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 Posted: Sat Nov 21, 2015 7:38 pm
I am. sad
I'm bisexual, and I never really allowed myself to feel it until recently. I think, to a degree, I've always known. I just never wanted to believe it. As a kid, it was more of a subtle attraction to girls, and it's just gotten stronger as I've gotten older. For years, I thought that I was confused but still straight...Or at least, mostly straight. lol
I know better now, and even though it is more socially acceptable to come out now than it used to be, I still can't bring myself to do it. I can be out here, no problem, but to my friends and family? redface It scares me, you know? Like, I'm sure my immediate family would be ok with it, but my extended family I'm not so sure of. They'd more than likely be crazy judgmental and question me about it constantly. xp I think that's what scares me the most, honestly. I don't want to be treated differently, but I know that I would be. The only person I've actually told is my sister, and that's because we're best friends as well. She's been very supportive so far, and I'm glad to have her in my life. Pretty sure my boyfriend knows, though he hasn't said anything about it. I have no idea if it bothers him or not.
As for everyone else, I feel like I should just keep it in til I get to know them better. For now, at least.
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Posted: Thu Mar 22, 2018 2:25 am
Hello. I'm not from this guild, but was curious about it and came across your post. I seem to be nearly three years late to this post, and appear to be the only comment. Unfortunate, but I was compelled to comment on this because it was like I was reading about myself, other than having a sister.
People who know me outside of college do not know that I'm bisexual either, including all of my family. I accepted that I was bisexual pretty late, so I find it difficult to tell my fiance I've been with for five years about it for fear that he will assume I cheated on him in order to discover my sexuality. Of course, that's not the case. Furthermore, I almost feel as if having a heterosexual relationship makes my sexuality not really matter. It is an unfortunate feeling. More than once has someone I knew offhandedly commented about bisexuality being silly; things like, "They just want to up their chances by 50%," or "If you're bisexual, you're still just gay." I've found that the people I know are very black and white about sexuality, so bisexuals become nothing more than a confused individual who can't pick a side of the fence. I hope you never have to feel this transparency as strongly as I do.
In short, I understand the difficulty in coming out, especially as a bisexual. I'm 22 and have not told anyone who knew me as straight. I attempt it, and back out because I don't want questions, either. I don't want to feel like I have to defend myself for being anything other than heterosexual. I just hope after these couple of years since you've posted this that you have found some peace in coming out, and if not, found some comfort in the closet where you invite only a few as I have.
Please, feel free to speak me about sexuality if you wish. Even though I don't get on Gaia as much as I used to, I would love to hear about your present circumstances. It's always nice to meet another bisexual. heart
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Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2018 8:47 am
I'm still mostly in the closet, due to my mom's family being religious and my dad being homophobic.
I've mainly been in relationships with men because I didn't realize my bisexuality until 4 years ago during my final semester of university. That would make people think I'm not really bisexual. The biphobia within the LGBT community (that seems to be pushing the B out of LGBT) hurts with coming out too. I can never go to Pride events because I have heard what happens to bisexuals there.
I also question whether I should use the term "bisexual" to identify myself because I found out last year that two of my prior romantic interests from university who are assigned female at birth now identify as non-binary and the term "bisexual" is often considered "binarist".
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Posted: Fri May 10, 2019 4:54 pm
I know this is like,,, a year late,, but I really want to make a post.
I'm not out to my family and I've known I was wasn't hetero since 2007 (I think 5th or 6th Grade, age 11/12 for non-american people), I never used the term bisexual till (oh jeez,,, I think at least since I was halfway in the relationship with my ex) 2014 at least.
When I wanted to come out to my (abusive) ex bf he assumed that I was going to cheat on him with girls I had to immediately back out from telling him this. I'm not going to out myself to my blood relatives; I also wanted to tell my family but,, my family is very anti labtqia+ and they have made it blatantly obvious that they would not support their children or family members.
I'm out to all of my friends but I have to tell them that I'm not out to my family and I will not decide to out myself out of my own safety.
I genuinely hope that others will be able to come out to their supporting families; or see this and hopefully helps them realize that you don't have to come out to your family and its okay. emotion_bigheart
If someone wants to have someone to talk to I'm always here
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