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 Posted: Tue Apr 11, 2006 8:41 pm
Ok, so there's this freshman in my guard. She's amazing, she has more talent than I could ever dream of (the chick can throw a 5 on rifle! and pretty well too! this is her first year!). The only problem is, she has absolutely no confidence. At all! She's could be so great, but she just chokes. She cuts herself down and she doesn't believe she can do anything. Instead of stepping up to the plate and just going for something, she just stays the way she is. I've tried to convince her that she is freakin awesome, but she is so stuck in this mentality that she is horrible (not just in guard, but in all aspects of her life), that I can't get through. Any suggestions? Has anyone ever gone through something like this and overcome it? How'd you do it? I don't know how to make her realize her own talent... confused
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Posted: Thu Apr 13, 2006 9:21 am
I've never had to deal with that with anyone else. {{I tend to be the one that does that. XD}}
All I really know to do is to just encourage her as much as possible.. whenever she does something right, give her a little praise.
Try telling her as many times as you can that she really is good and all she has to do is see it herself.. and that it's not to hard to see if everyone else can see it.
...or pop her upside the head with a flag and tell her to think better of herself. =D
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Posted: Tue Apr 18, 2006 4:45 pm
Work on it inside and outside of guard. Everytime she does something, even if its only remotely hard, tell her how frickin sweet she did it. Even if its just a double, say "good free hands" or something. Tell lots of stories (not just to her, but where she'll definintely hear) about how much you sucked your freshman year and how you could only do a double/couldn't even do rifle. Have other vets do this as well.
And hang out wiht her outside of guard. See a movie, hang at the mall, get some coffee, whatever. She might feel such low self-confidence b/c she doesn't feel like she has any friends. And if anyone puts her down, accidentally-on-purpose hit them with your rifle. Hard.
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Posted: Sun Apr 23, 2006 10:39 am
You can compliment her all you want, but I was in that place before. For the first half of the winter season I convinced myself I wasn't good enough for the solo I got and that I couldn't do it well. And as much as people wanted to help me and compliment me to make me believe I could do things, I wasn't able to until I finally just did it.
I had to practice hours and hours and I kept finding myself more and more discouraged. It seemed like everyone else was doing better than me and was just passing me by. I felt like it was insane because I worked harder than a lot of the people and I felt I was underachieving.
I had to finally break over the wall I set for myself to make it. No one else's compliments or comments truly helped me over the wall. They gave me a little more confidence, but I needed to believe myself, too.
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Posted: Wed Apr 26, 2006 3:48 pm
I was kind of like that my first year in Open class. I was on the rifle line because I'd begged my directer to let me be on Sabre, so he put me on rifle and sabre for the time being. I'd never spun rifle before and I was so convinced I'd never make it and he was going to boot me. Finally, I just settled down and told myself I had to do it. Since we were supposed to toss a four or five in these two lines with the flags running through us. If I didn't get it, someone was going to get stitches from me.
After that, I just got better. On the secondary rifle line, I was one of the best by the end of season.
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Posted: Tue May 09, 2006 8:53 pm
Well, the good news is that she has gotten better! She still isn't that confident in her own abilities, but she's very outgoing with the incomming freshmen and I think that having someone who looks up to her will really help how she feels about herself. Yay for freshmen! They make my life easier!....kinda >.> <.<...
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Posted: Wed Nov 29, 2006 5:06 pm
Well I don't know if anyone will see this, but I figured I would post anyways. I'm exactly like that. My head captain would tell me that I was good and I would just argue and say that I'm not. I constantly practice so I can be good, but it just doesn't seem to work. My band director told me yesterday that him and the head band director were talking about how suprised they were at how good I turned out to be. That boosted my confidence some because he didn't have to tell me that. The captains don't have to tell me that, but they could just be saying it.
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