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 Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 2:19 pm
I have joined a support group. I went to the first meeting today. They made me stand up on front of the whole group and share my story. But i couldn't say what had happen to me. I just stood there and started to cry. The whole time I was up there i started to replay the whole thing in my head. The whole thing that happened to me. From my uncle to my dad I felt the whole thing all over again. I felt so stupid for standing there and crying. I ended up on the floor in a ball crying. They helped me up and needless to say I felt even worst when they took one look at my arm. I have no idea what I should do next. I do but I don't want to share my story. I keep thinking that I should just quit the group. Can any one help me?
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Posted: Mon May 02, 2005 4:09 pm
Heyhey dont quit..
you can or dont have to share your story..
Tell them that you dont want to share it yet....
Then depending on later you can tell your story..
You sont nessarily have to tell them, you can be part of the group and help them out till you feel its comfortable...
Or
you can write down what happened and hand it to the person in charge to read it... If you want.. Either way, you should be around ppl who know your pain.
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Posted: Thu May 05, 2005 7:16 am
I agree with Artemis. The writing it down thing is a very good idea, especially if you don't feel ready to "tell the world" what happened to you. If you wanted, in addition to going to this support group, you could see a personal counsellor at your school or work place (if it's available). At school, it's usually free (at least in Canada), I know because I am in counselling. I'm trying to join a group, but no one has called me back yet. It may not seem like it now, but the more you talk about it, the easier it will get... eventually.
Good luck, and stay strong.
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Posted: Fri Jun 03, 2005 8:33 pm
I agree with both of them i mean if you are not ready to share then dont share i mean it is you'r choice but u shouldent quit the group because of one thing i mean you are there to get help maybe if you can't say it write it down. and if you do not feel confortable saying it but want them to know pass it around it might be a little easier. and after they might understand why it was so hard to tell them but if you dont want them to know then just leave the group until u are ready.
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Posted: Tue Jun 28, 2005 11:01 pm
Telling someone what happened is very scary especially to a large group and even strangers. But telling is a big time important step in order to get the help that is needed.
I have a suggestion, try writing it out. That way if you have a hard time reading it, the leader can do it for you(eventually you will have to work on telling your story with out the paper, but I don't think it will hurt for the first couple of times). You don't have to go into a lot of details as that will come with further sessions.
Try just starting with your name and age, that you were abused whatever way you were abused, by whom and at what age. If you manage to get more out on the paper, that is awsome.
Hope it is useful for you
Take care
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