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There are a variety of differant types of guys. Some are complicated and some are not. But they all have some things in common. One major thing is how they let a girl know he is interested.


...anyone want to know more?

I agree with the first question, and I just had to say that the line "like I'm a piece of meat" made me laugh, just because it's so true of guys blaugh

It is...but still I have to give credit to guys who try to break the cycle. The ones that actually try to get more than just physically involved you know what I mean question

I want relationships but they only want relations rofl

That's... disturbing... I have 3 younger brothers, but yes you are right. Except for one, he's actually a good guy, I really think there is a lot of hope for him. Now if only he'd stop falling for girls who are too young for him... sweatdrop

Uh oh...those young girls might get him in trouble later on neutral

Well my biggest problem is understanding the difference. THere was this guy, that I REALLY liked, and I thought he liked me too, like he was flirting with me. I mean we would sit together and copy pokemon voices for fun, then we would hug and giggle and stuff it was really fun. I mean we always hugged when we saw each other, and did a lot of stuff together, and I'd always giggle like crazy when I was around him and stuff. But whne I finally confessed my feelings towards him, he said he had no idea. Then for several days he left me to wonder if he really felt like I did towards him, then finally after a lot of pain and tears, he told me he could never love me the way I loved him. That... hurt... that hurt a lot. He didn't just tell me either, he ditched me several times when we were supposed to meet. So I got upset, and when I saw him next, I sprayed perfume all over him when he wasn't looking, that made me feel a little better for how much of a jerk he was being ><

hmmm... maybe some imput from a guy would help this thread.

as a guy, i will first say this:

men are very easily swayed by macho peer pressure. one guy stares at a girl like she's a piece of meat, and this encourages the others to do so as well. i don't know why this is, i find it all rather pathetic actually, but this is what i have observed. but it doesn't mean they're all jerks at heart, they just don't know any better.

sterling spirit is right, there are guys who try to break out of this cycle. unfortunately some of them seem to only do this as an alternative tactic in order to get some action- by pretending that they're different from the slimebags a girl may be used to. i've met some really weasely guys who put on this vomit- wrenching "mr nice guy" act, where they claim to be so chivalrous, like some knight in shining armour come to rescue poor, helpless girls in need. it's so insincere- they have the same hormonal attitudes as the other guys, they just lie about it to girls, which is worse.

also, sterling is spot on about guys never horse playing with girls they fancy. guys only horseplay with girls they are comfortable doing so with, and they aren't comfortable around girls they want madly. if he fancies you he'll either be awkward and withdrawn, or annoyingly in your face as he desperately tries to grab your attention. ironically, guys you get along with are the ones who will be unlikely to want to be more than friends.

well, everybody is different. everybody is an individual. not all guys fit into the basic pattern i'm talking about, but most do.

he may want to be more than a friend, but be careful- there's a good possibility he doesn't, and you certainly can't use horseplay as proof that he likes you.

having said that, one of my best friends used to play around/ wrestle with the girl he liked for months before asking her out. they've been going out for a year and a half now.