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I never really kept it a secret. I just never talked about the fact that the girl's I brought home were my girlfriends and the like. I just did not talk to my parents much at all to begin with and they never really payed much attention to me either. I remember feeling so embaressed when my mother once said:

"I'm your mother and I would know when you've had sex." She was so confident about knowing everything about me, but knew nothing.

The reason it was embaressing was because I had just come home from asleep over at my girlfriend's place and we did more then just innocent kissing.

I remember when I finally explained everything to her, this was when I was on my own at 19. She was upset because I was not dating anyone and I told her about all the girl's over the years. She refused to beleive me and brought up the knowing if I'd ever had sex comment again so I started listing several girls who had slept over and her weird rules of "Boy in your room, four on the floor and doors open." She did not care about girls it would seem. She was so appauled that she never noticed. *sighs* Guess I had to kiss a girl infront of her to get the picture.

Anyways that is enough out of me.

PS: I'm not sure why you guys keep spelling it that way but it is spelt "Phase" Sorry to nick pick.

jaa ne

Kat

i cam out to my motehr that I was bi and she decided it was just a phase.

Somehow, still not sure how, they found out I am trans... they said they were cool with it but have acted awquard a lot since then sad

thing i hate the most of parents is the fact they say one thing but it wont mean it when it applys to me! so some guy can become a a girl down the street but no its just a phase for me ill grow out of it! .... stare right mum ill grow out of it becuase ill be a girl soon mrgreen hehe and then after its just a phase she tells me she competely and utterly hates the idea of it but when its to support another person its differ sigh i just wish she didnt say she was a open minded person becuase thats what bugs me the most ! is she cant accpeted any fact that she will have a daughter soon....but still i wonder to becuase when i stopped cutting meh hair she ask about things and said if i was going to become a girl then she started messing with me calling me tamica and stuff crying i dont want that name ill keep it tony but toni with the i! but i still wonder want is worse ? over supportive or not at all?

Well thats hard to say she isnt really supportive if she's making a j/k of it and then later on freaks out.
You just have to be patient and try to understand where she is coming from. Since you were a baby she's looked at you as her baby boy and always will in a way but it will take her time to try and accept that you are her baby gal now...i say baby gal since even when your 40 she'll still think the same haha

If you ever want to talk PM me or post here i practically on every few hours lol

*hugs* I know it can be hard. Parents are a confusing bunch. They see you the way they want you to be and not the way you are. They tend to get disappointed when their vision of the child they dreamed does not appear. This happens for alot of people in different ways. I was always a dissapointment for my parents. I never understood why. They just never liked me. I guess that made it easier to let go, because I never really had any parents in my mind. They were just people who I lived with whom would rather yell at me then to hold me...

Just realize that your mother is trying to deal with this as best she can. She will go through alot fo confusion and may or maynot come to understand. It would seem my step mother and my mother-in-law had a better time understanding my situation then my own parents. I guess I lucked out in a strange way. My parents wanted a boy, but the school realized I was a girl right away and I was sent to the girl's gym class and told to use the teacher's washroom because no one know which one I should use. I got a chance, in a way, to figure myself out so by the time I was alittle older I knew I was different, but still one of the girls. Purberty is what killed me in the end. Sometime I wish I could have stayed a little girl, then my body wouldn't have tried to kill me. *sighs* Atleast everything is better now. For the most part.

Anyways, I'm sorry to go on and on... it is one of those days for me.

jaa ne

Kat