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I recently heard allegations by the religious right that gay people really don't want to get married, that we only want to fight for it for ideological purposes. Personally for me I do want to get married one day, what about you?

I personally support gay marriage purely for ideological purposes. I'm don't support marriage, and I plan not to get married for various reasons. Any marriage that I could get behind would be less a marriage than simply a big and ongoing party about love, and you can have those right now anyway, regardless of what gender, sex, species you and your partner are.

HOWEVER, despite my personal views on marriage, I also believe in the universal right to do stupid things. So although I'm not really assimilated into the whole gay marriage fanfare, which is really on many levels something perpetuated by upper-middle-class gays (and lesbians) who regard a civil right to marriage as the last step towards "full citizenship" more than anything else and therefore cast gay marriage as the penultimate issue facing GLBTQI folks even though it isn't, I still support gay marriage on the principle that excluding any group from the financial and even spiritual benefits afforded one by marriage is an act of discrimination.

"Any group," of course, includes not only the GLBTI community, but also consensual unions between queers of all identities, nonabusive practitioners of bestiality, ephebophiles (although consent becomes an issue with *****), polygamists ... ********, if you want to marry your television, I'm down with that. At this level, obviously, I'm no longer supporting a traditional definition of marriage so much as, well, an ongoing party about love. And that is exactly what I like.