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 Posted: Wed Oct 18, 2006 11:23 pm
I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years now. We want to get married, but we are waiting to finish college (we're both university students). However, lately she's been on this kick of wanting to get pregnant and have a child together. I suppose I don't have a problem with it, but I'm worried that pregnancy may not be all she wants it to be. Also, we've never had sex- she's always said that she wanted to wait until we were married to have sex (which to be honest bums me out, but oh well) so I am very confused as to where this baby thing came from. Could anyone give me some advice as to what to do with this situation?
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:04 pm
If I'm not mistaken, its a thing that most woman experience when their horomones are in the right place. I don't mean that liek I would a PMS joke, I think its true. Kinda like a biological clock. It'll pass, and then come and go.
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Posted: Mon Oct 30, 2006 6:52 am
She's not fully considering the concequences. There are times when I sit and think how I would love to have a child right now. Move in with my boyfriend, have a child, go to school and live in a magical wonderful world.
That being said, then I think about the fact it just wouldn't be possible. I'm in universtiy right now, he's going to be starting college in February (he was in university and then decided he was better suited to a college course and so he's going to be working full time until he can get in).
Same with you and your girlfriend. Where would you raise a child? You can't live in residence and raise a child, your parents probably wouldn't apprieciate you living at home and raising a child. Who would take care of the child? If it's not you or your girlfriend, how would you pay them? How are you going to buy say, diapers, or a high chair, or clothes (because they need new clothes about once a month for the first year) or food, or wipes, or toys etc. If you're living in an apartment how are you going to pay rent, utilities, food and all the other stuff associated with living on your own? You can't have a job, go to university AND raise a child.
Girls just sometimes have moments where their maternal instinct kicks in. They want a baby and they want one now. I know I've been there, I know there have been times when I've been like "you know, if I would pregnant right now I probably wouldn't mind." and then I have to stop and think about EVERYTHING that that would imply. Once I've done that I'm not so keen on the idea that I might have a child that I have to deal with.
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Posted: Thu Nov 23, 2006 9:01 am
Beware the Jabberwock She's not fully considering the concequences. There are times when I sit and think how I would love to have a child right now. Move in with my boyfriend, have a child, go to school and live in a magical wonderful world.
That being said, then I think about the fact it just wouldn't be possible. I'm in universtiy right now, he's going to be starting college in February (he was in university and then decided he was better suited to a college course and so he's going to be working full time until he can get in).
Same with you and your girlfriend. Where would you raise a child? You can't live in residence and raise a child, your parents probably wouldn't apprieciate you living at home and raising a child. Who would take care of the child? If it's not you or your girlfriend, how would you pay them? How are you going to buy say, diapers, or a high chair, or clothes (because they need new clothes about once a month for the first year) or food, or wipes, or toys etc. If you're living in an apartment how are you going to pay rent, utilities, food and all the other stuff associated with living on your own? You can't have a job, go to university AND raise a child.
Girls just sometimes have moments where their maternal instinct kicks in. They want a baby and they want one now. I know I've been there, I know there have been times when I've been like "you know, if I would pregnant right now I probably wouldn't mind." and then I have to stop and think about EVERYTHING that that would imply. Once I've done that I'm not so keen on the idea that I might have a child that I have to deal with. There is one other pluss to being pregnet for you. Instead of regular naked forest dancing, you could do naked PREGGERS forest dancing.
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Posted: Sun Dec 03, 2006 7:56 pm
Tell her how you honestly feel. If you "suppose" it wouldnt bother you to have a child to me that sounds like "I am unsure". If both parties in the situation arent ready then the child will be the one paying the consequences (sorry not a super speller here).
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Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 7:15 pm
Trust me! It's better to wait. I'm a mother of two and I'm only 21. I graduated eight months pregnant and school was the last thing on my mind most of the time, because for some reason, if something can go wrong financially, it will. Especially if you're still a student, I had to quit my job at six months pregnant due to toxcemia and a bad back injury... trust me WAIT!
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 5:23 pm
It's natural for women to want to have a child at a certian age. It's also directly due to hormones and instinct. Don't worry too much about it and make sure you share your feelings with her too.
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Posted: Wed May 02, 2007 7:11 pm
I agree with sugarrocks and tiger of fire. Its more her body wanting to have children. I had this serious urge last year and I did not really want to have a child, I just wanted to be pregnant I think. I talked to all my girlfriends and most of them were feeling the exact same way and we were all 21. I know for me it has passed, but every now and then I consider it.
I think you should support her. never tell her that you dont want kid. but explain to her the benefits of waiting and that you will be waiting with her. I think that is best.
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Posted: Thu May 03, 2007 7:26 am
It all depends. You can still raise a child when your in college. They even pay for your college when you are a single mother with a child. I'm in college and everything is going fine. They pay for my babysitting and my tuition! Just make sure your ready for a life long commitment. I'm only 20 and I have two kids. I love being a mother. I was ready for children. Money can be a problem sometimes, but I still get by. Yeah, work may be hard to squeeze into, but if your strong and think your mentally able to, go for it! Just dont do it for all the wrong reasons like most people do.
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