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Samurai_Warrior_FoX Vice Captain
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 Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 7:26 am
Should arranged marriages be outlawed?
Arranged marriages make up vastly the higher percentage in human history but have, largely in the last century, become unusual and morally questioned in the Western world.
Pros
Arranging marriages is an insult to the very nature of marriage, which should be about creating a loving and lasting partnership and family. It reduces a central part of what is fundamentally a religious ceremony (and every religion, including Islam, guarantees choice) to a commercial transaction and therefore undermines family values. This is even more an issue where people come into a country where marriage is seen as a central value that should be free, where it is a specific challenge to any moral code.
Cons
Arranged marriages are very much ‘real’ marriages. Vastly more marriages than not in human history would fall under any sensible definition of arrangement. More than that, an unusually small number of arranged marriages actually end in divorce. Maybe we should look harder at whether Pop stars marriages constitute ‘real’ marriages if we are about to make that distinction. More seriously, millions of people marry for the ‘wrong’ reasons: financial security, desire for children, parental pressure and lack of choice among potential partners. It is pure romanticism to claim that marriages must be love matches or they should be stopped. This only serves to illustrate that it is impossible to make any sensible division between what is and isn’t an arranged marriage and therefore quixotic to attempt a ban.
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Posted: Fri Mar 02, 2007 11:48 am
I agree with you on this one. I also agree that arranged could lead to divorce. However i dont think that it is ok in any way i think that people should marry for love.
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Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 8:12 am
I would never be for the Arranged marriages . Not because of my personal needs but because ever since I was a little girl. My answer to that question was "You should marry the person you love".
But sometimes, parents that are for arranged marriages. Their motive isn't all that bad. I mean they get to choose whom their child gets to marry. They get to choose what they like for their child.
Then, there is the problem of the child wanting to find the person they so desire. Or the child not wanting to marry into the family their parents chose for them.
So in some cases it may be a good thing and in others a bad. Some people like to do things as an individual and discover the person they want to marry on their own.
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Posted: Sun Mar 04, 2007 6:50 am
green_sparkles44 I would never be for the Arranged marriages . Not because of my personal needs but because ever since I was a little girl. My answer to that question was "You should marry the person you love".
But sometimes, parents that are for arranged marriages. Their motive isn't all that bad. I mean they get to choose whom their child gets to marry. They get to choose what they like for their child.
Then, there is the problem of the child wanting to find the person they so desire. Or the child not wanting to marry into the family their parents chose for them.
So in some cases it may be a good thing and in others a bad. Some people like to do things as an individual and discover the person they want to marry on their own. Most parents in the East do this to ensure wealth or family name etc, stays in the family or to expand the family with even more wealth and name.(Name here being religious status in the title of you name. In India and Japan for example name long ago meant power and your place in he class system) Now most families the west would do this to ensure a good match for their child due to the lack of morals in today's society.
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Samurai_Warrior_FoX Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 9:07 am
i believe you should marry for love not someone you are forced to marry. it would lead to a life of misery but then again look at people who marry for love does it always last? there are alot of things that go with marriage and no one really stays together anyways. so no it shouldnt be outlawed i think its ok but its not at the same time. at least when you get divorced (if they do) they dont go broke from it.....
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Posted: Tue May 29, 2007 3:08 am
Samurai_Warrior_FoX green_sparkles44 I would never be for the Arranged marriages . Not because of my personal needs but because ever since I was a little girl. My answer to that question was "You should marry the person you love".
But sometimes, parents that are for arranged marriages. Their motive isn't all that bad. I mean they get to choose whom their child gets to marry. They get to choose what they like for their child.
Then, there is the problem of the child wanting to find the person they so desire. Or the child not wanting to marry into the family their parents chose for them.
So in some cases it may be a good thing and in others a bad. Some people like to do things as an individual and discover the person they want to marry on their own. do this to ensure wealth or family name etc, stays in the family or to expand the family with even more wealth and name.(Name here being religious status in the title of you name. In India and Japan for example name long ago meant power and your place in he class system) Now most families the west would do this to ensure a good match for their child due to the lack of morals in today's society. I have to tell you that the Eastern parents do that because they care about their children but they don't FORCE them to marry someone if they don't love them! They just tell their children that they want them to marry this person and wait for their reply.. But if they FORCE them then they will get divorced eventually!
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2007 12:28 am
You know, in a way, arranged marriages is a good thing. I would think the parents would look into the people their children are to marry. That would help reduce the number of people who get stuck into marriages with bad people.
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2007 9:42 am
It is good in every way!
Believe in the Middle East they don't do anything bad or wrong except the bad people!
The parents mostly want the best for their children! xd
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