M'kay. There's this girl--Melanie. Y'know, she's the type of girl that seems like a mom to me. Well; not to me personally, but she acts like it. She cares too much about everyone, loves too much, can't 'just let go', and is paranoid 'bout everyone--which is annoying at times, but she really does care. I think this last attribute is why most people are driven away (but I don't see why--it's kind of like kids hating their parents when they won't let them do something stupid, or something). And so. This chica introduced me to this guy Josh, ya'? He's a really cool kid--he talks a bit too much (like me), and is a pretty light-hearted guy; also, what most people would find to be one of those 'guy's next door', except he's a bit more funny (the undertones of all he says have a bit of a joke in them, i.e., him suggesting 'Aw; you were in the shower? Why wasn't I invited?', and looks like a total emo kid. ... Well, anyways. Melanie liked this guy, ja'? Well, he didn't really like her back. And problems ensued.
These problems only got worse and worse, considering the fact that Josh and I clicked pretty fast, and came good friends. Nothing more, granted--just friends (in my eyes, at least; gods know what he was thinking). Now. Melanie started to assume that we were madly in love with eachother or something--this was her paranoid side kicking in. Personally, I just had to tell her quite plainly that I didn't like him, and I wouldn't go out with him. But, those two...They had become 'friends with benefits', apparently. But, Melanie wanted to be a bit more than friends. So. Basically? Melanie felt like s**t, and she made Josh feel that way, too. I don't know if Melanie did it on purpose or not--I don't think Josh meant to make Melanie feel so bad, however. He seems to not really care for all this 'drama' stuff, and couldn't read Melanie until Mel started to call him up and either cry into the phone or scream into it. I don't think she really knew which to do.
And thus? Laeluu became the rope in a tug-o-war game. Josh began to like me (or so I am led to believe), Melanie had always clung since we'd started talking, and yet--even more chaos ensued! For once, I had to listen to both sides of the story. I had to hear how it was affecting both of them--my conclusion? Well, quite simply, that no conclusion could be reached. I really didn't know what to do. Melanie was venting to me, and Josh had begun to complain (I don't blame either, really), and it was all one big mess. Then, one day, Melanie kind of went off on me for critiquing one of her musical pieces. I know she overreacted, but still. I can see why she did get upset--she doesn't think very highly of herself, and just feels the need for someone to tell her that she isn't always the bad guy, and that she isn't a bad person. She really isn't. She just somehow is a drama-magnet. Or rather, she just wants all the love that she gives, given back. End conclusion? I blocked her on AIM. She called me this morning (and I really didn't obtain anything she said--it's quite early for me, considering when I went to bed). And well...Hn.
Anyways. I've found something out. But, this doesn't change how I think any of you should give advice. Here at Group Hug, we want to make OUR people feel better; the ones that come to us. For every problem, we have to take sides, and pick the one that would do OUR 'friend' the best good. But, we ignore the other side of things. I know all the things I read here are somehow leaning towards one party being innocent, the other guilty. This is quite obvious. But, all I care about in any of my advices is NOT the 'best' solution, but the one that will make them feel better, and be able to think things through more logically. This problem that I was dragged into had two fatal flaws, considering my part. One: I had to think about both sides of the party when giving advice. This was a total b***h. And, well, there is no two. Just because I think number one is important enough.
Well, anyways, I think I know what to do. Maybe I'll just be friends with both of them, but ignore the fact that THEY're friends. Sticky situation, but eh. I don't know.
I mean, okay. The thing with me is that I know how I function (and quite well, actually). Also, I can always look and see things quite logically through the computer screen, and give advice (or at least at Group Hug, and everyone ELSE through IM.). But, when it comes to my actual life, I don't have that much drama, in my opinion. So many people might wonder why I wouldn't post on here, when my dad's a crack-head, my mom's an alchoholic/weed-smoker, my brother (4.7 GPA) ends up going to community college (and royally screwing himself), we don't have a house/money, everyone around me being a bigoted ********, and all this other s**t goes down, too. Really, in the end? I don't care too much about it all. I don't see that as drama, to me. I mean, it's stressful and aggrivating, but I don't care about it too much. I care even more about my friends being on vacation, so I feel worthless, and like I can't just call anyone for the hell of it and talk (IE, friends Colin and Bryan [both ex-boyfriends, wtf?]). So really, I don't have to deal with alot of emotional 'drama' in my life. The things I do, well--the answers are quite clear.
But, this is just an utter mess. I already said what I should do earlier, and I really think that'd be a right way to go. And alot of you may be thinking, wtf? Because I'm not asking for advice. Well, I think I'm creating this to really show to Melanie. Yeah--she'll be somewhat frustraited that I announced all this over the internet. But, so be it! Blah.
If any of you post, please give it alot of thought, and don't just tell me it's going to be okay. If you do, I'll rain my god-like-powers down on your post and delete yo' a** from the topic, ho-yes. o: Anyone can post advice or commentary or whatever, too. And don't be afraid to be quite blunt. :] <3 I never was one for sugar-coating, even if it meant myself being degraded.
And. ... Uhn. Lastly, I have one thing to say, because I'm pretty sure I'll be sending this to Melanie:
Melanie, I didn't hate your song at all. I actually liked it because it reminded me of Earthbound music; I hadn't gotten the chance to say that. ... Also? Being a total mom isn't a bad thing. XP I just feel sorry for your ACTUAL kids, when you have them, hahaaa. <3
These problems only got worse and worse, considering the fact that Josh and I clicked pretty fast, and came good friends. Nothing more, granted--just friends (in my eyes, at least; gods know what he was thinking). Now. Melanie started to assume that we were madly in love with eachother or something--this was her paranoid side kicking in. Personally, I just had to tell her quite plainly that I didn't like him, and I wouldn't go out with him. But, those two...They had become 'friends with benefits', apparently. But, Melanie wanted to be a bit more than friends. So. Basically? Melanie felt like s**t, and she made Josh feel that way, too. I don't know if Melanie did it on purpose or not--I don't think Josh meant to make Melanie feel so bad, however. He seems to not really care for all this 'drama' stuff, and couldn't read Melanie until Mel started to call him up and either cry into the phone or scream into it. I don't think she really knew which to do.
And thus? Laeluu became the rope in a tug-o-war game. Josh began to like me (or so I am led to believe), Melanie had always clung since we'd started talking, and yet--even more chaos ensued! For once, I had to listen to both sides of the story. I had to hear how it was affecting both of them--my conclusion? Well, quite simply, that no conclusion could be reached. I really didn't know what to do. Melanie was venting to me, and Josh had begun to complain (I don't blame either, really), and it was all one big mess. Then, one day, Melanie kind of went off on me for critiquing one of her musical pieces. I know she overreacted, but still. I can see why she did get upset--she doesn't think very highly of herself, and just feels the need for someone to tell her that she isn't always the bad guy, and that she isn't a bad person. She really isn't. She just somehow is a drama-magnet. Or rather, she just wants all the love that she gives, given back. End conclusion? I blocked her on AIM. She called me this morning (and I really didn't obtain anything she said--it's quite early for me, considering when I went to bed). And well...Hn.
Anyways. I've found something out. But, this doesn't change how I think any of you should give advice. Here at Group Hug, we want to make OUR people feel better; the ones that come to us. For every problem, we have to take sides, and pick the one that would do OUR 'friend' the best good. But, we ignore the other side of things. I know all the things I read here are somehow leaning towards one party being innocent, the other guilty. This is quite obvious. But, all I care about in any of my advices is NOT the 'best' solution, but the one that will make them feel better, and be able to think things through more logically. This problem that I was dragged into had two fatal flaws, considering my part. One: I had to think about both sides of the party when giving advice. This was a total b***h. And, well, there is no two. Just because I think number one is important enough.
Well, anyways, I think I know what to do. Maybe I'll just be friends with both of them, but ignore the fact that THEY're friends. Sticky situation, but eh. I don't know.
I mean, okay. The thing with me is that I know how I function (and quite well, actually). Also, I can always look and see things quite logically through the computer screen, and give advice (or at least at Group Hug, and everyone ELSE through IM.). But, when it comes to my actual life, I don't have that much drama, in my opinion. So many people might wonder why I wouldn't post on here, when my dad's a crack-head, my mom's an alchoholic/weed-smoker, my brother (4.7 GPA) ends up going to community college (and royally screwing himself), we don't have a house/money, everyone around me being a bigoted ********, and all this other s**t goes down, too. Really, in the end? I don't care too much about it all. I don't see that as drama, to me. I mean, it's stressful and aggrivating, but I don't care about it too much. I care even more about my friends being on vacation, so I feel worthless, and like I can't just call anyone for the hell of it and talk (IE, friends Colin and Bryan [both ex-boyfriends, wtf?]). So really, I don't have to deal with alot of emotional 'drama' in my life. The things I do, well--the answers are quite clear.
But, this is just an utter mess. I already said what I should do earlier, and I really think that'd be a right way to go. And alot of you may be thinking, wtf? Because I'm not asking for advice. Well, I think I'm creating this to really show to Melanie. Yeah--she'll be somewhat frustraited that I announced all this over the internet. But, so be it! Blah.
If any of you post, please give it alot of thought, and don't just tell me it's going to be okay. If you do, I'll rain my god-like-powers down on your post and delete yo' a** from the topic, ho-yes. o: Anyone can post advice or commentary or whatever, too. And don't be afraid to be quite blunt. :] <3 I never was one for sugar-coating, even if it meant myself being degraded.
And. ... Uhn. Lastly, I have one thing to say, because I'm pretty sure I'll be sending this to Melanie:
Melanie, I didn't hate your song at all. I actually liked it because it reminded me of Earthbound music; I hadn't gotten the chance to say that. ... Also? Being a total mom isn't a bad thing. XP I just feel sorry for your ACTUAL kids, when you have them, hahaaa. <3
