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As most of us here have Asperger's Syndrome, we all have our indiviual and slightly odd ways of talking. I was wonder how we speak to people.

For me, when talking to someone in person, I usually talk in a soft tone so I don't strain my voice too much. I also usually go circullar about a subject, meaning I can talking about astrophysics, then talk about theology, then come back to astrophysics by tying it to theology.

The one really obvious difference in the way I speak and NTs' manner of speaking has to do with volume, mainly. I have a really hard time judging how loud my voice should be versus how loud it actually is, and am constantly being told I'm yelling, that I'm way too loud, or something else to that extent. I also have what's basically the polar opposite of a monotone--I have a very...enthusiastic voice, and also use a lot of gestures. Think of how a motivational speaker usually acts and talks, except this time it's applied to every aspect of life.

I am very soft-spoken and people often have to tell me to speak up. My voice is not totally monotone but it is somewhat flat, and I have a difficult time getting inflection into it. When I do, it is quite concious effort.

On occasion, I will get too loud, as well, or just talk and talk and talk, but most often I am extremely quiet.. to the point where some people didn't even think I could speak, when I was in high school.

The way I talk? I guess I must be a bit confusing because I find people don't always understand what I'm trying to say. Around people I don't know too well, I tend to be laconic. When I try explaining things to people they often go "WTF?" and I have to find a way to rephrase it. Around friends I talk a lot more freely, and my meaning is usually discerned throughout a conversation. My speech is a bit more formal and elaborate than most, also, I think.

When talking to someone, especialy when they've asked a question that I don't really know the answer to or how to explain it, my voice is "soft" even though I don't realize it is with my special hearing and it probably just ends up as a muffle. I cannot say anything without 'uh' or 'um' to give me time to think of what I should say unless I've thought about the answer before. They person usally asks me to repeat myself, which I hate. I do not make much eye contact while talking and with the combination of all this, people have mistaken me for being "shy".

Thank you guys for responding to my topic. ^_^

Hm, it seems most of us have volume control difficulties. Does that mean people with Asperger's have a hard time in using correct tones and volumes when speaking? It's just a thought, and I'm sure it's wrong.

Anyway, I also see that I am not the only one who uses hand gestures when talking. Maybe it's another way Aspies communicate.

My brother uses his hands a lot. People often tell me to shut up because I am talking "too loud". I think they're stupid.

People are always telling me I need to be quieter..... I am much better as to when I was younger, but my voice is not easily modulated....

Ah, I get the opposite a lot. "Smile!" "Why aren't you smiling?!"



My brother complains to me about that a lot. I'm constantly using words he doesn't know. Not that they are particularly unusual or difficult, they are just more formal than most people would use in the particular conversation.