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It's alright there, FatherJerry. We are here for you. That is our purpose and life-goal at Group Hug. We are there for you.

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Now onto your dilemna(s):

The giving of your virginity is a very serious thing, as you know. You will remember her forever. She will remember you forever. Perhaps you loved her then, I don't know. Perhaps you will love her in the future, I don't know. You don't know. Nobody knows. The future is a brilliant, yet dark, confusing thing. We know nothing of what will happen ten years, ten days, or even ten minutes from now. It depends on your faith-system, but the future is in the hands of the Divine(most faith-systems).

In terms of your Ex-Girlfriend-turned-Lesbian, I don't know what to say. I am not very skilled in the field of Homosexual-Relations, so I am sorry that I can not offer anything other than the latin proverb 'Amore vincent omnia'[Love conquers all].

Now to the dark portion of your dilemna(s). Incest. Other than it being against the civil law, it is usually against most faith-based laws as well. It all depends on your faith-system, again, on how you view this. Or how she views it as the case is.

We are not here to judge, so I will not in terms of her secret. I am here to help you. There are dozens of other ways to go about this problem. The easiest(and by far, the cheapest) way to go about this is to talk to a cleric. As I'm sure some people have realized I offer this advice the most, a cleric can help.

I know not if you are affiliated with any Church, Synagouge, Mosque, Temple, etc. but a Pastor/Rabbi/Cleric/Etc. would be the best way to go about getting help. They are all trained to counsel.

If you are unfamilier with a cleric, then perhaps you may not want to go. Go to somebody you are comfortable talking to. A teacher, a friend, a grandparent, I don't know who you feel comfortable with. Usually the older you go, the most experience/wisdom the have to offer. Again, Jewish Rabbis have been the wisest in my ventures on this terrestrial realm.

I am sorry if I have not been of much help. It is late. Please do, however, feel free to contact me whenever you need to.

God be with you,

Saint Cody

M'kay. So basically, what was her response when you said that you loved her?

And, if it wasn't positive, I don't know. It's always good to have someone to vent your problems to, and it sounds like she really trusts you, but just doesn't want to be in a relationship.

You got over your first girlfriend, however, by moving onto a new relationship. So, what I could suggest is finding a new love (has horrid as that sounds). I know you love this chick and all, but love isn't a once-in-a-lifetime-thing.

I mean, your situation sounds almost identical in a mixed up puzzle of mine and my ex's.

But, that thing with her hating you? Eh. I think she maybe just got kind of restricted, or something. You never know. But, most likely, it was an on-the-dot thing. I don't know.

When it comes to her secrets though? Hey! We all have our skeletons in the closet. I mean, hell. That ain't near as bad as others' secrets (I could name a few. *Snicker.*). And I know they're quite odd, though, and you really want to deal away with everyone who's ever hurt her, but you can't do that. I mean, she's made it this far along before she knew you, right? I think she can go the last nine miles (so to speak) still holding 'em up.

Overall, however, I'd still put yourself out on the market. ninja Who knows? Maybe you'll find an even greater love that the previous girly you had. o: