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 Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 11:18 am
I want to know what everyone would say about this or if you have any advice for me. That and the mule is obsessing over people posting so Yeah =3
My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years now. We live in different states though, and yes we have met and get along spendidly. There's only one state in between us.
I was going to go for a visit to see him for a month, and take my dog and cat, since his brother was coming to get me.
But I have no way of coming back because the buses etc won't allow animals and my dog is dependent on me. When I'm not around she won't eat and will starve herself to death. She was really abused and neglected before I got her.
That really isn't the problem, because we figure that things would work out and we talked it through and examined every little detail imaginable.
The problem is my family is going to disown me if I go, and if I stay, well...I'm never going to be happy. So what should I do? Should I just move anyway and take all I can carry and hope for the best and have my family disown me? Or just stay here and let them win so I can die alone and depressed because I gave up on my chance for love?
Btw I'm 21 and no, we weren't planning on getting married soon or kids. One step at a time.
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 11:27 am
Well, why are they so angry about you going?.. you are 21 for shits sake!. . they need to grow up and realize you have grown up!..
If I was you, I would probably get some money together, talk to your bf about you moving in their. . get all your stuff settled, then just go. .
I mean, it is a major possibility your family is just tweeking out and making a false threat to try to keep you their. .
have you also considered him coming down their maybe for a week or so to visit you?. . then maybe he could talk to your family and get them to not hate him so much. .
well, good luck with that. . just try to talk to him and explore options, and ask yourself where you wanna be in the future. . where you want your life to go, and what really matters to you. . only you can really decide that. .
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 4:51 pm
Thank you but they won't let him visit and I don't think he would have quite enough to spend a week in a hotel or something like that. That gets so expensive!
And you are giving me the same answer everyone else is. Just go and they'll get over it, or won't, I'm just scared that they won't but somewhere inside I know they will...
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 5:15 pm
I would say, talk to your family and why are they so upset over this matter. Perhaps work out a deal with them. No matter how old you are, in your parent eyes you still a 3 years old. Perhaps, a one day visit? Camp outside XD;; and I am not obesses having people post. Just that people complain to me that they aren't posting because no one else post rolleyes
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 5:27 pm
they're not expecting you to actually go. so go. stay for a month, dont tell anyone you'll ever be back. see what that does to their disposition.
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 7:19 pm
Fantasy_Magick777 they're not expecting you to actually go. so go. stay for a month, dont tell anyone you'll ever be back. see what that does to their disposition. They said they'd disown me..
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Posted: Thu Nov 09, 2006 10:36 pm
How strict or tradition is your family?
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 7:28 am
Narekala How strict or tradition is your family? Really strict. And really racist. They tell me I'm evil and dirty and ignorant for leaving when I keep trying to tell them I'm not running away and that I can visit. And it doesn't help that my boyfriend is mexican...They just call him endless names and say he's worthless and gay etc. It isn't true but they make themselves believe it is.
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 11:16 am
i know hard that desicion is. i had that thing on my mind before my boyfriend chose to leve me and give himself of dark magic to take his revenge on someone. whatever.
i wanted to be with him and only thing i could do was changing my school. my family was happy because i was lving with them. also my father is ill, he had heart attack twice so i'm just so scared and i want to be with him on his last years (i dont know how much time he has left). whatever.
so i had to chose one way. before i could choose he went away. sad ._. whatever.
well, all i can say is i really don't think they'll just leave you. they can feel bad and sad and get angry for some time, weeks maybe months maybe years but you're their child and i'm sure they can't do without you. if i was in your situation i'd just leave.
lots of love and good luck.
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 11:36 am
They are your familly and you love them... but if they are racist and all that, I woudn't be to overly conserned about keeping them around. I stopped talking to the vast majority of my fathers familly when My mother remarried because they kept making raicial slurs on my step father and half brother...Juan (my SD) happens to be Mexican as well.
My Dad (I don't consider the birth one as my real dad.)is one of the greates people I've ever met, and the world would be a much sadder place for me with out my youngest sibling.
So you see, while losing touch with your familly might hurt.. you never know what there is to gain.
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 1:03 pm
Thank you all so much. We're going to wait until April so that we have more things settled, and then I am going to leave weither they have gotten over it by then or not.
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 7:52 pm
I wish you the best of luck ^_^
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 8:05 pm
TheOneTheyKnowAsSorrow88 Fantasy_Magick777 they're not expecting you to actually go. so go. stay for a month, dont tell anyone you'll ever be back. see what that does to their disposition. They said they'd disown me..
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Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2006 12:59 am
time is usually cure for everything.
i wish you luck ^^
hope things get better :3
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Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2006 6:45 am
Thank you everyone you are extremely kind =)
I hope in time all of you can become my friends too, because I could use this much friends lol rofl
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