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Edit: wheee a lot o posts :3 thanks for everything ^^ i think i've made up my mind ^^ thans thanks thanks!

Well, this will be long post about me and a friend of mine. I just want to share it and i just want to know what you think. . . you know you are neutral poeple, you might see things in different ways than me ^^

it was nearly 3-4 years ago, i saw a message of him in a message board about anime/manga. I really don't know why, i just felt close to him. One day, by chance, we talked on a messenger.

I found out that he's a quiet person who does not talk too much, usually depressive and gloomy, thinking that other people are always thinking bad things about him, he's a burden , an annoyance to them. in time we had a few friends knowing eachother.

As time passed we fall apart. i didn't call, couldn't find time to loging, he didn't call me either. Later when i called him he ran away from me. I found his home phone number and cried so he came back. We became friends again.

Now we're friends again. I am the only person he's talking to.he sent me his anime archieve, his original play station game cds, a SC Hydralisk action figure, he sent me flowers on my b-day. . . somehow there are some doubts in me. He might be lying to me in a few things. . . and i heard some bad things from a friend of both of us. . . I really don't know who to believe actually ^^;

things which confuses me;
- a friend of both of us (later i learned she lied to me about many things though) told me, he called her talked a bit. . . perverted things. . .well . . .
- He told me he met a friend of mine, spent time together but later i learned something like that never happened.

he's always so nice to me, i always think of him as a big brother. . . but somehow i'm really not sure about meeting him face to face. I really fear sometimes and think "what if he's actually not a nice person? he's just pretending?" i don't know. i really don't know. i can't talk about these doubts because he's easily broken. once he's down it's hard to take him back to surface. But i make him laugh, i really like doing it ^^

So. . . hat's the story. . . just wanted to share. . . anything you want to say?

thanks for advise ^^ that's probably what i'm gonna do :3 a part of me deeply believes that he's a really nice person but my other half always have doubts. heart

Ask him if he is willing to meet with you with your dad there, and your dad regularly carries a gun. If he's got nothing to worry about, he won't have a problem with that situation.

Nevertheless, still be cautious. There's countless stories about disasters happening in this situation.

Tip: MEET THIS PERSON IN A PUBLIC PLACE, WITH PEOPLE YOU KNOW. Like... your father?

disregarding other posts, and teh lack of intelligence that im hoping was accidental on the part of public meetings. give the guy a chance. and be open to things. you dont have to trust him, you dont have to not trust him
clean slate time. because in reality. i think you ant to get to know him for better or worse, and god damn any of you who ay othrewise. no quetion would be asked if it was not for a conflict, and a conflict is not there without two viewpoints stemming from the same desire. and i challenge any of you to prove me wrong. do such and i'll never bother again. grrrrr LOL

EDIT: look, i know i seem like an a** in this post. but i mean to. liars do get people place....in response to orikami. and i take that offensively. howevere. i dont care what offends me anymore.
i lie i cheat i steal, i threaten i maim, hell i have probably even killed. go with the fatehr bit. bt if you want him to be more open with you. bring two or three of your friends. and say you just met them. if you absolutely are woried. dont metion a gun. remember im a guy and damn it, i know how we, the male sex think. especially if we gonna harm somebody. look kid, there is no one here saying you have to meet him, and we want you to be safe. but I dont want you not getting a real impression of the kid. thats why i say feel a clean slate towards him. you know him from the web but dont judge him. of course people are all different. for me, i speak my god damn mind on th web and fook anybody else. i do care for people and i apologize when i have done damage, unless they are too pigheaded to actuaaly open their eyes to anothers viewpoints, then i tell them where to go. if you dont listen to me, fine i wont be responsible. but im telling you honestly.

If you want to get to know him, whether or not you decide to trust the guy, your going to have to give him a clean slate. dont judge him but onsider the facts of how he acts towards you and your friends. yeah sure he may tal pervertedly, hell if the guy has a p***s he has been a pervert I GUARANTEE IT. but that does not mean you have to listen to anyone who has a mouth, tongue and vocal cords. because if you do, your just giving way to stupidity and ignorance. which is never a good thing. mainly because ignorance promotes violence. kid I want you to be safe. But if you go to meet him and judge him already, you may miss something important due to your prejudice in looking at hm. look t the whole picture have fun and dont be afraid to go just because hes an online friend. bring soem friends wit you, go shopping, if at all see a movie or to an arcade. those are all public places, all with camera. but please, if your going to judge, do it after you try to get to know him.

thank you for the time, and i guarantee if you read this, and are not a bigot, you will understand why im trying to say all this. ( or if you have had a similar life)

i'll go now. later