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 Posted: Wed Aug 16, 2006 11:46 pm
I like this guy at my school and he is going to be my band mate when I make a band. I want to ask him out, but I don't know if I should. If I do, but we break up, we might not be in our band. Help, please?
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Posted: Thu Aug 31, 2006 9:30 pm
That one is a bit of a toughy.
Keep in mind that you are the one that controles if things get alkward or not. If you don't act alkward around him after a break-up (or whatever) 9 times out of 10 the male will follow your lead.
So, what I would do in a situation like this is let him make the move. Be nice to him, make it a point to talk to him, laugh at his jokes and basicaly flirt like crazy. Let him know your interested by makeing physical contact and holding it just a moment longer than nessisary. Touch his arm when you talk and look him in the eyes when you talk to him (not so that your giving him a creepy stair but make sure that he knows he has your full attention).
If he dose nothing to the point where you get fed-up, try bringing up relationships in a conversation. If there is another girl and guy in the group you could mention that they would look cute together (if there personalies clash say thats why they would never get together). Pause then ask how you think that would affect the group. This will get his opion on the matter of iner-band dateing.
If all else fails make plans to do somthing with him outside of band and school, when arangents are all made say "Its a date!" He will be forsed to ither smile broadly and agree or panic and be all "Not like that!" If he reacts in the latter way laugh at him and tell him it was a joke.
Good luck!
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Posted: Fri Sep 01, 2006 6:04 am
Wow, well put L.
But then again, you might just be making this a bigger problem than it should be.
In my expirience, I have found that the easiest way to do it is to just ask. Guys like forwardness. Many (including myself on several occasions) are unable to pick up on the subtleties girls send them. You could throw hints the size of consumer cars at them, and they will remain blissfully unaware.
Don't let that frustrate you, however. The best thing by far is to simply ask. What's the worst that he could say? "No"?
And whether he rejects you or you break up, Like L said, it'll only be akward if you want it to be.
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Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:49 pm
Lokis_SongBird That one is a bit of a toughy. Keep in mind that you are the one that controles if things get alkward or not. If you don't act alkward around him after a break-up (or whatever) 9 times out of 10 the male will follow your lead. So, what I would do in a situation like this is let him make the move. Be nice to him, make it a point to talk to him, laugh at his jokes and basicaly flirt like crazy. Let him know your interested by makeing physical contact and holding it just a moment longer than nessisary. Touch his arm when you talk and look him in the eyes when you talk to him (not so that your giving him a creepy stair but make sure that he knows he has your full attention). If he dose nothing to the point where you get fed-up, try bringing up relationships in a conversation. If there is another girl and guy in the group you could mention that they would look cute together (if there personalies clash say thats why they would never get together). Pause then ask how you think that would affect the group. This will get his opion on the matter of iner-band dateing. If all else fails make plans to do somthing with him outside of band and school, when arangents are all made say "Its a date!" He will be forsed to ither smile broadly and agree or panic and be all "Not like that!" If he reacts in the latter way laugh at him and tell him it was a joke. Good luck! Well, I really don't see him much. The only time is mainly during lunch. But I do talk to him through MySpace. But here's the weird part. He used to be afriad of me last year and called me Vampire (but I don't mind vampire), then he called me a porn star, Dracula's b***h, other things like that. And, me and that guy are the only ones. We only have us because we are just barely to get into musci a lot and getting into thinking of careers. So, we're the only ones. I'll do the arrangements thing because we might go to signings together (I go a lot and he's just coming along). Thanks!
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Posted: Mon Sep 04, 2006 11:52 pm
BoondockSaint16 Wow, well put L. But then again, you might just be making this a bigger problem than it should be. In my expirience, I have found that the easiest way to do it is to just ask. Guys like forwardness. Many (including myself on several occasions) are unable to pick up on the subtleties girls send them. You could throw hints the size of consumer cars at them, and they will remain blissfully unaware. Don't let that frustrate you, however. The best thing by far is to simply ask. What's the worst that he could say? "No"? And whether he rejects you or you break up, Like L said, it'll only be akward if you want it to be. Well, I'm just a little scared of asking that type of things. When I liked this other guy last year, I never asked about him liking me. My friends always did. So, will it be easier to have my friends do that again? (But I didn't tell them to. They did it uncontrollably.)
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Posted: Wed Sep 20, 2006 4:57 pm
All I can tell you is that I have a friend who dated a guy for a few months, the broke up, and he was in her band for a while After they did. (he isn't anymore cause he went to holland) Really you shouldn't worry, as long as no one does anything extremely irreversible you should be okay.
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Posted: Wed Sep 20, 2006 9:28 pm
If you afre confident he likes you, then yes. If your not so sure wait and see if he makes a move. Just remember guys are more scarred of you then you are of them.
Sylvie 4laugh
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Posted: Sat Sep 23, 2006 9:48 pm
Okay, he already started a band, so I'm thinking he forgot wbout him making a band with me. And, he is afraid of me again (he is running away again). But, I'm trying to be his friend again, but he wont listen to me at all. Now I need help with that.
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