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 Posted: Tue Apr 14, 2015 5:38 am
My heart skips a little when we hang out and I smile when I think about him and I love his hugs and holding his hand tonight felt so perfect.
We've been at this point before and I wasn't really ready for a relationship so I rebuffed him. I had a lot of things to figure out and I feel like I've made progress with that but I'm not sure.
My biggest fear has always been that he's so sexual and I'm so not. I like making out and stuff but much more than that makes me uncomfortable and I just don't know how we'd deal with that? I don't know how to tell him, mostly because I'm not sure how he'd deal with it.
so... advice? i'm not sure that we're actually going to start any kind of relationship but if we do, i want to have an idea of how to go about it. thank you in advance, ladies
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Posted: Tue Apr 21, 2015 12:52 pm
cre8ive_ovadose My heart skips a little when we hang out and I smile when I think about him and I love his hugs and holding his hand tonight felt so perfect. We've been at this point before and I wasn't really ready for a relationship so I rebuffed him. I had a lot of things to figure out and I feel like I've made progress with that but I'm not sure. My biggest fear has always been that he's so sexual and I'm so not. I like making out and stuff but much more than that makes me uncomfortable and I just don't know how we'd deal with that? I don't know how to tell him, mostly because I'm not sure how he'd deal with it. so... advice? i'm not sure that we're actually going to start any kind of relationship but if we do, i want to have an idea of how to go about it. thank you in advance, ladies For starters... If you're going to think about being in a relationship with him he needs to know from the start that you aren't comfortable with much else other than 'making-out'.
Ultimately your comfort is the MOST important and if he makes you uncomfortable in the relationship, then it isn't a good one to be in.
So if you really want to move forward with this guy you need to be honest with him and tell him. Don't let not knowing how he'll react stop you, if you do that and you are uncomfortable then it won't put either of you in a good position.
So to summarize: be honest with him and tell him what makes you uncomfortable, and ask that he could hold off on the other stuff until you feel more comfortable (if you ever do).
If he: 1) accepts that and wants to be with you anyways then you go girl! 2) Reacts badly and can't understand your reasonings then you've dodged a serious bullet.
I wish you luck!
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2015 2:59 am
Punkyheart Kittieh cre8ive_ovadose My heart skips a little when we hang out and I smile when I think about him and I love his hugs and holding his hand tonight felt so perfect. We've been at this point before and I wasn't really ready for a relationship so I rebuffed him. I had a lot of things to figure out and I feel like I've made progress with that but I'm not sure. My biggest fear has always been that he's so sexual and I'm so not. I like making out and stuff but much more than that makes me uncomfortable and I just don't know how we'd deal with that? I don't know how to tell him, mostly because I'm not sure how he'd deal with it. so... advice? i'm not sure that we're actually going to start any kind of relationship but if we do, i want to have an idea of how to go about it. thank you in advance, ladies For starters... If you're going to think about being in a relationship with him he needs to know from the start that you aren't comfortable with much else other than 'making-out'.
Ultimately your comfort is the MOST important and if he makes you uncomfortable in the relationship, then it isn't a good one to be in.
So if you really want to move forward with this guy you need to be honest with him and tell him. Don't let not knowing how he'll react stop you, if you do that and you are uncomfortable then it won't put either of you in a good position.
So to summarize: be honest with him and tell him what makes you uncomfortable, and ask that he could hold off on the other stuff until you feel more comfortable (if you ever do).
If he: 1) accepts that and wants to be with you anyways then you go girl! 2) Reacts badly and can't understand your reasonings then you've dodged a serious bullet.
I wish you luck! Thanks for the response smile But it seems I've dodged a bullet just in waiting and thinking things through. Saw him again yesterday to find out he has probably gotten a girl pregnant. Think I'm just gonna let it slide. I don't need that kind of mess in my life...
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Posted: Wed Apr 22, 2015 5:20 pm
cre8ive_ovadose Punkyheart Kittieh cre8ive_ovadose My heart skips a little when we hang out and I smile when I think about him and I love his hugs and holding his hand tonight felt so perfect. We've been at this point before and I wasn't really ready for a relationship so I rebuffed him. I had a lot of things to figure out and I feel like I've made progress with that but I'm not sure. My biggest fear has always been that he's so sexual and I'm so not. I like making out and stuff but much more than that makes me uncomfortable and I just don't know how we'd deal with that? I don't know how to tell him, mostly because I'm not sure how he'd deal with it. so... advice? i'm not sure that we're actually going to start any kind of relationship but if we do, i want to have an idea of how to go about it. thank you in advance, ladies For starters... If you're going to think about being in a relationship with him he needs to know from the start that you aren't comfortable with much else other than 'making-out'.
Ultimately your comfort is the MOST important and if he makes you uncomfortable in the relationship, then it isn't a good one to be in.
So if you really want to move forward with this guy you need to be honest with him and tell him. Don't let not knowing how he'll react stop you, if you do that and you are uncomfortable then it won't put either of you in a good position.
So to summarize: be honest with him and tell him what makes you uncomfortable, and ask that he could hold off on the other stuff until you feel more comfortable (if you ever do).
If he: 1) accepts that and wants to be with you anyways then you go girl! 2) Reacts badly and can't understand your reasonings then you've dodged a serious bullet.
I wish you luck! Thanks for the response smile But it seems I've dodged a bullet just in waiting and thinking things through. Saw him again yesterday to find out he has probably gotten a girl pregnant. Think I'm just gonna let it slide. I don't need that kind of mess in my life... Damn that is a dodged bullet.
Sorry to hear that happened though.. I know hearing news like that can be a serious bummer.
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