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 Posted: Wed Dec 06, 2006 1:46 pm
Hello there Group Hug Guild.^^ This is my first post in here so please don't kill me if I accidentally do something bad...Well, this is a helping Guild and these three problems are most unpleasant for me, help please?
1. Problem: Shyness
I'm a pretty shy person in school, though out of school I'm not as shy. The question I pose is quite simple yet I can never solve it. How do I stop being shy? I have low self-esteem and I really try to boost it but to no avail. People like to put me down for no reason sometimes, or because I'm not "as pretty as them". So...How do you solve shyness?
2. I dunno what to even call this problem! I can be fun to hang around but after a few hours I get irritated for no reason at everyone, then I feel tired and wanna go home. I have no idea what's wrong with me since one minute I was happy and the next I wanna strangle people. Not literally of course, but I yell at my friends and I hate doing that but I just get so angry I can't control myself. All I can do is NOT hit them. I refuse to hit my friends, I just get extremely mad at them for no reason after a while of hanging out.
3. I'm sorry that I'm putting so many problems in here but this is the last I promise! sweatdrop There's this guy I like at school. We both have the same classes except for Study Hall and two other classes. He's popular and I'm not, but he's still nice to me and others. He won "Prom King" ((I'm a Sophomore in High School so he wasn't necessarily Prom King but only for the Sophomore's he was...Confusing I know.)) so I made him a gift and congratulated him though a note since...I'm stupid and can't talk to him myself. -_- So, that was the most stupidest thing I ever done I believe. He only glanced at me in classes but that was it. After a week of that, I apologized for being a creep by giving him that ((I think I'd freak out to if someone gave me a gift out of the blue and doesn't really talk to me all that much, though I'd be flattered too.)) He said he keeps it in his room and he liked it. ((it was a blue and green bracelet I made for him...I know, guys don't wear bracelet's but I didn't want to buy him anything. I wanted to make something for him instead)). So, fastforward to now, I'm in Stat Girls for Wrestling ((We count up the points and see who wins)) and he's in it. His sister's the head Stat Girl. I just dunno what to do anymore on this. He's really nice and I've tried Life Issues for this a long time ago and they just told me I was a coward to not talk to his face...Which I probably am, but I didn't want to stutter and shake in front of him....So what do I do about him? I still really like him and I just dunno what to do anymore with the matter...
I'm sorry this is so much I just thought you wouldn't like three threads on this but instead one! sweatdrop If you can't solve all that's fine, I just don't want people bashing me for being so dumb. Will you help me?
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 3:17 am
I can totally relate to your issue #2. Introverts are people who like to be alone a lot. Being with people drains them, and they have to go be alone to recharge. Introverts are about 25% of the population. The other 75% is made up of extroverts. Extroverts feel drained when they are alone and need to be around people to feel energized. Since the world is mostly extroverts, it can be difficult for them to relate to us. I am an introvert, and it sounds like you are too. That's just the way we are. I can be pleasant for a while, but then if people are still around after a while, I just can't stand it. I can't even fake being nice anymore. My boyfriend's friends will come over to visit sometimes, and they will stay for literally like 16 hours at a time. They just sit at the dining room table and talk for 16 hours. Why would anyone want to do that? I can't even relate to that. So I will sit there and be pleasant for a few hours, but after like hour 14, I can't do it. I will say, "I am going to bed," and go upstairs, or I will go in and play on the computer. I don't even care how rude it seems after hour 14. I feel like pulling out my eyes. Introverts rarely change to extroverts, so this is just the way we are. The only thing that you can really do is know your limits. When you start to feel like poking someone's eyes out, leave. As soon as you start to feel like you're going to go insane, say you have to go. Say you have to wake up early the next day or something. If you can leave before you feel like poking your eyes out, then you can at least do it gracefully and without seeming rude. I get into trouble when I try to push myself. I try to stay up until they leave. Every hour that goes by I think, "My god, they can't possibly stay any longer. I bet they will leave any minute." I can handle it better if I take breaks from them too. If I go to another part of the house by myself for a bit, I can come back feeling better. Think about how you can manage it, without trying to change it necessarily because it's probably something that can't be changed.
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Posted: Sat Dec 16, 2006 10:50 pm
LorienLlewellyn I can totally relate to your issue #2. Introverts are people who like to be alone a lot. Being with people drains them, and they have to go be alone to recharge. Introverts are about 25% of the population. The other 75% is made up of extroverts. Extroverts feel drained when they are alone and need to be around people to feel energized. Since the world is mostly extroverts, it can be difficult for them to relate to us. I am an introvert, and it sounds like you are too. That's just the way we are. I can be pleasant for a while, but then if people are still around after a while, I just can't stand it. I can't even fake being nice anymore. My boyfriend's friends will come over to visit sometimes, and they will stay for literally like 16 hours at a time. They just sit at the dining room table and talk for 16 hours. Why would anyone want to do that? I can't even relate to that. So I will sit there and be pleasant for a few hours, but after like hour 14, I can't do it. I will say, "I am going to bed," and go upstairs, or I will go in and play on the computer. I don't even care how rude it seems after hour 14. I feel like pulling out my eyes. Introverts rarely change to extroverts, so this is just the way we are. The only thing that you can really do is know your limits. When you start to feel like poking someone's eyes out, leave. As soon as you start to feel like you're going to go insane, say you have to go. Say you have to wake up early the next day or something. If you can leave before you feel like poking your eyes out, then you can at least do it gracefully and without seeming rude. I get into trouble when I try to push myself. I try to stay up until they leave. Every hour that goes by I think, "My god, they can't possibly stay any longer. I bet they will leave any minute." I can handle it better if I take breaks from them too. If I go to another part of the house by myself for a bit, I can come back feeling better. Think about how you can manage it, without trying to change it necessarily because it's probably something that can't be changed. Wow, I was scared to look back at this thread thinking I'd be called emo. sweatdrop So I'm an introvert? That makes sense, cause I just can't stand parties for too long or just talking to people for a while. My problem is I dunno how to leave nicely cause I'm usually out walking around town with my friends or I'm at their house and can't leave. gonk Wanna know a creepy thing? My friends were over when I posted this and I happen to have gotten annoyed and went on the computer too.^^ Thank you for the help, I thought I was the only one like this. I sometimes like being alone but you know, everyone eventually gets tired of being alone. 3nodding Thanks again, LorienLlewellyn!
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Posted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 6:46 am
To start off, Hun, you did nothing wrong. <3;
Better to get it all out in one shot, huh? :3
___
1. Everyone is shy at first. I'd posted something similar to this.
But, I got over it. How? I stopped caring of what people thought of me.
So what -- I like country and I like rock.
I like to try and sing even though I can't.
<3;
Don't ever let someone put you down. Nor let anyone tell you you can't do something. Not even your best friends or family.
If they say you can't do it... You need to try that much harder to prove to them that you can.
2. I also posted a similar topic.
Here's the link -- I really can't say more than what they have to me.
Click here. <3
3. It's okay. Put as many problems as you have. We are here to help. <3;
Look.. You're not a coward.
It'll take time. Anything you do will take time.
But hey, when life gives you crap, make a toilet.
:3
Maybe, talk to his sister. <3;
I've done that before when I liked a guy.
--
But, you're not a coward. Just remember.
Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something.
And that you should always just be yourself despite what people think.
Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes.
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Posted: Thu Feb 15, 2007 6:12 pm
Aarora To start off, Hun, you did nothing wrong. <3;
Better to get it all out in one shot, huh? :3
___
1. Everyone is shy at first. I'd posted something similar to this.
But, I got over it. How? I stopped caring of what people thought of me.
So what -- I like country and I like rock.
I like to try and sing even though I can't.
<3;
Don't ever let someone put you down. Nor let anyone tell you you can't do something. Not even your best friends or family.
If they say you can't do it... You need to try that much harder to prove to them that you can.
2. I also posted a similar topic.
Here's the link -- I really can't say more than what they have to me.
Click here. <3
3. It's okay. Put as many problems as you have. We are here to help. <3;
Look.. You're not a coward.
It'll take time. Anything you do will take time.
But hey, when life gives you crap, make a toilet.
:3
Maybe, talk to his sister. <3;
I've done that before when I liked a guy.
--
But, you're not a coward. Just remember.
Don't let anyone tell you that you can't do something.
And that you should always just be yourself despite what people think.
Speak your mind, even if your voice shakes. I feel much better now for this.^^ I do sometimes feel like a coward I wish I could try harder to get over it, but I'm scared that I'll end up alone. =( His sister likes me, but we rarely talk. I hope he doesn't hate me for this but I sent him a flower for Valentine's Day. The flower was blue meaning "Secret Admirer" and I didn't put my name on the "from" part of it. Once he got his flower he stared at me funny-like ((That's what a friend told me, she has no idea I like him nor that I sent him the flower)). I dunno what to make of him, seeing as I can't tell whether he likes me or not. I wish I could just read his mind sometimes...Thank you for helping Aarora! You make me feel a lot better and I try real hard to act myself but it just feels odd to me in school.
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Posted: Mon Feb 19, 2007 6:49 am
No problem, Love.
Sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith. And yeah, it'll be hard. But what ever happens, happens.
Live with no regrets
As if there wa sno tomorrow.
Time heals.
And everything happens for a reason. <3
I mean, hey, I wouldn't have met my new boyfriend if I wasn't failing math.
xD;
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Posted: Tue Feb 27, 2007 12:13 pm
1. There's nothing to get over. It's ok to be shy. Many people are. I used to be but now my friends can't get me to shut up, so I know where you're coming from. Guess I'm one of those rare people huh Lorien? wink Sides, shy is cute.
2. Again, Lorien is right. But I know with all of my friends, they can all wear out their welcome pretty fast. it's good for a few hours to hang out at a mall but an overnight thing? There's just no possible way for me to put up with any of them for that long. There's only so many circles I'll let a conversation go before I'll come up with some lame excuse to go do my homework I forgot about.
3. Aarora has a pretty good idea. Talk to his sister. There's a good chance he's already talked to her about you. Don't worry about popularity. After high school it dissappears, unless you're a celebrity. And if you two start dating, you'll be just as popular. Just be careful though. He's sure to have more than one admirer if he got voted for Prom King.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 5:46 pm
First off, don't worry for posting three in a same thread. xP S'no biggy. So yeah. Yay for numbers! xD
1. There's really no solving how you act. ^^; As sucky as it is. You probally just act free-er around people you know, tho', so the only problem I can find with this is buddying up with some friends who can tell them to suck it (yay for offensive langauge!) for you. xD;
2. M'kay; I know what you mean by this. I think it's kind of that you just get fed up with someone (duh, you said that already), but like, it's just by being around them a bit too much. Maybe their quirks are a bit too annoying? The only way to solve this is to maybe not hang out as much, maybe not hang out with them for long periods at a time. Like I said before, there's no miracle-cure for who you are, but you can learn to work around it. :3 If your friends ask why you aren't hanging out for long times anymore, just tell them that you get irritated if you hang out for too long, and you don't want to end up exploding at them.
3. Omg! Dx What assholes of life-issues! I used to have the same problem around guys. Well, let's see. You just have to somehow get over your stage-fright (that's really what it is). Maybe challenge yourself; go up to a random guy at the mall and be all like, "Hey, what's up?" Or see if you can start a random conversation with someone your age. You might get weird looks and stuff, but if you can get over talking to normal people, it might be easier. Also, see if you can get his AIM, or maybe add him to Facebook (if you guys do that around there). :] All I can say is that you have to be comfortable around him, first; if not, then imagine what going out with him would be like. He'd like, try and kiss you and you'd turn all red and start squealing, hahaha. <3 Sorry. It's just funny (and kinda' cute) to imagine. xP
And ohhh! Of course we wouldn't call you emo, haha. <3 We're too nice around here for that. >__>;
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 4:21 pm
Aarora No problem, Love.
Sometimes you just have to take that leap of faith. And yeah, it'll be hard. But what ever happens, happens.
Live with no regrets
As if there wa sno tomorrow.
Time heals.
And everything happens for a reason. <3
I mean, hey, I wouldn't have met my new boyfriend if I wasn't failing math.
xD;
Heh. 4laugh Funny how I'm about to fail Math as well. I'm glad you found someone, I just don't want to be alone, but I hate being around people. Strange isn't it?
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 4:28 pm
gamemaster87 1. There's nothing to get over. It's ok to be shy. Many people are. I used to be but now my friends can't get me to shut up, so I know where you're coming from. Guess I'm one of those rare people huh Lorien? wink Sides, shy is cute. 2. Again, Lorien is right. But I know with all of my friends, they can all wear out their welcome pretty fast. it's good for a few hours to hang out at a mall but an overnight thing? There's just no possible way for me to put up with any of them for that long. There's only so many circles I'll let a conversation go before I'll come up with some lame excuse to go do my homework I forgot about. 3. Aarora has a pretty good idea. Talk to his sister. There's a good chance he's already talked to her about you. Don't worry about popularity. After high school it dissappears, unless you're a celebrity. And if you two start dating, you'll be just as popular. Just be careful though. He's sure to have more than one admirer if he got voted for Prom King. 1. Yeah I used to talk a lot during 5-6th grade but I suddenly stopped for some reason, so I understand what you mean. 2. I can do over night things, but if I have to walk around town for 6 hours with them I can't stand it. I try to tell them I need to be alone but they keep pestering me thinking that they did something wrong but they won't listen when I tell them it's not them. 3. I don't want popularity. I think it's just plain stupid for people to base on popularity. That's my opinion though, so no offense to anyone. I wish talking to him wasn't so complicated though...And that he didn't have so many admirers. I catch him looking at me sometimes though....or it's just my imagination in the works. xp Thank you for helping gamemaster87.^^
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 4:39 pm
Laeluu First off, don't worry for posting three in a same thread. xP S'no biggy. So yeah. Yay for numbers! xD
1. There's really no solving how you act. ^^; As sucky as it is. You probally just act free-er around people you know, tho', so the only problem I can find with this is buddying up with some friends who can tell them to suck it (yay for offensive langauge!) for you. xD;
2. M'kay; I know what you mean by this. I think it's kind of that you just get fed up with someone (duh, you said that already), but like, it's just by being around them a bit too much. Maybe their quirks are a bit too annoying? The only way to solve this is to maybe not hang out as much, maybe not hang out with them for long periods at a time. Like I said before, there's no miracle-cure for who you are, but you can learn to work around it. :3 If your friends ask why you aren't hanging out for long times anymore, just tell them that you get irritated if you hang out for too long, and you don't want to end up exploding at them.
3. Omg! Dx What assholes of life-issues! I used to have the same problem around guys. Well, let's see. You just have to somehow get over your stage-fright (that's really what it is). Maybe challenge yourself; go up to a random guy at the mall and be all like, "Hey, what's up?" Or see if you can start a random conversation with someone your age. You might get weird looks and stuff, but if you can get over talking to normal people, it might be easier. Also, see if you can get his AIM, or maybe add him to Facebook (if you guys do that around there). :] All I can say is that you have to be comfortable around him, first; if not, then imagine what going out with him would be like. He'd like, try and kiss you and you'd turn all red and start squealing, hahaha. <3 Sorry. It's just funny (and kinda' cute) to imagine. xP
And ohhh! Of course we wouldn't call you emo, haha. <3 We're too nice around here for that. >__>; 1. My friends tell them to "suck it" ((LOL)) sometimes, but most of the time I have to ignore the taunters. I just wanna talk out more in class, but people seem to not want to give me a chance to know me and all just because I don't talk a lot. 2. I've told my friends this once before, but I stopped since they wouldn't listen. I'd tell them "I have to go" but they get all weepy and ask "are you mad at me?" I say no. They still think they did something wrong and either whine about it or get mad if I leave thinking I'm mad. -sigh- Sometimes I wish they'd just let me leave for a while... 3. Ah that. I went out for the play in order to get over "Stage fright". Problem was the lights blinded me so I couldn't really see the audience for my stage fright problem. I don't have that in real life and the whole shy thing kind of counters running up to someone my age and saying hi or something. I'd have to be sugar-high or in an extremely good mood to do that. -Lol's at kiss remark- I bet I'd do that too! sweatdrop I don't know how to reach him on the net, but his sister has a myspace as do I. Other than that I can't find him on any site...I feel like a stalker now. sad I don't know if talking to her would help any though. Thanks for helping me Laeluu!^^
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 4:43 pm
I'm sorry I haven't been in this guild for so long. -_- I've had finals going on and I totally forgot about this thread. I want to say "Mission Accomplished" on this, but I still don't know what to do. Thank you to all who gave me their advice! This guild is way better than Life-Issues itself! heart
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Posted: Wed May 23, 2007 1:10 pm
Heh; no problem! :] <3 If you need any more help, or you feel as though you need more advice, or something, just ask us.
Mainly, about your shyness and all of that, it's just something you have to over-come yourself, and really, really push yourself to do it. We can't just give you advice on that and have everything be fine the next day; you're going to have to work towards it.
And don't worry about Finals. >__>; I had them, too. gonk
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Posted: Thu May 24, 2007 7:19 pm
OK first off it's fine, it's actualy BETTER to put all your problems down at once
ok problem one, can be fixed by solveing problem 3 in that. A good boyfriend especily if he's popular will always boost your self confidence, he'll tell you your the prittiest girl in the world ect. unless he's just not a romantic type wich most guys arn't but he'll still make you feel loved which will boost self confidence and cure shyness
If the hole boyfriend thign is outa the question leme know I have other solutions
alright then problem two. I don't know a hole lot about this but look in to weather or not your bi-polor I personaly know very little about it but just check it out on wikapiedia or somethign maybe thats what you have...
ok three, relationship advice my favorite. Basicly the not was good he probibly even likes you, but sience you don't talk to him much he's not likely to just ask you out. Start by just saying hi every now and then randomly, prehaps if you have a sadie-hawkins dance those are PERFECT! maybe even ask him if he has a date for homecomeing next year. or even better ask him for his screen name or e-mail. Take it from personaly experience, talking over the internet... ALOT easier than talking in person. believe me.
(I have to go but if you want to feel free to PM me I'll be back later)
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