lucky to be alive. I didn't know why God had saved me, but I knew I had a purpose. I finally asked God for help (Ask and you shall receive). I decided to go into intensive inpatient treatment in a psychiatric hospital. I finally left my boyfriend. The hospital I was in got me a lawyer and he terminated my mother's legal guardianship. I also met the love of my life, Scott, there. The first time we met, I wasn't looking for love at all. In fact, I was running away from it. Finally I realized it was too late; I had already fallen for him. I had never been shown such kindness in all my life. We started "dating". Like a more than friends kind of thing, but nothing physical at all. Then I found out my ex had committed suicide. It turns out it was on the same day I met Scott (When God closes one door, He opens another). After I was discharged from the hospital Scott and I continued seeing each other, and on Christmas 2012, he proposed. We are getting married on June 7 this year. I have also been having prophetic dreams and visions, but that's a whole other story...

My point is, everything will ALWAYS work out in the end. But, when you ask God for something, It may not always happen right away, but He will provide.

I also learned that my own solutions to my problems were not necessarily the right ones. I should have turned to God, instead of turning to suicide. I now pray before making any big decisions. And God WILL answer if you have patience and the heart to hear Him.

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