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 Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 9:49 am
Everything that comes out of my mouth or from my keyboard is just trash. I can't say anything or post a topic without somebody lashing out at me for whatever reason. I can't tell jokes. I'm no good at them. Besides, I don't even have a sense of humor. I prefer seriousness, and yet people have a problem with that, just because they like to poke fun at people who are not them.
And everytime I tell someone I have a problem, even a family member, they just tell me to shut up and stop complaining. It's just as bad as when I tell them something exciting or about something I like, and I can tell they're only pretending to listen.
Maybe this problem is not because I'm a Gemini, because I know that Gemini is supposed to be good at communicating, not horrendous at it like I am. I'm very shy and low-maintenence. Because of my problem, I try to be independent so that I won't bother others with my request or my horrible voice, or my stuttering. But it still hurts a lot. And some people can just get the help they want automatically and make friends so easily, but I can't.
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Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 10:06 am
Quote: Everything that comes out of my mouth or from my keyboard is just trash. I can't say anything or post a topic without somebody lashing out at me for whatever reason. I can't tell jokes. I'm no good at them. Besides, I don't even have a sense of humor. I prefer seriousness, and yet people have a problem with that, just because they like to poke fun at people who are not them. When its online you shouldnt take things so seriously. Some people like to flame and be mean for no reason whatsoever. If your a serious person, dont force yourself to be a joker. It comes off as insincere. People will probably like you better as you are. People should like you for the things you have to say anyway. Its just a lot of people are online solely to be smile, and laugh. Quote: And everytime I tell someone I have a problem, even a family member, they just tell me to shut up and stop complaining. It's just as bad as when I tell them something exciting or about something I like, and I can tell they're only pretending to listen. Sometimes people, even your family has a lot on their mind, and somethings take priority. Maybe its the tone you use. A LOT of people react the same way the second your voice goes from upset to whine-ing. Maybe you have a slightly whine-ing voice at these moment and didnt even realize it. I used to, and i caught myself doing so. After training myself out of it people take me more seriously. Quote: Maybe this problem is not because I'm a Gemini, because I know that Gemini is supposed to be good at communicating, not horrendous at it like I am. I'm very shy and low-maintenence. Because of my problem, I try to be independent so that I won't bother others with my request or my horrible voice, or my stuttering. But it still hurts a lot. And some people can just get the help they want automatically and make friends so easily, but I can't. I dont pay much attention to astrological signs because to me, they are simply for entertainment, and they are only occaisonaly correct. A lot of people are uncomfortable with their voices. mine is unsusualy deep for example. but you have to have confidence with your self when you speak. because stuttering seems to happen less often, and your voices pitch matters less than what you have to say.
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Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 11:36 am
I actually go through periods like that too, where everything I say is offensive or wrong. Basically its like walking through a mine field, so yeah, I understand where you're coming from. And no, every gemini isn't going to be great at communicationg, I'm supposed to be a social butterfly but I'm terrified of crowds. In fact most of the gemini's I know aren't great at communicating.
People online and off can be mean, and sometimes take their frustrations out on others. The fact that you are serious doesnt give them the right to dump on you, no matter what, but people are human. I've had to develop a tough skin, and it still hurts.
If people don't like you for who you are, they definitely don't deserve to have you force yourself to be something you're not. After all, you can't keep the act up forever, and it is wearying and makes you mentally and physically tired. They can accept you or they don't have to. But in most cases its them and not you who has the problem, so don't beat yourself up over it so much.
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Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 3:29 pm
Just shut up....HA..I'm totally just kidding. wink heart
I am the same way actually. I am the serious one in my group of 'friends'. Honestly, I don't like hanging out with them...I do because my fiance sort of likes them and they are in the area that I am, so might as well converse.
I do almost everything myself. I always have, and most likely always will.
Not EVERYthing that comes from your keyboard is trash...I have yet to see a post that you were mostly clear on. Have you seen my posts?! some of them I ramble on and on and I even lose MY train of thought and confuse myself!!
I have THE hardest time asking for help. I always feel crappy when I do. I *know* that it is OK for me to ask for help, but I still feel horrible when I do.
I was always the 'quiet smart girl' in school. I don't know how smart I am now, but in middle school and high school, I thought I was pretty darn smart.
It does hurt. And it will always hurt...its kinda one of those things you have to force yourself to learn to do. I have the hardest time saying 'no' to people. That is why I am the president of the group I'm in...I couldn't say 'no', so...now I'm paying for it.
I don't like telling jokes and stuff on-line because it is so very hard to tell what the person's voice inflections are. That is why online chats and even phones are so horrible! We NEED to be able to see your gestures and hear your voice inflections! Too many times have I seen 'fights' online over a simple joke or semi-sarcastic joke. There were even a few that looked like a sarcastic comment, but it really wasn't!
I still don't really have any friends...I have my fiance, and even he and I aren't always the best of friends...(gosh he annoys the heck outta me most days), and I have the people on here, whom I don't even really know. For all I know you guys could be old fat men with missing teeth here and there, who for some odd reason get off to metaphysical talk. For all I know, you all could be extremely inteligent 10 year olds, someone could be Sylvia Browne or Criss Angel on here, THREE of you could all be the same exact person but have multiple personality disorder or something!! You never know. But I still consider you guys friends of sorts. I enjoy discussing with you guys, so I consider you friends.
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Posted: Wed Feb 14, 2007 10:40 pm
I'm hoping that you are treated with respect in here. Otherwise, I will be pulling rank and giving people the boot.
I know that for some people communicating can be a bit tricky, but people who know and respect you should recognize any difficulties you have and give you the chance you need to speak your mind. It isn't fair if they don't.
You don't have to hide in here ok.
Be yourself, and say what you feel you need to.
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Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 9:10 am
Pinkcat Florist Everything that comes out of my mouth or from my keyboard is just trash. I can't say anything or post a topic without somebody lashing out at me for whatever reason. I can't tell jokes. I'm no good at them. Besides, I don't even have a sense of humor. I prefer seriousness, and yet people have a problem with that, just because they like to poke fun at people who are not them. And everytime I tell someone I have a problem, even a family member, they just tell me to shut up and stop complaining. It's just as bad as when I tell them something exciting or about something I like, and I can tell they're only pretending to listen. Maybe this problem is not because I'm a Gemini, because I know that Gemini is supposed to be good at communicating, not horrendous at it like I am. I'm very shy and low-maintenence. Because of my problem, I try to be independent so that I won't bother others with my request or my horrible voice, or my stuttering. But it still hurts a lot. And some people can just get the help they want automatically and make friends so easily, but I can't. i can not even get angry at anyone. i do not think it is a bad thing but my family does. i have never even been in a fight, or said a curse word in my life. i also never drank, and never smoked; and the only reason i ever get in trouble with anyone is i either procrastinate, or play around too much, to make people laugh. i am not sure if it is good or not but i can not get mad!
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Posted: Mon Mar 26, 2007 9:19 pm
cool m i can not even get angry at anyone. i do not think it is a bad thing but my family does. i have never even been in a fight, or said a curse word in my life. i also never drank, and never smoked; and the only reason i ever get in trouble with anyone is i either procrastinate, or play around too much, to make people laugh. i am not sure if it is good or not but i can not get mad! It's hard to say if that is a good thing or a bad one. On one hand you don't want to be keeping all of that negative emotion stored up some place and have it blow when you least expect it to. But then there are those who have mastered the ability to take life in stride and not get worked up over squabbles and petty disagreements. But hopefully, you are not surrendering yourself completely and allowing people to walk all over you because you do not want the confrontation. (eg cable company telling you you didn't pay a bill, but you have the receipt saying you did, but you pay it again anyway)
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Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 7:04 am
Thyna cool m i can not even get angry at anyone. i do not think it is a bad thing but my family does. i have never even been in a fight, or said a curse word in my life. i also never drank, and never smoked; and the only reason i ever get in trouble with anyone is i either procrastinate, or play around too much, to make people laugh. i am not sure if it is good or not but i can not get mad! It's hard to say if that is a good thing or a bad one. On one hand you don't want to be keeping all of that negative emotion stored up some place and have it blow when you least expect it to. But then there are those who have mastered the ability to take life in stride and not get worked up over squabbles and petty disagreements. But hopefully, you are not surrendering yourself completely and allowing people to walk all over you because you do not want the confrontation. (eg cable company telling you you didn't pay a bill, but you have the receipt saying you did, but you pay it again anyway) well, it just that, i do not let bad events make my day bad. a bad event in life, is just a lesson, in my oppinion. therefore, to me, nothing is bad. i have been told, i have a ghandi attitude. i would say him, and martin luthor king. nothing ever makes me angry. smile really, i know i shouldn't, but i do let people walk all over me. i like to please other people befor i please myself. i just do not see that as a bad thing. seeing other people happy makes me happy. and although it is said that shivalary is dead, it is not dead in me. i still make sure that i always practice shivalary, and i am shocked that other people are shocked. i just think that shivalary is the right thing.
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Posted: Thu Mar 29, 2007 8:58 am
cool m well, it just that, i do not let bad events make my day bad. a bad event in life, is just a lesson, in my oppinion. therefore, to me, nothing is bad. i have been told, i have a ghandi attitude. i would say him, and martin luthor king. nothing ever makes me angry. smile really, i know i shouldn't, but i do let people walk all over me. i like to please other people befor i please myself. i just do not see that as a bad thing. seeing other people happy makes me happy. and although it is said that shivalary is dead, it is not dead in me. i still make sure that i always practice shivalary, and i am shocked that other people are shocked. i just think that shivalary is the right thing. And that is cool about not worrying about bad events. But try not to let people take advantage of your kindness. One thing I've had to learn working as a support worker, is that there has to be a balance between taking care of ourselves so we can be more effective when we take care of others. If we don't we can quickly wear down and not be able to assist anyone. ...when in an airplane and the oxygen masks come down we have to put ours on first so that we can help others put on theirs. We are no good to them if we are the ones who pass out.
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2007 1:27 pm
Thyna cool m well, it just that, i do not let bad events make my day bad. a bad event in life, is just a lesson, in my oppinion. therefore, to me, nothing is bad. i have been told, i have a ghandi attitude. i would say him, and martin luthor king. nothing ever makes me angry. smile really, i know i shouldn't, but i do let people walk all over me. i like to please other people befor i please myself. i just do not see that as a bad thing. seeing other people happy makes me happy. and although it is said that shivalary is dead, it is not dead in me. i still make sure that i always practice shivalary, and i am shocked that other people are shocked. i just think that shivalary is the right thing. And that is cool about not worrying about bad events. But try not to let people take advantage of your kindness. One thing I've had to learn working as a support worker, is that there has to be a balance between taking care of ourselves so we can be more effective when we take care of others. If we don't we can quickly wear down and not be able to assist anyone. ...when in an airplane and the oxygen masks come down we have to put ours on first so that we can help others put on theirs. We are no good to them if we are the ones who pass out. yagh, that is true. i understand what you are saying, and i agree.
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