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Hey guys, I really need you all to pray for me.
Okay, I"ll try to explain the reason as best as I can.

My parents have fought a lot. I've come to terms with that. My father even told me that if it wasn't for me and my sister, he'd proably divorce my mother. Okay, still with me? Good.
NOw lately(my dad is a Mid-school basketball coach along with his band director job) my mother has been getting ticked. My Dad decided that for the rest of the season, he would help the High School as much as he could(they were his kids last year and the year before.) And my mom is very angry. I'm not sure, but she has been cussing him behind his back and everything l;ike that. Yesterday, my family went to Wal-Mart, I stayed home cause I was watching the end of a sesaon of Yu-Gi-Oh GX, and apparently my MOm had a hissy fit around my sister.(but I"m getting ahead of myself now) My dad was at the school helping with the High School practice, and my mom got back from a girl scout meeting with my sister and she was angry.

"WHERE IS YOUR DAD?" she yelled at me
"At the School." I said.
"WHY?"
"Helping with High School practice."
"HOW LONG HAS HE BEEN GONE!"
"Since 2."
She was shaking and I asked her what was wrong.
"WELL I WANTED TO GO TO WAL-MART!"
Then I asked her
"Do you want me to go and get him?"
Then she cussed him out behind his back a few times. I won't tell you what she said there. Then my sister and I walked to the school to get him.
We told him that she wanted to go to Wal-mart and she was ticked.
I told him she cussed him behind his back.
He said, "I"ll be there."
My sister and I walked home slowly.
Then he caught up to us and asked what had happned.
We told him everything. He sighed.
Then we got home.
My mom started yelling at my dad.
I don't remember exactly what they said.
Then they went to Wal=mart and I was home alone, basking in the quiteness.
Then later, they got home. We ate KFC and it was relativly quiet, but I could tell that my mom was still angry.


Even later,(my sister has a basketball game today, little leauge) my sister and I were sitting on my bed. We were listening to my parents fight. I don't remember everything that was said, but one thing my dad said still is in my mind.
"Janis,"(my mom)"I have tried to be loving, and I love you. But I know you don't love me the same way. You keep pushing me away and you keep getting angry at me."
Then he said<" I know I have never said anything bad about you to the girls, I have never cussed you behind your back. They have never heard a bad thing about your from me. And when you get angry, you cuss me. The girls don't need to be put in the middle of this, I know you don't love me the same way I love you. you push me away. I don't know what to do."

Then it got quiet. And my sister was scared. WE never heard what my mother said, but I don't think she said anything. She was just like a little kid, sulky in the corner(but in her case, the computer). I will say, I have slightly cried. But I don't know why. the only thing I"m scared of, the only two things, is if they ever do get divorced, the fact that my family will become a stastic, and if they do, what it will do to my sister. She will become like I was a few years ago. And that is not good. And even today, my mom won't really speak to me or my sister. ANd my sister is having fun complaining about my mother to me.
Now understand, I don't like my mom, and I don't really love her, but I don't want her and my father to split up. I have always wondered if they would. And I'll admit, when I was younger, I wanted that. But i was not a Christian when I was younger. I did not know God's way, all I knew is that when people at the alter said," Till death do us part." I always thought they should said," Till divorce do us part."

So I know that was really long, but please pray for me. Pray for my parents.

In all honesty if they aren't Christians (your parents) then it's probably wise for them to split up for some time. Because it does more harm for parents to stay together fighting all the time with each other to where there kids can hear than it does for them to split up. Yea it was rough for me when my parents slipt and everything, and to this day I know part of it is my fault..(Saw my mom cheating on my dad). But I know I'd be completely screwed over had my parents stayed together and just agrued you. And I remember going over to my sister and hugging her crying when my parents fought, so I was glad when that was over.

Now if they are Christians and it was God's will for them to get married then they need to go see a pastor or a marriage cousor and get things right. Maybe you could hint and say my pastor might be able to help or something like that. I hint those things to my mom when she goes to church with me and is nervous about alter calls. And if they were CHristians when they got married part of the problem could be they lost sight of God in their marriage, and they just need to refind him.

But if it wasn't in God's will maybe it's coming back at them, not saying that it can't work and they need a divorce, but time a part can help that stuff too why they really think on things. But don't pray for them to stay together or for them to even split apart. Just pray that God's hand is on them and their relationship and may his will, whatever it may be, come to pass.

And I have a Pastor at my church he married out the will of God and ended up getting divorced. Now he is forgiven and has married the person God had intended for him. So yea his marriage fell apart because he didn't follow the will of God but when he corrected it, his life was blessed and his daughter was much happier as well. She was sad her parents where together but much happier that her dad was living God's will and not his own. (I don't know her mom so I can't speak on if her mom is following God or not.)