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Okay, no.

This is not a really bad problem. I'm a little confused, but I doubt anyone could be too helpful if even I don't know the details. Actually, you don't need to be helpful. I just need to say something for my own sanity. So, this is a guy problem, but not a relationship problem.

There was a really awesome guy who was obviously very interested in me. He made that known immediately. This is quite odd for me because A) He's amazing, and B) When was the last time any guy noticed me at all??? So, I'm really shy and I liked him. I have a hard time getting too close to anyone because of my shyness and invisible boundaries. He was really cute and sweet and absolutely perfect. He talked to me any chance he got. He didn't seem to mind much that I was so shy, and I was getting more comfortable with him all of the time. One day, he completely lost all enthusiasm and he didn't seem to want to say anything about it. I had to ask him online if he cared anymore, and he responded with the classic, "I like you, but... I don't want a relationship now." xp No, you don't like me. But I still like you. And you quit talking to me. Now I'm sad.

Anyway... The point here is that we haven't spoken to each other for a while, and I don't even care if he likes me or not. It would just be nice for him to remember that I exist. I made two weak attempts to talk to him online, but I didn't really have anything to say and I didn't want to ruin his mood or make him feel bad. Or scare him. If he really doesn't like me, it might scare him if I try speaking again. The problem with attempting any conversation is that it'll be very awkward because he'll think I like him or I'm stalking him or something, but I really just want him as a friend. I don't care if he has a girfriend, or six, or 58... Not being invisble is a lot more fun.

So, most of my friends think he's a jerk, but I just think he was trying to remove any possible emotional attachments in whichever way he saw fit. Not the best approach, but it seemed to work for him.