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So what do you do in this situation?

a few facts..
> I'm a chick
> This boy I'm speaking of is my boyfriend
> we've been dating for 6 months as of December 24, 2006.
> I have been sexually active
> He's never had a girlfriend before me (let alone had sex)
> I'm 17 (birthday is February 22, 1989) and my boy is 20 (birthday August 23, 1986)

Ok, I've been in this relationship for 6 months. I really love this boy. We love each other dearly. I'm confident this feeling is different than my last relationship. It seems more caring and trusting. More love, it is real love to us. Well, I've been wanting to have sex with this boy for a long time. Probably 4 months out of the last 6 together, I've seriously wanted to.

Well, my boyfriend and I have had this discussion a few times. And tonight we had it again and I got his permission to ask this in the LI.

He told me that he also wants to have a sexual relationship. He wants to have sex. But, he can't bring himself to do it and he doesn't know why. He's named a few concerns such as a fear of being caught. He's also expressed a fear of if we are caught what would happen if we were caught with our age difference because I'm not technically legal yet.

But, we both want it. He just can't and we are trying to find a way (without the use of alcohol and any illegal substance) to make it happen.

What we're asking::

1) possible causes of this
2) solutions to rid this problem so we can have sex

thanks for listening.

I don't think the only thing is you being underage. I don't think that's even a primary reason, aside from afraid of getting caught some how. I know you'll be there for me and I'm not too afraid of not being a good performer, or lasting for hours at a time. I understand that first timers, usually, don't last longer than a couple minutes....I don't know what I'm concerned with....... gonk