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 Posted: Tue Aug 15, 2006 5:40 pm
Okay my mom has been really controling and I know that it could be the rebellious stage of my life, but just tell me how to handle this situation.
Now I have dreams that I want to do in my life and in my career path. But my mom tells me no you can't that because it's not blah blah blah. Or she goes with the muniplitive side where she says okay, and then list reasons not to until you change your mind. Today I went to the library and checked out 2 books. One was deciphering Japenese signs and the other was french for dummies. I got these books because in my last years of college I plan on taking a trip around the world. Then when I showed them to her she said I was wasting my time and everytime I pursue things that i like she puts my stuff down saying it's just a waste of time.
Now I know that she is the parent and all, but shouldn't I be able to make my own choices in life, to an extent, so that way I can have my own future because it feels like she is trying to live through me which in a way most parents do, but i should not be living her dreams, right?
So how do I tell her to back off while being respectful because I just don't see away to do it with out being disrespectful.
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Posted: Sun Aug 20, 2006 11:33 pm
I'm sorry I didn't see this post early... I hope everything is alright by now.
Anyways, Ephesians 6:1-4 says:
"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2"Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— 3'that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.' 4Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."
Yes, it does tell us to obey our parents, but it also tells the parents not to exasperate us, but rather, "bring us up in the training and instruction of the Lord." It doesn't mean that we can be rebellious for any little thing with which they can exhasperate us. There is another verse, in 1 Timothy 5:1 saying: "Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father." It says that we should exhort an older man as if he were our father... thus, we know that we can exhort our parents.
How do we do it? In a gentle way, keeping in mind Proverbs 15:1: "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Anything you do to make her see her error, make it in a calmed, gentle way. Try to choose your words the best you can, and keep the conversation peaceful. It should help you.
(Thanks, Light, for the reminder! wink )
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daviderentxun Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Oct 22, 2007 7:30 pm
If you're a legal adult, then there isn't anything she can do to stop you. If you want to make her see the error of her ways, then just take the trip around the world, and come back and tell her all of the ways it helped you.
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