In my family you are only gay if something happened to you (past or present) that would change your preference in who you like.
When I came out to my parents, they tried to persuade me that it was just a phase and that they went through it when they were my age. During that time I had a HUGE crush on of my friends and it turned out she felt the same way. We wanted to start dating but I wasn't allowed to date at all in my family. “Dating was for later on, when you’re in college or have a career” My dad would tell me. I hated keeping secret from my parents so I told them. I had dated another girl previous but I didn't work out because of me trying to keep it a secret.
I had recently went on a trip with my crush to Walt Disney Wold with her family, and my parents assumed that I or she did something when we were over there and they told me that I wouldn’t have turned gay if nothing had happened. I was shocked that they would think that the reason I was gay was because of her. I tried to explain to them that It wasn’t her fault that I was like this my whole life. But they wouldn’t listen to anymore that day.
The next day I came out to my 2nd older sister, and she also tried to “help” telling me that she felt the same way towards her friend and it doesn’t mean I’m gay. I tried to explain to her, but the same thing as my parents, she wouldn’t listen. I would have thought that she would accept it proudly since she read yaoi and stuff. I got it wrong I guess.
After that my sister became more cautious on what I say to my sibling. Any mention of Gays she would have a talk with my sibling saying not to say thing like that. I finally built up the courage to come out to my little sisters and they accepted me proudly! I was so relief!
This isn’t to tell you that my parents and my older sister are horrible people, because they’re not. They all were scared, frighten and worried about me. And I see it now, they have been more acceptance about whom I am, sure they don’t agree with some things, but I think all parents and family members have felt the same way. No parent knows that their child is going to be gay when they are born, cut parents some slack! It doesn't excuse the behavior or the parent who beat and emotionally hurt their child for being who they are.
This is my opinion; it’s not made to upset anyone!
If it does I’m sorry!
When I came out to my parents, they tried to persuade me that it was just a phase and that they went through it when they were my age. During that time I had a HUGE crush on of my friends and it turned out she felt the same way. We wanted to start dating but I wasn't allowed to date at all in my family. “Dating was for later on, when you’re in college or have a career” My dad would tell me. I hated keeping secret from my parents so I told them. I had dated another girl previous but I didn't work out because of me trying to keep it a secret.
I had recently went on a trip with my crush to Walt Disney Wold with her family, and my parents assumed that I or she did something when we were over there and they told me that I wouldn’t have turned gay if nothing had happened. I was shocked that they would think that the reason I was gay was because of her. I tried to explain to them that It wasn’t her fault that I was like this my whole life. But they wouldn’t listen to anymore that day.
The next day I came out to my 2nd older sister, and she also tried to “help” telling me that she felt the same way towards her friend and it doesn’t mean I’m gay. I tried to explain to her, but the same thing as my parents, she wouldn’t listen. I would have thought that she would accept it proudly since she read yaoi and stuff. I got it wrong I guess.
After that my sister became more cautious on what I say to my sibling. Any mention of Gays she would have a talk with my sibling saying not to say thing like that. I finally built up the courage to come out to my little sisters and they accepted me proudly! I was so relief!
This isn’t to tell you that my parents and my older sister are horrible people, because they’re not. They all were scared, frighten and worried about me. And I see it now, they have been more acceptance about whom I am, sure they don’t agree with some things, but I think all parents and family members have felt the same way. No parent knows that their child is going to be gay when they are born, cut parents some slack! It doesn't excuse the behavior or the parent who beat and emotionally hurt their child for being who they are.
This is my opinion; it’s not made to upset anyone!
If it does I’m sorry!
