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 Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 10:59 am
Alright.First of all, I thank anyone for coming into this thread.Even if you don't know how to help, please just post to say Hi.I'm really happy of the fact the people are taking their own time to read my pitiful story. =']
So heres my life issue:
I've been friends with this guy for 8 years.8 YEARS.and last July, he asked me out.
I said "No, I don't want to hurt our friendship if we broke up."Alright, he said, he understood that.And I was happy.Untill he started softing me up.Suggesting we go to the movies with our friends. (Which we have been doing ever since, however lately he is not coming)Towards the last days of Augest and the first days of September, he asked me again, Do you wanna go out?
This time he must have softened me up because I said YES.
He started sitting next to me at the lunch tables and acted strangly, diffrently..
He started talking about how much he wanted to hug me..AND THEN IT HAPPENED.
As soon as the Wii came out, he started saying things, like "Yeah, your probably gonna dump me soon" and "Oh, I'm leaving you for the Wii", it started making me quite mad.Comparing me to an inanimate object?!I hardly think so mister.He ain't gonna get that far with THAT attitude.
And so one day, I told him I needed to talk with him....We broke up that day, which was what I wanted.He ignored me for a week or so, which I could understand, he was probably embaressed about being dumped by his friend for 8 years, so I let it slide.
But one day, he said something against women, saying he hated them all, or something of the sort.I was about to turn and slap him.How dare he?!If hes mad at me, take it out on me, not the whole women populance.After about a month he was still not talking to me, ignoring me, moving to the "Cool table",
and not even looking at me.The only times he speaks to me now is at Tech. Ed and when we sometimes need to drop him off at his house after school.
...I think I just wrote a book about this. sweatdrop
It's been 3 months.And I'm still hurting considerably, though the pain of it all is starting to wear off.Any ideas to help me through this?
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Posted: Sat Dec 30, 2006 1:46 pm
First off, wow, you're friend is being a real jerk. I can't believe he'd do that to you, saying he's going to leave you for some stupid lifeless videogame machine!!! If you ask me he's not worth it, but 8 years is a long time to lose. I think you should tell him how you feel, find a way to let him know you want to talk. Then remind him of all the good times you used to share, and how much fun it was for you two to be friends, then let him know how much he hurt you. This is just what I would do, don't forget to take every advice given with a grain of salt okay? Good luck biggrin
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 5:07 pm
I know.I never though he could be this hurtful, I never knew I could get this hurt..
Exactly, once he started saying these things, I started thinking "What if he doesn't like me, really?If he's going to say these things, he might as well dump me and be over it" or something of the sort.Considering the side of him that I've recently seen, I can't believe I actually wasted 8 years of friendship with him.One day, when he had chosen to sit with us for once, (Because his table "Kicked him out for being the cleanliesst of them all")And one of my guy friends took my drawing book and ran to sit back down.I got up, moved to the other side of the table and I believe that was my most sternest momment ever.I said, "DOM.Hand over the drawing book now.I don't feel well." In that thick, saucey tone of voice that made him drop it to the ground.I'm the type that normaly has a sunny demeanor, but when it came to that day, boy, did anger come out!I went to sit back down in my seat and laughed at myself for doing that, trying to convince everyone it was a joke, or something..
I wish I could take your advice, but I don't feel as if I can communicate with him.
He completely ignores me (Like I said above) unless we are working in tech. ed.Even if I get on MSN (Which I don't want to anymore, I deleted off my computer) He ignores the fact I'm on and I'M the one that has to send the messege to start the conversation.And, I dunno about you guys, but I don't think thats right..
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 10:15 pm
D i a I know.I never though he could be this hurtful, I never knew I could get this hurt.. Exactly, once he started saying these things, I started thinking "What if he doesn't like me, really?If he's going to say these things, he might as well dump me and be over it" or something of the sort.Considering the side of him that I've recently seen, I can't believe I actually wasted 8 years of friendship with him.One day, when he had chosen to sit with us for once, (Because his table "Kicked him out for being the cleanliesst of them all")And one of my guy friends took my drawing book and ran to sit back down.I got up, moved to the other side of the table and I believe that was my most sternest momment ever.I said, "DOM.Hand over the drawing book now.I don't feel well." In that thick, saucey tone of voice that made him drop it to the ground.I'm the type that normaly has a sunny demeanor, but when it came to that day, boy, did anger come out!I went to sit back down in my seat and laughed at myself for doing that, trying to convince everyone it was a joke, or something.. I wish I could take your advice, but I don't feel as if I can communicate with him. He completely ignores me (Like I said above) unless we are working in tech. ed.Even if I get on MSN (Which I don't want to anymore, I deleted off my computer) He ignores the fact I'm on and I'M the one that has to send the messege to start the conversation.And, I dunno about you guys, but I don't think thats right..
Well then, you just have to measure up just how important he is to you. It may just be a phase, guys can be serious jerks, my brother was a jerk to me at first but (he's not my real brother, I just call him that because he's lived with us for so long) now he's a lot nicer and better than he was. Maybe it's the other way around for your friend. A lot of guys get pressured to act like idiots to follow the in crowd, if they don't they usually get beat up or picked on. Maybe someone else is behind the scenes? I'm not saying that you should forgive him, or that you should stay with him. I'm only offering what little help I can. I can say that the only thing I guess I really learned from being born transgendered was the kinds of pressure guys go through to act like idiots. Personally I just thought it was stupid, but kids who didn't think so we're cruel and heartless to me. But I'm glad I never did conform, I'm not happy that I tried to mimic my brothers, but i"m glad I eventually got my own personality and here I am. So anyway, just offering that last bit I can. I hope things go well for you, and if they don't, I'll help in anyway I can to help you go on.
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Posted: Sun Dec 31, 2006 10:22 pm
Thank you very much.I suppose I have to muster up something to do this...
But I will, somehow, try to get through to him, perhaps.Thank you! ^^
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Posted: Tue Jan 02, 2007 7:18 pm
D i a Thank you very much.I suppose I have to muster up something to do this...
But I will, somehow, try to get through to him, perhaps.Thank you! ^^
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Posted: Thu Jan 04, 2007 1:10 pm
Hm, yea, I would give advice in this situation, but PrincessChelsea5 basically said everything that I would have. I'll be praying for you too, and I really hope things work out! *huggles*
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 10:58 pm
I say you should talk to him about it one on one. if your friendship is basically over anyway you dont have much more to lose by telling him how you feel, hopefully he will listen and you guys can talk through it. At least you will have tried.
guys can be major jerks but maybe he has a self esteem problem or something, and knew you did not really want to be more than friends so was trying to make it seem like it was his idea that you were breaking up so he wouldnt feel as bad about it. thats just what it sounds like to me, I could( and probably am) completely wrong about it though. You should do what you feel is best.
hope I helped! good luck I know it sucks losing a good friend because of something stupid.
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Posted: Sun Feb 18, 2007 5:21 pm
awww, he's just being moody. if he wants ta be a little baby, let him!
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Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 10:45 pm
ouch.
that sucks.
but i would actually be pretty mad at my friend if we broke up but i wouldnt hold a grudge for 3 months, and when he said he hated all women or whatever he was probably just mad, after my first boyfriend i was ALWAYS thinking guys are jerks until this year and stuff.
anyways even though hes giving you the cold shoulder i suggest you let him cool off and then ask him to see a movie or something [as friends] and idk remind him of stuff you did or something
sweatdrop i hope i helped && it all works out <;]
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Posted: Fri Mar 23, 2007 2:15 pm
Hes being a jerk. Its his loss for losing a nice friend. mad
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Posted: Sun Mar 25, 2007 8:03 pm
Well..ever consider that the Wii comment couldve been a joke ?
As for the whole comment on women. He misses you. Or did.
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 11:58 am
ok, hes being a major jerk right now. i think u shud try to move on w/out him. if hes saying all that stuff, more in likely he never really liked u in the first place, he just wanted a gf, or hes having raging hormones. one or the other. if he is being moody, he'll grow up eventually, but for the time being, just ignore him. spend more time with your girlfriends, get ur mind off him. but if he never really did like you, its something u just have to deal with. but as soon as he grows up a little bit more, he'll prolly still wanna be friends. most moody guys like that are very immature at that point, so he just needs some time. he'll come around. im sure he'll still wanna be friends, even if not bf/gf. i wudnt worry too much about it, itll only make ur life worse. hope i helped! *hugz*
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Posted: Sat Mar 21, 2009 9:21 am
I suggest you forget aobut him. You have your friends and your loved ones, trying to soften you up and getting mad just becasue you broke up with him. I guess your friendship did kind of break up. But they good part it you still talk even one word! He's blaming it on every women, but trust me in his future he's probably "not" going to hate women anymore. It was his fault in the first place, trying to soften you.
AND you DID say that your guys friendship could be broken you you guys break up and you were right, and he was dead wrong.Talk to your friends, leave him be. And if you guys ever become friends again, I'm happy.
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