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If you havent noticed it now, you will notice it in large cities or places were there are large gay communities that causal sex and homosexuaity seems to go hand in hand. Every were in the gay community there is sex every where. Some of us find a mate that last alot longer than most hetero relationships, but there is a large portion of gays out there (mainly men) that are just having random sex every were. Yeah yeah I know, it all over the hetero community with one-night stands and all, but it seems almost more aggresive with gay men. You go to a gay club and there is sex in the bathrooms, on the dance floor, and in every coner of the room. I couldnt even start a GSA at my school or at the surrounding schools due to the horny homosexual factor. I have seen it so bad that they just stopped asking people out on a date first. Now it just "you want to get you d**K sucked?". Mabey it is most mens over worked sex drives and having a partner with the same over runned sex drive.
Why do you think this is?
Have you ever seen this first hand?
If so what did you do about it?

discuss: Gay communities causal sex.

yeah, i was in a "relationship" like that, my boyfriend at the time was wanting to do soemthing sexual every damn time that we'd see each other, and i was looking for an actual relationship, and he was doing things to me that made very uncomfortable and didn them when i didn't want him to....i'm just glad that him and i aren't together anymore.... now, to find a boyfriend that wants the same as me ::sighs::....or rather a boyfriend in general haha

it's been a while since i've visited gaia, and things have changed since, i've met a guy that also things that sex isn't the only thing in a relationship and last week we went on a date, we we out and got something went back to his dorm, and watched some movies. that sounds like a good date to me. and i'm gonna be going on another date with him today actuallty, and hopefully it goes just as well as the first one.

casual sex thats like a joke here in good old las vegas ahhh yes. i mean casual sex isnt that hard to find here or any where in the state of nevada seeing how prostitution is legal except las vegas but our mayor is trying to re-legalize it again to lower the crime rate. but anyways casual sex isnt in gay communities all the time. if your in the city where sex and sin sells its everywhere

i have a hard time with anyone, gay, straight, male or female who does the whole casual sex thing. first of all its totally unsafe and a major risk to everyones health. second, it takes away the imprtance of sex it isnt just something you do randomly with whoever youre supposed to save it for someone special who your truly love, at least that how i feel about it. and esp. for the gay guys it gives a bad impression to the rest of society b/cause thats what many ppl view gay ppl as just abunch of guys ******** anyone we can lay our hands on....can we as mature human beings plz start showing a little more common sense? its called internet porn....make good use of it, that way you dont have to screw the first hot guy that walks by you!

Yeah, honestly, I don't see anything wrong with casual sex. If you're old enough to decide that's what you really want then you're old enough to take responsibility for your actions too. Use protection, be honest about it, and don't be a d**k to people regardless of what you're doing with them.

As for everyone who has a huge problem with it, I don't understand how you think it's something you should be judging in the first place. No offense, but that's like the rest of America telling us we can't get married. It clearly doesn't ruin the meaning of sex for the people who engage in and enjoy it, so it shouldn't ruin the meaning of sex for you, who never will engage in casual activity. Let people make meaning for themselves please. As long as it isn't physically harmful to the individual (which it's not if people play it smart) and doesn't invade anyone else's liberties, it's no skin off of your nose.

People are so quick to judge.. Honestly. Don't create doublestandards either. All humans do casual sex, not just the gay ones. You want to know why it seems like we do it more? Because society shows us that actual relationships between gay men are not respectable, acceptable, or even really possible. It's inevitable that we'll continue hooking up until the rest of the country gives us a safe space to share an actual life rather than just a few hours of our personal time. Don't blame gay men for this, if anything blame our lack of a real alternative.