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 Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 2:31 pm
Hello! Since we seem to have a lot of threads going on about seeking advice or needing support with your sexual orientation, I decided to make a cute little Sticky where you can post your questions or just tell us what is going on and how it makes you feel. After all, we want the Uke Guild's members to feel like they are part of one big family! Because, well, you are! heart
I hope you guys will use this! 4laugh
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Posted: Fri Jul 08, 2005 7:53 pm
I guess I'll start this off with one thing bugging me a little, and I'm sure it bugs a lot of other homo/bisexuals also.
Eh, maybe this is more of a discussion, but I am sure advice will come from this somehow.
Well, I want to tell my parents I am homosexual, but sadly, it's in my personality to shy away from saying things to people. I have thought up a better way, through actions, to let them figure it out on their own. The other day, I changed my wallpaper on my computer from shounen ai (They know and think I am only a yaoi fangirl [they don't know about how I like yuri too]) to a picture of some catgirl almost showing her underwear (Don't know if that's too much @_@).
I also recently bought a rainbow coloured collar to wear on my arm, also I will go to the mall one day and get some more rainbow stuff. XD
My mom also cought a glimpse of a page and wanted to know what it was (It was just the Gaia posting page, I didn't type anything yet), but I have a links toolbar and I have "Literate Bi-Lesbian Guild" on it, and I'm not sure if she saw that or not. ><
All in all, they're very accepting people, and I'm pretty sure they won't think of me any differently, but I would like them to know, I just don't want to tell them with words. My brother already knows.. XD;; The conversation when it was obvious:
Brother: "Hey, look at the TV"
Me: "Why?"
Brother: "Oh, nevermind. I forgot that you hate girls"
Me: "I love girls!!" ...... -hides-
e_e It ended up, he doesn't really care, but being the idiot he is, he makes fun of me once in a while like always.
So? How did you guys tell your family? I'm pretty curious. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 3:52 pm
*Is too shy to post his question here*
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 6:51 pm
Rokku-kun *Is too shy to post his question here* Don't be! ^^ That's what this thread is for! All the stuff you're too shy to actually ask or talk about in R/L ^^ After all, no one here will judge. And if they ever do... *takes out her trusty chainsaw* They'll have to deal with me! twisted hehehe So, just ask away! ^^ *patpats*
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 10:28 am
Kusa-chan Rokku-kun *Is too shy to post his question here* Don't be! ^^ That's what this thread is for! All the stuff you're too shy to actually ask or talk about in R/L ^^ After all, no one here will judge. And if they ever do... *takes out her trusty chainsaw* They'll have to deal with me! twisted hehehe So, just ask away! ^^ *patpats* Awwww thanks Kusa-chan...*huggles*
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 2:11 pm
Rokku-kun Kusa-chan Rokku-kun *Is too shy to post his question here* Don't be! ^^ That's what this thread is for! All the stuff you're too shy to actually ask or talk about in R/L ^^ After all, no one here will judge. And if they ever do... *takes out her trusty chainsaw* They'll have to deal with me! twisted hehehe So, just ask away! ^^ *patpats* Awwww thanks Kusa-chan...*huggles* No prob! That's what I'm here for! whee *huggles back*
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 4:51 pm
(K)[i](w)[i] I guess I'll start this off with one thing bugging me a little, and I'm sure it bugs a lot of other homo/bisexuals also.
Eh, maybe this is more of a discussion, but I am sure advice will come from this somehow.
Well, I want to tell my parents I am homosexual, but sadly, it's in my personality to shy away from saying things to people. I have thought up a better way, through actions, to let them figure it out on their own. The other day, I changed my wallpaper on my computer from shounen ai (They know and think I am only a yaoi fangirl [they don't know about how I like yuri too]) to a picture of some catgirl almost showing her underwear (Don't know if that's too much @_@).
I also recently bought a rainbow coloured collar to wear on my arm, also I will go to the mall one day and get some more rainbow stuff. XD
My mom also cought a glimpse of a page and wanted to know what it was (It was just the Gaia posting page, I didn't type anything yet), but I have a links toolbar and I have "Literate Bi-Lesbian Guild" on it, and I'm not sure if she saw that or not. ><
All in all, they're very accepting people, and I'm pretty sure they won't think of me any differently, but I would like them to know, I just don't want to tell them with words. My brother already knows.. XD;; The conversation when it was obvious:
Brother: "Hey, look at the TV"
Me: "Why?"
Brother: "Oh, nevermind. I forgot that you hate girls"
Me: "I love girls!!" ...... -hides-
e_e It ended up, he doesn't really care, but being the idiot he is, he makes fun of me once in a while like always.
So? How did you guys tell your family? I'm pretty curious. 3nodding i think you're being too subtle. if you must leave hints why dont you just write it out? or have your brother tell them? haha...maybe not sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 5:16 pm
I'd kill him if he told them. >_< But then again, this is the first and only thing he's kept a secret for me.. so I'm not gonna be too mad at him this time. And if I wrote it out... o_o;; I'd just be sitting there with the paper and pencil in my hand, staring at the paper, staring at "Hello parents. I never told you, but I am a lesb...." And then I would probably, eventually rip up the paper and throw it in the trash... ^^;; I'm too shy! Grrr!
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 5:34 pm
(K)[i](w)[i] I'd kill him if he told them. >_< But then again, this is the first and only thing he's kept a secret for me.. so I'm not gonna be too mad at him this time. And if I wrote it out... o_o;; I'd just be sitting there with the paper and pencil in my hand, staring at the paper, staring at "Hello parents. I never told you, but I am a lesb...." And then I would probably, eventually rip up the paper and throw it in the trash... ^^;; I'm too shy! Grrr! There must be a way to let them know. Unless you don't them to... ^^;;
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 7:07 pm
AH! The heck with it...I'll post it... but first...this is My story (so click there). Anyway...back to my issue. Like it says in my story...I am not sure wether I am Bi or Bi-curious...whenever I try to admit it to myself...I just feel strange...One time I even feared myself for it. So if this has happened to anyone, how did you accpet it? I dont care if you are bi/gay/les but how did you just accept it? When I discovered Yaoi...I liked it then and enjoy it too I just had this strange feeling towards guys....like if I see a cute or hot looking guy I just say to myself "that guy is hot" and nothing else and I am afraid to talk to the girls about it, though some of them are Bi...I just think that they will think I am strange and blab it out to everyone else. I dont act all girlish and talk with a lisp....Im just myself....I just feel that attraction but I also like girls since before i have been kissed by them, hugged, frenched (but it was because the two girls and I were hiding from someone else and playing hide-and-seek) I hope Im not sounding too pathetic stressed I cannot put them into words but it seems like a "do-I-like-them-both" sorta thing >_< I just dont know how to accept...
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 11:31 pm
(K)[i](w)[i] I'd kill him if he told them. >_< But then again, this is the first and only thing he's kept a secret for me.. so I'm not gonna be too mad at him this time. And if I wrote it out... o_o;; I'd just be sitting there with the paper and pencil in my hand, staring at the paper, staring at "Hello parents. I never told you, but I am a lesb...." And then I would probably, eventually rip up the paper and throw it in the trash... ^^;; I'm too shy! Grrr! ok but before you said you were into yaoi? doesnt that make you bi? anyway sorry if the writing thing seemed stupid to you, *but i wanted so much to help crying * Anyway, it worked for me when i wanted to express in words how much i hated my dad...wow lol im sure you didnt expect that one coming.. xp
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2005 7:29 am
Kusa-chan, yes, I very much would like them to know.. ^^;;
Rokku-kun, I was (rather, thought I was) straight, bi-curious, bi, and now I've realized I'm just full homosexual. XD It all came to me very very quickly and had to 'adjust' for a bit... I thought of myself no different, just the same. I came to figure that I loved girls after I fell in love a couple times with girls, and when I did fall in love, it felt so much better than when I had loved guys. I just felt 'more' in love. Mistake.. really. But at least I learned what I am, and I accept it fully. whee
Renegade, oh, yeah, I still love yaoi. XD Though, that's only drawings. Not real life. I'm attracted to girls in real life, but I feel nothing towards guys. ^^;; And no! Thanks for the suggestion! I never thought of that before, but to me, that's just like saying it to them.. XD;;;;;; So.. Thank you anyway for trying to help me. ^^ heart
And, no, I didn't really expect that. x3;;; I won't ask why, if it's personal.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 4:32 pm
(K)[i](w)[i] Rokku-kun, I was (rather, thought I was) straight, bi-curious, bi, and now I've realized I'm just full homosexual. XD It all came to me very very quickly and had to 'adjust' for a bit... I thought of myself no different, just the same. I came to figure that I loved girls after I fell in love a couple times with girls, and when I did fall in love, it felt so much better than when I had loved guys. I just felt 'more' in love. Mistake.. really. But at least I learned what I am, and I accept it fully. whee ^_^ ...Thanks...I kinda feel like that right now...Well to tell the truth I kinda have this teeny tiny crush on my friend (yes...who happens to be a boy) but I dare not say anything. He did tell me once that he didnt have any problems with Bi's (since like I mentioned before, I have friends who are Bi) *phew* Thanks to them...I could just hug them all!
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 7:30 pm
Aaaaaah my heart is still beating very fast.. >_____< Well, my mum knows now... And she's talking to my dad at the moment....
Oki, here's how it went... I had heard about the show, "The L Word", but I didn't know it was apparently about lesbians.. I asked my mom if I could go rent it and she pulled up a page about it and saw that it was about lesbians and asked me, "Hey Sam.. Is this your sexual preferance? The show's about lesbians.." Aahh.. >____<; The convo went akwardly with her asking me questions and bringing up church and stuff (I've never gone to church before, only twice and a friend invited me, mind you it wasn't my best experience..) about how she wants me to at least learn about it before I push it away. I was talking about how I had no religion and all that, how I wasn't christian, but she wants me to learn. I know she's never going to take me to church anyway though, they've never liked forcing me to do things I don't want to do unless I have to.
The only part of the convo that made me a little mad was when she said "--people your age experiment--" >.< I'm not experimenting with my sexuality...
-sigh- At least it went okay, she knows now, and she thinks of me no different. ^____^ I'm very happy now, even though it was an odd way to bring it up and the talk was weird.
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 8:55 pm
(K)[i](w)[i] Aaaaaah my heart is still beating very fast.. >_____< Well, my mum knows now... And she's talking to my dad at the moment....
Oki, here's how it went... I had heard about the show, "The L Word", but I didn't know it was apparently about lesbians.. I asked my mom if I could go rent it and she pulled up a page about it and saw that it was about lesbians and asked me, "Hey Sam.. Is this your sexual preferance? The show's about lesbians.." Aahh.. >____<; The convo went akwardly with her asking me questions and bringing up church and stuff (I've never gone to church before, only twice and a friend invited me, mind you it wasn't my best experience..) about how she wants me to at least learn about it before I push it away. I was talking about how I had no religion and all that, how I wasn't christian, but she wants me to learn. I know she's never going to take me to church anyway though, they've never liked forcing me to do things I don't want to do unless I have to.
The only part of the convo that made me a little mad was when she said "--people your age experiment--" >.< I'm not experimenting with my sexuality...
-sigh- At least it went okay, she knows now, and she thinks of me no different. ^____^ I'm very happy now, even though it was an odd way to bring it up and the talk was weird. Well, at least the cat 3nodding And they seem to be taking it pretty well ^^
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