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 Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 3:56 pm
Okay. This is like... advice and a general question kind of rolled up in one.
As Christians, how should we deal with feelings of anger? I know we're supposed to forgive and forget, but what does that entail?
The problem is, I'm extreamly passive agressive so basically I could be mad at you and you would never know. I'm also the kind of person that people say "Oh Liz, you're always happy!" Recently, I realized I'm very angry at something or someone in just about every aspect of my life. I got into my head early on that Christian aren't supposed to get or stay angry so anything that was making me mad was bad, so instead of dealing with it I simply ignored my feelings and just kept plowing ahead. Unfortunetly, it's all kind of caught up with me know. I've finally acknowledge my anger and things are getting better (I was never one to hole grudges), but as a result of postponing comfront the problems and my feelings for month, one of my best friends and I are on very shakey terms and more than anything I'm angry at myself.
In some ways, I feel like I haven't done anything wrong as a Christian because I always forgave and moved passed it.
But I feel vaguely miserable. So what? I'm confused. Is anger good, bad, what?
Thanks.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 6:28 pm
Anger is good! Even Jesus got angry (remember when he kicked everyone out of the temple because they were desecrating it?). All of our emotions were created by God and you shouldn't stifle or ignore any of them, especially anger, because, as you're experiencing now, it can explode and get out of hand. I wish I had some good verses but I'm using the library's computer and don't have my Bible on hand, but some of the main ideas that the Bible has about anger pretty much say not to let the sun go down on your anger. Basically, this means if you're angry about something, work it out. Don't avoid it and hope it goes away. Confront and address it. Now, of course, we can't all make ourselves happy in a situation before nightfall, but the verse that comes from is a bit general. Just don't hold on to your anger. Forgiving doesn't seem to be a problem from what I can tell, but maybe a part of you is holding a grudge unconsciously. If that's the case, perhaps you should do a little soul-searching and figure out which part of you is doing it and try to let it go and give it to God.
On the same token, you shouldn't confront the situation when you are emotionally charged. If something suddenly just made you mad, it would probably be a bad idea to go storming into a room and yelling at whoever or whatever has made you angry. Give yourself some time to cool down and go over the problem in your head and then try to work out the problem.
Like I said, I wish I had some verses to offer, but I don't, and I hope this helped you out a little bit. 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 8:02 pm
Don't worry about anger; your anger problem probably isn't half as bad as God's.
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Posted: Wed Jan 10, 2007 9:05 pm
It's not a sin to get angry, as even God himself gets angry. However, anger is no excuse to sin.
As for forgiving, yes, it is important to forgive, however forgiving does not mean dismissing what someone did. Yeah, they did it, and it's cool now, but what they did still sucked.
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Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2007 3:00 am
Ah, anger, we meet again...
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Posted: Sun Jan 14, 2007 2:59 pm
Okay, thanks guys. As I've said, things are working out I just had no idea how to handle my anger in a way that would be... I dunno, pleasing to God.
Thanks for the input.
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 7:36 am
There are two types of anger.... Righteous anger and Worldly Anger.... Anger itself isn't a bad thing but its what we do with our anger that can make is sinful or it can take down demonic strong holds... If we remember that our world is more then just the physical... if we can remember that everything has a spiritual component then we can see that what manifestation from others isn't just them being jerks, or they aren't just trying to hurt us... But that it is deeper then all that... That is may rest in their feelings of rejection, or some form of brokenness in them... Or it might be something in us that is broken and when pressure is applied even in a loving way we might explode at a person or at a situation because of it... Or we might see something in the world something Unjust (according to God's standards) and get angry at the Spiritual aspect that is going on... Such as a person getting angry at abortion... You don't get angry at the girl who is getting an abortion and you don't use your angry to kill off people or even turn to hatred (which according to God is murder) But you pray against what Spirit, Take authority over it and make a choice and a covenant with God that it will not reside in your household and the people that you will lead into the kingdom of God. If you feel your anger turning to Hatred then you need to stand before the Altar of God and give it over... we aren't meant to harbor Hatred, we aren't suppose to let our anger go so far.... I hope that helped a little Liz... Sometimes I get overly into topics and if I have done so I am sorry...
God Bless You Liz and Keep you in the Shelter of His Hands... Let Him who was and is, and is to come bring you the Wisdom in this situation... Let Him bring a deep revelation of this to your heart that you might be shaped and molded further into Christ Jesus. I pray that God would bring you a Peace of Heart, that He would heal all spiritual wounds in you and refine you into a tool of Holy and Righteous Works to His Glory! <3 In the Name of Jesus - Amen
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Posted: Mon Jan 29, 2007 4:15 pm
Danielle~SOC There are two types of anger.... Righteous anger and Worldly Anger.... Anger itself isn't a bad thing but its what we do with our anger that can make is sinful or it can take down demonic strong holds... If we remember that our world is more then just the physical... if we can remember that everything has a spiritual component then we can see that what manifestation from others isn't just them being jerks, or they aren't just trying to hurt us... But that it is deeper then all that... That is may rest in their feelings of rejection, or some form of brokenness in them... Or it might be something in us that is broken and when pressure is applied even in a loving way we might explode at a person or at a situation because of it... Or we might see something in the world something Unjust (according to God's standards) and get angry at the Spiritual aspect that is going on... Such as a person getting angry at abortion... You don't get angry at the girl who is getting an abortion and you don't use your angry to kill off people or even turn to hatred (which according to God is murder) But you pray against what Spirit, Take authority over it and make a choice and a covenant with God that it will not reside in your household and the people that you will lead into the kingdom of God. If you feel your anger turning to Hatred then you need to stand before the Altar of God and give it over... we aren't meant to harbor Hatred, we aren't suppose to let our anger go so far.... I hope that helped a little Liz... Sometimes I get overly into topics and if I have done so I am sorry...
God Bless You Liz and Keep you in the Shelter of His Hands... Let Him who was and is, and is to come bring you the Wisdom in this situation... Let Him bring a deep revelation of this to your heart that you might be shaped and molded further into Christ Jesus. I pray that God would bring you a Peace of Heart, that He would heal all spiritual wounds in you and refine you into a tool of Holy and Righteous Works to His Glory! <3 In the Name of Jesus - Amen I love reading everything you write... it's amazing!
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Posted: Sun Feb 11, 2007 3:16 pm
I know what you mean its just an act of evaluating the problem and really seeing if its worth getting angery over! like the old saying "pick your fights"
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Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2007 7:37 pm
Anger isn't a sin. Jesus tossed tables around in the temple courtyard! Anger can lead to sins. I'm very similar to you in a way. Everyone thinks I'm a very mellow person, but I used to be mad inside all the time. Then someone told me that the best way to deal with inner anger is to let it out in words. I don't mean to start yelling whenever you're mad, but discuss whatever is making you mad with whoever can actually help the situation. If you're mad at a person, let them know and try to resolve the issue. Most people probably don't even know that they're making you mad, as you said. Pent up anger leads to bitterness. Trust me, I've been there. Letting people know how you feel lets that out. If they can't accept that, then you've done all you can and the burden is on them, though it sometimes makes for a stressful situation anyways. Anybody who is a true friend will be willing to work thru any problems that come your way, ya know? I'll be praying for you!
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:49 pm
I used to be very similar to you! But then I how to assess my anger immediately after I begin to feel angry. Try asking yourself questions like:
- What exactly am I angry about?
- How can the situation improve?
- Whose fault is it that I'm angry (besides my own)?
Then, take a deep breath, and talk with any person(s) involved and let your anger go. Taking a deep breath helps me to just let go of whatever is going on, and I think it might help you, too.
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 2:37 pm
Yes, anger in itself isn't bad. God gave us emotions, and anger is one of them. It's how you cope with it, in my mind. Let it out on an inanimate object; it really makes you feel better. Less anger = more heart . I really do hope you pray about this too; praying helps everything. biggrin
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 8:44 pm
Everyone here has given you good advice. I'm a bottle-it-all-up person myself, and I have to tell you that's probably the worst possible way to do things. However, it's OKAY to be angry. You're human, and humans are flawed enough to get annoyed at any little thing. It's natural for us. Accept the fact that sometimes you're just going to feel like tearing somone's head off over nothing. Just don't hold it all in. Walk away if you can at the time and THINK about how to explain to whoever you're angry at that you're mad and why. When you think you can, calmly sit them down and do so. Or write a note. Or an email, or a phone call. Let them know. Don't point fingers when you do it, don't let either of you start an argument. Fix the situation. But, as Danielle so beautifully said, don't let your anger start turning into hatred. Then you're in a pretty bad place.
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Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 9:55 am
Anger is natural. If you are never angry at anything,you probably need professional help. Find an outlet--just about anything will do. Usually,I play video games; nothing like a good alien scum-bashing to relieve stress. Just let it out SOMEHOW. Fear leads to anger... Anger leads to hate... Hate leads to suffering... -This Guy  (Smeagle the Great is not responsible in any way for the implications of applying Star Wars quotes related to religious discussions. You were warned.)
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Posted: Mon Jul 21, 2008 1:35 am
Okay, I'm gonna rescue this thread because it's full of win.
"Rescue me~ and take me in your arms.~" xd
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