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 Posted: Sun Jan 28, 2007 6:17 am
For those of you who are already out about your sexuality and gender. Just how out are you?
This question came to mind the other day while curled up with my sweetie. She had her head on my lap while we were watching TV. She looked up at me with a smile then she suddenly said, "You really are a dyke." I was confused because she already knows I'm a dyke and yes I'm perfectly fine with using that word because it is who I am and no longer an insult to me. Anyways, her reason for saying this was because my hair was short and messy, I was wearing a pride tank under a plaid shirt and she suddenly noticed just how much of a dyke I was.
I usually dress very boiish to the point that some think I'm a guy, until they talk to me that is. I always keep my hair cut short, never wear a shirt, have many pride articals of clothing (ex. Baseball cap with rainbow maple leafs across it, tank top with "Pride 3D" written on it, silver double female necklace and a rainbow triangle patch with a female sybol attacted to our bag.). So it is usually for anyone not to realize I'm a lesbian.
So are their anyone others here how are out and proud to be such.
jaa ne
Kat
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Posted: Sun Jan 28, 2007 4:47 pm
Well I'm out about being bi... and I came out as gay for a while but found a girl i love very much so I'm out as bi with a few friends who know im transgendered.
I am very open about my bisexuality, if some girls are talking about a hot guy i will join in, I am also rather flamboiant at times.
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 6:46 am
I love being bisexual!!!
ok lmao too literal
but yeah, everyone around me knows i'm a lesbian tomboy
I dress pretty boyish too, and my voice isn't exactly delicate
I dress girly every now and then just for the heck of it, but I'm usually black/camouflage baggy jeans and a black T-shirt. my bag is a huge rainbow (I'd post a picture of it if i had one, it's georgeous) and my shoelaces are rainbow too. I have pride pins all over my backpack and I usually wear like rainbow gloves and socks
It's not really a secret to anyone, I don't shout it out but it comes out unnecessary most of the time
anywho if anyone asks I answer directly... it's not only pride for my sexuality, it's self pride
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 8:16 am
z3r0bug I love being bisexual!!!
ok lmao too literal
but yeah, everyone around me knows i'm a lesbian tomboy
I dress pretty boyish too, and my voice isn't exactly delicate
I dress girly every now and then just for the heck of it, but I'm usually black/camouflage baggy jeans and a black T-shirt. my bag is a huge rainbow (I'd post a picture of it if i had one, it's georgeous) and my shoelaces are rainbow too. I have pride pins all over my backpack and I usually wear like rainbow gloves and socks
It's not really a secret to anyone, I don't shout it out but it comes out unnecessary most of the time
anywho if anyone asks I answer directly... it's not only pride for my sexuality, it's self pride That is good for you and yes it is self pride. People always asked why I went to the Pride marches and I told them it is more then just about being a dyke. It is about being proud of who you are inside and out. *nods* Bootsy girl - It is good that you are open about who you are. Opening up about being a trans is harder then opening up about being gay. I wish you luck in both feilds. jaa ne Kat
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 9:19 am
I'm out only on the internet and to a few close friends. I don't dare telling it to my family because I don't know how they would react. Especially my parents, since I'm still living with them and I don't have a job to support myself, I don't want to risk to be kicked out before I earn my own money.
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Posted: Tue Jan 30, 2007 12:49 pm
sandr17 I'm out only on the internet and to a few close friends. I don't dare telling it to my family because I don't know how they would react. Especially my parents, since I'm still living with them and I don't have a job to support myself, I don't want to risk to be kicked out before I earn my own money.
I mean having other people know it might cause you a little trouble but your parents are a whole nother deal. Maybe you can find what they think about it.
My parents are extremely homophobic. My mom knows cuz someone else told her and when she asked me i didn't care to lie, but if my dad finds out he'd probably kick me out of the house
and yeah, being kicked out at the age of 16 and with no highschool studies whatsoever...not nice
anyway, you can still tell people around you
or wear pride accesories =D they rule!!!!
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Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 4:51 am
I'd like to tell them sometimes though. Especially when they make "jokes" about gay people. I tell them that it's not nice to talk that way but I can't find the strength to tell I'm lesbian. Or when my mother or someone else in the family asks me if or when I'll have a boyfriend, and I tell "never" and they tell "you can't know" and I reply "oh yes I know" but I don't tell more than that redface
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Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 5:10 am
I'm out to my friends: They love me for who I am and I knew they would think the fact that I'm a lesbian was cool.
I'm out to my sister: She loves me, no matter what I am, and I knew she would understand.
I'm out to my mom: She's a lesbian herself, and it has just made us closer.
I'm out to the internet. It's not that hard to come out to a bunch of people you don't know.
I think my mom told her girlfriend and my grandmother. I'm okay with that. I don't know who else she's told. I wouldn't be surprised if she told all her friends, most of them are lesbians, too.
I'm still working on coming out to my dad.
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Posted: Thu Feb 01, 2007 4:42 pm
Well, I recently stopped liking guys. Something happened, and my mind shut itself off completely from heterosexuality. Before that, I'd come out as being bi to my parents, and my friends and stuff. (I never did like the bi pride flag, though >.>).
Now, though, not many people know that I'm a lesbian now. Because I don't know how to tell my parents (I told them I was bi through a poem)... even though it has nothing to do with being afraid they won't accept me. They're very open-minded... We have a lesbian couple as kinda family friends; they're like mine and my dad's friends, and they're really cool. But, yeah...
Mostly just my closest friends know, and it's on my Myspace... but. *Shrug* I don't have any rainbow stuff yet, just because I haven't had a chance to get anything.
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 2:31 pm
Is there such a thing as being too out for your own good? I think I passed that boundary a long time ago.
People I am out to:
~The entire internet
~Most of my school (My girlfriend and I don't bother to hide the fact that we are together)
~All of my friends (Some aren't aware that I'm a full lesbian now because we don't get to see each other much. My high school split into two last year so I lost contact with most people.)
~ My parents (I'm out as bi to them and I know I should tell them otherwise but I feel so incredibly guilty. I feel like I ruined my mom's dreams.)
~Some of my friends' parents
~My Cousin Jessica
People I am not out to:
~Any of my aunts, uncles, or grandparents. My family is super Catholic and I just don't want to start anything.
My Pride Accessories:
~ 15 rainbow ribbons (VP of my school's GSA so we always have tons)
~Rainbow rings that I keep on this necklace that I wear everyday. (Every charm on it is important to me and represents a part of me or my past. I'd lay down and die if I lost it.)
~ A rainbow pen
~ Rainbow tights
~A pin that has the two female symbols and says "Not just a phase"
~Another pin that has 2 girls on it and says "Who says I need a boyfriend?"
~ A shirt from Shoujo-ai Canada (Yes, I bought one of your shirts and I adore it)
~ A keychain that says "I kiss girls"
~ 2 shirts I made in GSA for our special occasions
~ A silence day shirt
Yea... That's not even all of it but I'm sure you are already rolling your eyes so I'll shut up.
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 5:51 pm
[(~Callista~)] Is there such a thing as being too out for your own good? I think I passed that boundary a long time ago. LOL, are you asking me that? I mean I've crossed the line way back before I knew what being a les was. Something about being dressed like a boy and kissing girls in the school years seems to make you instantly a dyke... Quote: My Pride Accessories: ~ 15 rainbow ribbons (VP of my school's GSA so we always have tons) ~Rainbow rings that I keep on this necklace that I wear everyday. (Every charm on it is important to me and represents a part of me or my past. I'd lay down and die if I lost it.) ~ A rainbow pen ~ Rainbow tights ~A pin that has the two female symbols and says "Not just a phase" ~Another pin that has 2 girls on it and says "Who says I need a boyfriend?" ~ A shirt from Shoujo-ai Canada (Yes, I bought one of your shirts and I adore it) ~ A keychain that says "I kiss girls" ~ 2 shirts I made in GSA for our special occasions ~ A silence day shirt Yea... That's not even all of it but I'm sure you are already rolling your eyes so I'll shut up. That is a nice collection. I want more pride stuff for my collection too. I'm glad you liked the t-shirts. Which one did you get? If it is not to much to ask. jaa ne Kat
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 7:41 pm
Yeah, I'm out to family and really close friends...There's too many people out there who're hostile toward the trans community...;.; So it's not something I'm allowed to express...But they all know that I'm queer...They just don't know what exactly is up. biggrin
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 12:45 pm
One of the girl+girl=love shirts.
Actually, I didn't buy it. My mom bought it for me and put it under the christmas tree. >.< Go figure.
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 1:27 pm
[(~Callista~)] One of the girl+girl=love shirts. Actually, I didn't buy it. My mom bought it for me and put it under the christmas tree. >.< Go figure. That is wonderful to hear. Nice to know there are parents that are that accepting. Good for you. jaa ne Kat
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