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 Posted: Mon Nov 08, 2004 11:37 pm
*sighs* I need help or advice. I need to tell the peson that I am goign with what I am. But I do not kno whow to do so. As I fear that if Ido, itmight change things between us ina bad way. I jsut dont know how to tell her that I am a Vampire...
VK knows who I am talking about. But this person lives in Pennsylvania, and will be coming down to visit me in Alabama in January. But I still dont know what the hell to do.
*Edit: VK fixed the "heel" to "hell" cause it was bugging her lol
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Posted: Mon Nov 08, 2004 11:52 pm
well like I said before ease her on the "do you like vampires?" and stuff like that and go into the occults if she does like it and well... just... wow your difficult lol
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 3:59 am
I never quite understood how people could find it so difficult to tell others about their spirituality. Use common sense. You don't want to overwhelm anybody so keep things simple.
It helps if she has some prior knowledge of the occult but assuming this is not the case, again, keep things simple. Don't be upset if she doesn't immediately accept it either. In the past I have run into a few snags when telling others I am a therian (mind you, I try to avoid the term 'were' when describing therianthropy to someone) but eventually these individuals came around after realizing I was the same person I had always been.
Good luck to yee.
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 10:40 am
Thank you for the advice so far. Yes I know I am a bit difficult VK. But thtasa just the way I am. This woman, I care for her very deeply. She has told me that the only way I could screw things up with her is to 1) Break up with her to go out with another girl. Which wont happen. and 2) Not being mself. Which I cant not be myself.
But still it is rather a sensitive area to some people. As I dont want to scare her off ya know.
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 1:01 pm
First, I'd introduce the topic of vampires. Talk about a vampire movie or book or something. Better yet, talk about that show Mad Mad House. Then lead into Don, or real vampires. Never mention yourself, just explain "their" philosophies. If she still seems open to it, then say that you wanted to talk about this because you are one.
I think that that would be a good way to do it! Good luck! (I wish that I had your courage)
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 5:33 pm
You may also want to make sure she understands the real truth about vampires not the mythical kind. Starting a conversation on them is also a very good idea. But, if she really likes you and cares for you than she won’t leave you but things might be uncomfortable for a wile. I do wish you the best of luck relationships are hard, but worth it in the end.
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 7:32 pm
This is what I did with my lover...
I went into the conversation of occult things... I asked her if she liked old monster movies such as The Mummy, Frankenstein, etc... Then I got on the topic of how those things "might" actually be real. Continue on that subject for a while... Then gently tell her after you've given her a couple of facts. But don't rush into it...
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 9:21 pm
Again, thank you all for your support on this matter, and thank you for the advice. I will be sure to do the things that you all have mentioned. as they are all along the same lines. I really do appreciate the support. although I will still be careful as to how I go about bringing it up. But Thanks. smile sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Nov 09, 2004 9:54 pm
Valdimyr *sighs* I need help or advice. I need to tell the peson that I am goign with what I am. But I do not kno whow to do so. As I fear that if Ido, itmight change things between us ina bad way. I jsut dont know how to tell her that I am a Vampire... VK knows who I am talking about. But this person lives in Pennsylvania, and will be coming down to visit me in Alabama in January. But I still dont know what the hell to do. I'd go with VK's way... Ask her questions first on how she feels about the subject of Vampires. The try to ease in that there are "real" vampires out there, but not as people would think. Give her facts about real vamps and how they interact with todays society... That's pretty much the way to handle this sort of situation.
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Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2004 12:23 pm
Well I can tell you what I did with my fiancee. What I did to see if she would understand was get into a topic on vampires and anne rice. I starting putting in questions like, "Do you think that vampires are real?" Or "If you d beleive in them, do you happen to know the names for them?" I asked lotsa questions having to portain to them, and then I finally told her when I knew that she was okay with it.
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Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2004 11:31 pm
If all else fails, bite her. Gently.
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Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2004 8:29 pm
Akita_Kawatachi If all else fails, bite her. Gently. umm if all else fails biting is not an option. As we have had a talk on ummm biting already.... and that would lead to somethign not abotu what we are talkign about... But thanks anyway.
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Posted: Wed Dec 01, 2004 3:44 am
Valdimyr Akita_Kawatachi If all else fails, bite her. Gently. umm if all else fails biting is not an option. As we have had a talk on ummm biting already.... and that would lead to somethign not abotu what we are talkign about... But thanks anyway. I was being sarcastic, Vlad. But seriously, take things slowly, and be ready to drop the subject for a little while before bringing it up again. If things go wrong, it might be a good idea to distract her for a little while. ...y'know, the base of the neck is home to a nice set of nerves that connect directly to the brain's pleasure center, and we, of all people, know best how to manipulate that area in a sensual and intimate way...
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Posted: Sat Jan 15, 2005 7:40 pm
If she rejects you when you tell her... Shes not the right one for you.
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2005 6:49 pm
Vampress-NE- If she rejects you when you tell her... Shes not the right one for you. i will agree with her if she just doesn't understand you or hates you for it then she's not worth it. maybe try watching vampire movies with her and see how so likes them and while your watching the movies just start talking about vampires and see if she thiks they're cool and what not. but i guess if she truely loves you then she'll accept you no matter what, a bunch of ppl that i kno i never thought i could tell them much less my b/f but he still loves me anyways. so give it a try, you never kno what'll happen until you try never give up. after all she might be one too! =^_^= but yea just never give your hopes up! =^_^= heart 4laugh blaugh
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