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 Posted: Mon Sep 25, 2006 5:30 pm
Dear Fellow Gaians,
I've been a Gaian for a good long time, and I come to you for a word of advice. Actually, several words would be helpful. My sister's friends started an art auction on another forum site called "Gaia Online." My sister wanted to join them in this auction, but art has never been her main focus. So, in an effort to catch up to her two friends, she began practicing her drawing skills almost everyday, getting tips from the internet, books, and other artists. She improved greatly, for I watched her drawings steadily improve. Until one day, after a meeting with one of her artistic friends, she suddenly had a breakdown. She proclaimed herself a failure at drawing even the simplest of characters. She said she only wished for someone to tell her art is supposed to be done, like an instruction manuel to creativity. I tried to explain to her that it takes years to get a person's style to where it is most desirable. Instead of taking this in, she promptly tore her sketches asunder, and said that she would never be an artist. This all happened in less than a month.
I know this sounds like a typical teen melodrama, but this is my little sister, and I really don't know how to explain to her that art skills take years to master; not three weeks. How can I tell her this in a way she will accept, or even listen to?
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Posted: Tue Sep 26, 2006 3:09 pm
There really isn't much to say that you already haven't. My skill still isn't where I want it to be and I've been drawing all my life.
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:41 pm
Does she really expects to be the greatest artist just by a few weeks?
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 1:48 pm
I like to draw. I've drawn for 5 years and I like how my drawing skills improve but I could tell I still need more practice.
Sometimes to help me improve my drawings is to look at other peoples drawing. And I always says to my self "imaging; me drawing like him. I can't wait to be that good."
I'm surprise that your sister tored her sketchbook like that. She needs to save her old drawing. Just to see how much she has improve.
Why don't you tell her to just try again and date the drawing and that way she can look back on her drawings and realize how much she has improve. Your sister will be like "WOW".
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Posted: Wed Sep 27, 2006 3:20 pm
Hmm, quite the conundrum.
Just tell her that she's getting a lot better
but it takes years of practice (like you already said)
Everything worthwhile takes time
otherwise it's not really that great of an accomplishment.
Or some such moral nonsense.
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 3:28 pm
#1mewmewgirl Does she really expects to be the greatest artist just by a few weeks? I think her major flip-out would answer that gonk
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 3:30 pm
#1mewmewgirl I like to draw. I've drawn for 5 years and I like how my drawing skills improve but I could tell I still need more practice. Sometimes to help me improve my drawings is to look at other peoples drawing. And I always says to my self "imaging; me drawing like him. I can't wait to be that good." I'm surprise that your sister tored her sketchbook like that. She needs to save her old drawing. Just to see how much she has improve. Why don't you tell her to just try again and date the drawing and that way she can look back on her drawings and realize how much she has improve. Your sister will be like "WOW". I tried to tell it takes a long time, but she won't take that as an answer crying
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 3:32 pm
Snuggle Slut Hmm, quite the conundrum.
Just tell her that she's getting a lot better
but it takes years of practice (like you already said)
Everything worthwhile takes time
otherwise it's not really that great of an accomplishment.
Or some such moral nonsense. Good answer 3nodding
But how do I get her to listen? crying
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 3:49 pm
sweatdrop If she wont listen just stop paying attention to her. Tell her to enroll in an art class and her skills will improve.
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Posted: Thu Sep 28, 2006 4:17 pm
Mehina Snuggle Slut Hmm, quite the conundrum.
Just tell her that she's getting a lot better
but it takes years of practice (like you already said)
Everything worthwhile takes time
otherwise it's not really that great of an accomplishment.
Or some such moral nonsense. Good answer 3nodding
But how do I get her to listen? crying Sit on her until she listens.
Bwahaha! Having the air crushed from your lungs
makes you wanna listen really quick
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Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2006 4:15 pm
Snuggle Slut Mehina Snuggle Slut Hmm, quite the conundrum.
Just tell her that she's getting a lot better
but it takes years of practice (like you already said)
Everything worthwhile takes time
otherwise it's not really that great of an accomplishment.
Or some such moral nonsense. Good answer 3nodding
But how do I get her to listen? crying Sit on her until she listens.
Bwahaha! Having the air crushed from your lungs
makes you wanna listen really quick True xd
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 7:32 am
Mehina Dear Fellow Gaians,
I've been a Gaian for a good long time, and I come to you for a word of advice. Actually, several words would be helpful. My sister's friends started an art auction on another forum site called "Gaia Online." My sister wanted to join them in this auction, but art has never been her main focus. So, in an effort to catch up to her two friends, she began practicing her drawing skills almost everyday, getting tips from the internet, books, and other artists. She improved greatly, for I watched her drawings steadily improve. Until one day, after a meeting with one of her artistic friends, she suddenly had a breakdown. She proclaimed herself a failure at drawing even the simplest of characters. She said she only wished for someone to tell her art is supposed to be done, like an instruction manuel to creativity. I tried to explain to her that it takes years to get a person's style to where it is most desirable. Instead of taking this in, she promptly tore her sketches asunder, and said that she would never be an artist. This all happened in less than a month.
I know this sounds like a typical teen melodrama, but this is my little sister, and I really don't know how to explain to her that art skills take years to master; not three weeks. How can I tell her this in a way she will accept, or even listen to? i think she did the right thing thus proving to herself that she cant do anything...
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Posted: Fri Feb 16, 2007 6:01 am
arucard665+1 Mehina Dear Fellow Gaians,
I've been a Gaian for a good long time, and I come to you for a word of advice. Actually, several words would be helpful. My sister's friends started an art auction on another forum site called "Gaia Online." My sister wanted to join them in this auction, but art has never been her main focus. So, in an effort to catch up to her two friends, she began practicing her drawing skills almost everyday, getting tips from the internet, books, and other artists. She improved greatly, for I watched her drawings steadily improve. Until one day, after a meeting with one of her artistic friends, she suddenly had a breakdown. She proclaimed herself a failure at drawing even the simplest of characters. She said she only wished for someone to tell her art is supposed to be done, like an instruction manuel to creativity. I tried to explain to her that it takes years to get a person's style to where it is most desirable. Instead of taking this in, she promptly tore her sketches asunder, and said that she would never be an artist. This all happened in less than a month.
I know this sounds like a typical teen melodrama, but this is my little sister, and I really don't know how to explain to her that art skills take years to master; not three weeks. How can I tell her this in a way she will accept, or even listen to? i think she did the right thing thus proving to herself that she cant do anything... I want to help my sister,
not make her feel like s**t!
D;
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Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 4:35 pm
I don't know, I'm horrible at confidence-building talks. Hell, during one of my depressive bouts, I tried to cheer up my best friend and basically apologized for keeping her from killing herself years ago.
Though I must say, if you're sister's only getting into art because her friends are, then I'd advise she not draw at all. If it's not something she really wants to do, something she has any passion for, then it'll more be work than anything so she won't enjoy it and she'll never improve as much as she'd like. Someone once told me the hardest goals to achieve are the ones others set for you. Though I'd tell her if she really likes drawing, and if she is then she has to keep it up. If she improved that much in such a short time, I'd say she's definately got some potential, but it's up to her whether she wants to keep it up.
No saying she'll actually listen to it, but that's my two cents. I firmly believe that if a person thinks a certain thing of themselves, then it's true to them no matter if it's really true or not. Nobody's mind can be changed if they're not open to it. Wow that sounds very hippie-ish.
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Posted: Wed Feb 28, 2007 5:55 pm
Dez_Draven I don't know, I'm horrible at confidence-building talks. Hell, during one of my depressive bouts, I tried to cheer up my best friend and basically apologized for keeping her from killing herself years ago. Though I must say, if you're sister's only getting into art because her friends are, then I'd advise she not draw at all. If it's not something she really wants to do, something she has any passion for, then it'll more be work than anything so she won't enjoy it and she'll never improve as much as she'd like. Someone once told me the hardest goals to achieve are the ones others set for you. Though I'd tell her if she really likes drawing, and if she is then she has to keep it up. If she improved that much in such a short time, I'd say she's definately got some potential, but it's up to her whether she wants to keep it up. No saying she'll actually listen to it, but that's my two cents. I firmly believe that if a person thinks a certain thing of themselves, then it's true to them no matter if it's really true or not. Nobody's mind can be changed if they're not open to it. Wow that sounds very hippie-ish. Nah, that's not hippy,
that's very wise.
xd
And, thank you very much.
You give wonderful advice.
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