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 Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 5:21 pm
i start this so it can be used to discuss anything dealing with parents and their opinion on a relationship. my situation is this though, recently i just got a new boyfriend(excited as ever!)we like each other a lot and everything but the thing is i'm older than him by 1 1/2 years and he's of course still my seme. thing is because of the age thing, his mom is worried i'll hurt him or make him do something he doesn't want to do just because i'm a little older, even though i'm so much shorter and weaker.(my parents don't mind the relationship at all since they know i'm gay and as long as i use wise decisions)but she doesn't want him to see me anymore but we still want to and i don't know what to do. i don't know if any of you have ever had a problem with parents or even age differences but if you have any adivce, i'd highly appritiate it.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 6:37 am
That's kinda weird >> But then again, parents ARE weird lol But at least it's cool they're ok with you're being gay ^^
I have no idea how my family would react if I told them I have a girlfriend. I think my mom wouldn't mind. My dad, I hve no clue. My sis knows her but doesn't like her much (but my sister doesn't like anyone xp lol) And the rest of my family... Hard to say. Some of my friends know and they're ok with it so it's all good ^^
I think I'd prolly talk about it to my mom first. I'll have to before my trip home this summer, cause we're planning, my girlfriend and I, to go on a tiny vacation just the two of us. And it'd just be weird if I didn't tell my mom why ^^;;;
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 6:20 pm
Eh, never had a boyfriend.. so i dont know really...
But if my dad found out i'm gay >.>;;; He's like "Mr. Curch Guy" and.. ehh.. probably would disown me ._.;;;
I don't know about my mom..
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 9:58 pm
My parents are fine with me being gay. And they loved my ex-boyfriend, and he was a year younger than me. (Still me seme too, XD) His mother wasn't even aware he was bisexual at all, so needless to say, I don't have any experience in this kind of situation.
I don't really know what you should do, but I wouldn't give in. A happy relationship is too wonderful to let pass like that. I know that sounds stupid, and like a really cheesy line, but I mean it.
I guess I'd try and talk to his mom. I mean, so long as she's okay with him being gay and whatnot, and try to prove to her that you genuinely won't hurt him. I think if you go about it rationally, she'll see that you're trustworthy.
And if that doesn't work. I say go behind their backs. I'm all for respecting parent's rules, but at the same time, think of what you may be missing if you don't.
But if it would be putting him in serious danger of being hurt by his parents if they were to find out, I'd go very carefully and consider what may happen. I don't know if that's something you'd have to worry about with them or not, but it's certainly something you should think about...
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Posted: Mon Feb 05, 2007 9:12 am
My parents are nowadays okay with me being bi, even though they weren't at the beginning. o3o;;;; I dunno why; two of our best family friends are a gay couple. (or, well, mom was afraid that I'd be targeted and threatened by all homophobic bastards of the world if I told anyone else... she's a bit paranoid. Well, more than a bit...)
BUT I would never, ever tell them about my dating. D: They still think that me and my ex have always been just good friends. o3o;;; But I just... don't wanna hear all the stuff they'd say. xD Mom'd start asking way too much, she already does that with all my friends and dad'd tease me a lot. He already teases me about my friends... xD
Oh, damn, the statement before isn't exactly true. I'd tell them if I needed condoms, because I'm poor and they'd buy me if I asked. xD
I can imagine it...
"Err, mom. I have something to tell you."
"Oh, what?"
"I'm dating xxxx."
"Oh, really? That's nice."
"Well, we've been dating for a really long time."
"o_o Then why are you telling me now?"
"We need condoms."
"...okay. I'll ask your papa to buy some."
XDDD;;; Ahaha... that's how it'd probably go.
I'm sorry but I don't really have any advices for you. :/
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 6:25 pm
Thanks for all the imput and actually I don't even think his mom realizes what gender he's dating or likes, but his brother does.(kinda funny) So far no word on anything. As for my parents tolerance towards my tastes in people, again my mom never cared. Thought it was funny either that or was playing scenrios through her head(not surprising with her<<) My dad is OK with it to me face but who knows where else,(plus first finding out was a shocker and I suppose you could say disapointment) I just hope everything goes smoothly.
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 6:59 pm
Nekenshi Eh, never had a boyfriend.. so i dont know really... you do now! *huggles*
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Posted: Sat Sep 08, 2007 11:50 pm
*nods head* Hope things go well for you.
My mother... Is back and forth on the whole thing. She is alright enough that i'm bi. She just doesn't like my girlfriend specificaly half of the time (she bounces back and forth) and it's getting to the piont where my girlfriend is so not liking her most of the time. -_-
Her brother knows and is cool ^ ^;
My father would DISOWN me... most likely so we leave him in blissful ignorance ^.^
And her parents... would either take it badly, wouldn't care or would be fine but not want me sleeping over at the house... not specificaly because they'd try to keep us apart we think, but so they don't have to think about such things in their house etc...
- we're just staying better safe than sorry. 'sides i'm her 'close friend' ~.^
But yeah - _ - My mother tends to randomly hate my girl T T
I'm working on her though. If i have things my way she will have no choice but to just get used to her, or get over it.
^^;
Yup - NO choice there. At least not if i can help it.
I hope you never let someone else's opinions get in the way of your relationship though - if you feel that your ok responsibility wise, then it shouldn't matter that they're only 1 1/2 years younger. I'm actualy quite a few months older than my girlfriend, but that doesn't matter much for us, and we don't let it. (well... usually we don't. She's still a little depressed sometimes that she can't legally drink yet, while i can, so i try not to tease her about it too often ^^ wink
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Posted: Mon Sep 10, 2007 10:48 pm
I believe in the saying 'what they don't know wont hurt them' when it comes to my parents. Both are the biggest homophobes, specially dad though I think they suspect something cause dad keeps trying to catch me out and make me admit im gay but... i dunno, despite being given plenty of opotunities to come out about it i guess im just too chicken s**t to do so. I'd tell my brother before anyone and actually considered tell him recently but again I chickened out at the last minute >.> If i get a partner then and only then will i tell them i think, when I have someone im close to to fall back on when they disown me or whatever they'll do
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 10:38 pm
I am way too afraid to tell my parents crying
they once found me with my bf.. I was able to talk them out of thinking Im gay, it wasnt that hard since they've known some gfs... crying
Now my bf cant walk inside my house
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 8:45 pm
Well.. my mom has seemed to get a lot more angry and displeesed with me since she forced it out of me.. then my dad doesn't care.. wierd.. thought it would be the other way around huh? :/
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 8:49 pm
My mom knows. She is the gay pride mother. She told me shew knew since I was like five... and she was all for it.
My dad... I haven told him yet... he is super mormon... I think he would kill me... or send me to one of those camps... and though I would meet lots of men... I would be miserable... >.<
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Posted: Thu Sep 20, 2007 9:00 pm
I know how that goes.. I was so scared to tell.. ><
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Posted: Fri Sep 21, 2007 6:18 am
camps? are there like camps to cure people of being gay or something where you are? lols I find that insanely funny >.<
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Posted: Fri Sep 21, 2007 7:18 am
I heard there was, like mental hospitals, that kind of thing pisses me of.. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH US.. >.> Jeez.. people just don't understand anyways. :/
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