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 Posted: Sat Nov 08, 2014 5:02 pm
I've noticed its a little quite in here lately so I decided to post something random, a sort of discussion or rant I guess; so here goes.
Love at first sight.
Does it exist; or is it just something that only exists in books and movies. Can you really fall for someone just by looking at them, or is it just something corny couples say when boring/depressing us single people with stories of how they met?
Personally I feel like I'd have to get to know someone before I could fall in love with them, I'd need feel a connection first before I use the L word (Well I think anyway, never actually been in love before). But I am a bit of a hopeless romantic and it's quite possible I could fall for someone at first glance. So I guess I'm on the fence about the subject.
Anyway that's my thoughts on the subject, let me know what yours are smile
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Posted: Sat Nov 08, 2014 7:16 pm
I have to know someone before even liking them, let alone more than that.
I mean. Crushes at first sight...but that's not love.
Maybe it's something special certain people experience, or people with stronger emotional range than myself are capable of. But, it doesn't even cross my mind until I'm friends with someone and have known them a time, at least in the past.
I'm the same. I don't think I know what love actually feels like. I have trouble even feeling it toward my own family, though I know I care about them. That's my problem, but maybe some people are just more feeling than others and to them they can see someone or meet someone and they just click. Sometimes you meet someone who just fits and is easy to get along with and who suits you. Maybe it's like that.
The only thing close I've known is from crushes, but that's more of a crazy feeling than love...but I don't know.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 3:10 pm
When it comes to family and friends I'm kind of the same, I know I care about them and would be devastated if something happened to them but again using the L word makes me feel uncomfortable for some strange reason. Now when it comes to dating the thing I'd always worry about was is whether or not I actually loved the person I was with. I mean yes I liked them and I cared about them (other wise I wouldn't be with them) but I never actually felt anything different. Every time they would say The L word I felt a little awkward. Sometimes I'd say it back but it always felt wrong every time I did, mostly I avoided saying it and usually just said "Same" Or "Me too" or that one awkward time I said "Thank-you" the memory just makes me want to face-palm again... My best-friend is always going on about how in love her and her boyfriend are and I see it when ever their together. They both truly and deeply care about each other and it's one of the few genuine examples of love I have seen in my life so far. It makes me happy to see it but at them same time it makes me sad cause I start wondering if I'm even capable of feeling like that about another person.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 3:22 pm
Maybe it's because I didn't come from a family that expressed affection physically so much. We all got along well and we all cared about each other, I never felt unloved growing up, but to this day I'm still uncomfortable with expressing such care verbally and even hugging my family, let alone anyone else. Well, I'm glad it's not just me, and excuse me for saying so! It's good to know other people are the same, then you get to feel a bit less like an alien or like there's something wrong with you. There probably isn't, the spectrum of emotions is just too broad. I'm the same way with the "L word". Someone has said it to me before, and I felt so awkward and felt like I'd failed them or something because I didn't feel right saying it back. I couldn't understand how after only a few months they could feel that way about me, and if they could why I didn't feel the same way. It didn't feel right though, so I didn't say it. Even if I care about the person, I think the L word is a very serious thing to say, and something that's an important milestone and shouldn't be used lightly. You can't really take it back if it was a random feeling that didn't last or if you're not sure. Surely that doesn't mean you aren't capable of it. Maybe the right person hasn't come along, but it's hard to say until you experience it. Then again, if you never do then that doesn't settle anything.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 4:02 pm
I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 5:08 pm
Same here I feel a little better knowing I'm not alone on the subject, was starting to worry I was truing into some emotionless robot. I think people (mostly teens) throw around the L word to much these days, right to the point where it almost has no meaning left (Or the meaning has change into something else). I could never see how my high school friends were in love after just a week of knowing somebody. Even with my last girlfriend I didn't get it, we had only been dating for a short time and out of nowhere she busts out the L word. It was like getting sucker punched in the stomach; I had no clue what to say or do. I didn't feel the same way and I couldn't make myself say it back(not right away anyway) I felt horrible, like I failed her and myself in some way. Eventually I ended up saying it and I wish I hadn't; cause every time I said it after that I felt like I was lying to her. Who knows perhaps were among the few normal ones left and everyone else are the weird ones.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 5:15 pm
bandnerd814 I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe it's real, but the more logical side of me knows that it's probably just a myth like the Santa clause or the Easter bunny. It's a very tricky subject and its hard to know if it actually exists without any proof, but the only sure way to have proof is to experience for yourself. I guess it's kind of a catch 22 in some sense.
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Posted: Sun Nov 09, 2014 8:17 pm
I do not believe it's real at all. :v It's more like passion at first sight, rather than love. How can you love something you know absolutely nothing about? I believe the idea of "love at first sight" is just a glamorization of reality.
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Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2014 1:29 pm
Farzine I do not believe it's real at all. :v It's more like passion at first sight, rather than love. How can you love something you know absolutely nothing about? I believe the idea of "love at first sight" is just a glamorization of reality. That sounds more logical, I could never comprehend how people could love someone without actually knowing anything about them. Love at first sight seems more like something that was made more and more popular over the years by movies and Tv shows.
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Posted: Mon Nov 10, 2014 3:40 pm
Farzine I do not believe it's real at all. :v It's more like passion at first sight, rather than love. How can you love something you know absolutely nothing about? I believe the idea of "love at first sight" is just a glamorization of reality. True, true. I remember once when I was a passenger in the car, I looked up and I could of sworn I was attracted to a really cute girl with short hair. She was playing some fun music that was catchy... I kinda fell for her. Completely random, but yeah. The attraction was fleeting, but it was there. Memories can play games with the brain, though. I really, really hope to feel that special feeling again. It's just so unpredictable. Everything has to be right. Why life? Why?
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Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2014 1:38 pm
23Sakkakudaka42 Farzine I do not believe it's real at all. :v It's more like passion at first sight, rather than love. How can you love something you know absolutely nothing about? I believe the idea of "love at first sight" is just a glamorization of reality. True, true. I remember once when I was a passenger in the car, I looked up and I could of sworn I was attracted to a really cute girl with short hair. She was playing some fun music that was catchy... I kinda fell for her. Completely random, but yeah. The attraction was fleeting, but it was there. Memories can play games with the brain, though. I really, really hope to feel that special feeling again. It's just so unpredictable. Everything has to be right. Why life? Why? The closest I've come to experiencing that feeling was when I looked into the eyes of this one chick in high school, they were gorgeous. Sadly, she was straight, so I had no chance, but it was a nice feeling. That feeling is very deceiving, so I try to avoid it, especially since it will not last in a long-term relationship.
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Posted: Fri Dec 12, 2014 12:50 pm
Riley Forte bandnerd814 I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe it's real, but the more logical side of me knows that it's probably just a myth like the Santa clause or the Easter bunny. It's a very tricky subject and its hard to know if it actually exists without any proof, but the only sure way to have proof is to experience for yourself. I guess it's kind of a catch 22 in some sense. exactly.
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Posted: Sat Dec 13, 2014 2:38 am
bandnerd814 Riley Forte bandnerd814 I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe it's real, but the more logical side of me knows that it's probably just a myth like the Santa clause or the Easter bunny. It's a very tricky subject and its hard to know if it actually exists without any proof, but the only sure way to have proof is to experience for yourself. I guess it's kind of a catch 22 in some sense. exactly. Thanks, I wasn't really sure if that made sense or i was just rambling again
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Posted: Sun Dec 14, 2014 3:49 pm
Riley Forte bandnerd814 Riley Forte bandnerd814 I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe it's real, but the more logical side of me knows that it's probably just a myth like the Santa clause or the Easter bunny. It's a very tricky subject and its hard to know if it actually exists without any proof, but the only sure way to have proof is to experience for yourself. I guess it's kind of a catch 22 in some sense. exactly. Thanks, I wasn't really sure if that made sense or i was just rambling again you're good (: haha.
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Posted: Wed Dec 17, 2014 11:52 pm
bandnerd814 Riley Forte bandnerd814 Riley Forte bandnerd814 I actually don't know if I believe in it. I mean it might be possible but I've never experienced it. The hopeless romantic in me wants to believe it's real, but the more logical side of me knows that it's probably just a myth like the Santa clause or the Easter bunny. It's a very tricky subject and its hard to know if it actually exists without any proof, but the only sure way to have proof is to experience for yourself. I guess it's kind of a catch 22 in some sense. exactly. Thanks, I wasn't really sure if that made sense or i was just rambling again you're good (: haha. That's a relief lol
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