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Is cheating on a boyfriend adultery?

Foxprincess09

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Posted: Sun Jun 18, 2006 5:43 pm

I have this friend who has just got dumped by her boyfriend because she cheated on him with her ex who she has a baby with and who told her to get an abortion. Now yes I will be there to help her but know she is always talking about it and being all down and calls me at night talking about it. But I want to help but I think that she got what she deserved because you do not cheat on your boyfriend. So the question is: If you cheated on your boyfriend/girlfriedn isn't that adultry?

P.S. i have not actually told her she is getting on my nerves because she is already sad enough but i am sick and tired of it. Do you think someone should take someone back after that because I do not think so.

Posted: Mon Jun 19, 2006 12:53 am

Generally speaking, it depends on the circumstances on whether it is likely to be considered adultery in the spirit of Biblical Law. Technically I'd say that if no sex was involved and they weren't married then it wouldn't be adultery. Though if the couple involved were going steady then I'd say that would be rather adulterous as well.

In this case I would say she most likely qualified as an adulteress.

As to whether I would take someone back if I caught them cheating on me, I'd say it would depend. I'm not a forgiving soul and I don't cope well with betrayal. I might be friends with them again, but I'd most likely never be lovers again.

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Posted: Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:15 am

Adultery Adultery that is a tough one. I would like to say that she hasn't commite adultary, because she is not married to the person, ( there are some old testament remarks about if you sleep with a person they become your wife/husband, and since from the sound of it she doesn't have a new covenant by accepting Jesus this wouls say she commited adultery under the old law..maybe im not sure); however I would appear that she has commit another kind of sexaul sin, and has paid the penalty for it. As for forgiving her, well as Children of GOD were suppose to be minicing GOD, and GOD is abundant in mercy therefore I would say to forgive her, and take her back but be watchful lest she pull something like that again. And Also about the whole being annoyed with her thing I would suggest to pray, and ask GOD for the strenght to not go beserk on her. surprised

Posted: Tue Jun 27, 2006 5:56 am

I'd say that if these two were committed to one another, then it would be adultery. I mean, whether you are married or not, if you are with someone and have a committed love for them, cheating on them with someone else is a type of adultery.

Well, I understand you may not agree with what your friend has done, but the results are of a bad decision she made. And it looks like she is just going to have to deal with it as best as she can. I think it would depend on her boyfriend if he takes her back, he does. But me personally, I feel once the bed has been broken the marraige or spiritual marraige is over and dead, whether it was me or my mate.

Why not talk to your friend about how this is making her feel? Encouraging her to make a decision if this is something weighing too much on her shoulders?