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 Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 7:55 pm
In Freshman year, a visiting playwright had us perform a little exercise that I think is pretty telling. As a supplement to this discussion, you should try it out too.
List ten things you love about your personality. Now, list ten things you love about your body.
Which of the lists was more difficult?
Which was the fastest?
Are you entirely convinced of what you listed?
Take a look at any grocery store's magazine stand. Diet tips and weight loss secrets, flat abs and two sizes lost are emblazoned in large type across happy, smiling women. Read this magazine, and get in shape for bikini weather. Read that magazine, style your hair like the celebrities. And this one--lose fifteen pounds in thirty days! And that one--clear skin and make up secrets!
The diet and cosmetics industries direct their attention towards women, who control much of the world's wealth.
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2007 8:10 pm
Personality:
1. I'm ambitious.
2. I'm hard-working.
3. I'm obedient.
4. I'm organized.
5. I have a sense of humor.
6. I have a lot of love to give, especially to one person in particular.
7. I read well.
8. I love to learn about everything.
9. I hate ignorance.
10. I strive for excellence.
Body:
1. My skin is a nice yellow-toned color.
2. My eyebrows are thick, but not too thick, so they look very nice when waxed, and they don't need any pencil.
3. My teeth are very straight and even.
4. I have a long neck.
5. I have strong arms that are good for working.
6. I have long fingers.
7. I have strong finger nails that grow quickly and barely ever break.
8. I have wide hips.
9. I have long legs.
10. I have delicate bones.
In my case, both of these lists were almost excruciating. When I reached the body list, I realized how little I actually liked about my body. I went from my head to my toes, and I strained to find features I really liked. I found several times more problems and flaws than I did good features. I’m struck by how great the difference must be between what I see in the mirror and what my boyfriend must think, because he always says I’m flawless.
I’m not the best test subject, or, maybe, I’m a very good one—I have an eating disorder, and, contrary to popular belief, you have to hate your spirit before you can hate your body enough to really hurt it like that.
My theory relates to these lists—I believe that the media benefits, and therefore fuels, our self-loathing. We are uncomfortable with our bodies because we compare them with the impossible standards set by starved models and plastic celebrities. From childhood, we play with Barbie dolls with tiny waists and enormous breasts. Our bodies will always fall short of this madness.
As long as we find flaws in our appearances, the cosmetic and diet industries will find ready consumers anxious to correct their faces and bodies.
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Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2007 1:30 pm
This is going to be hard as hell for me... Especially with what I've gone through recently...
Personality:
1. I'm witty.
2. People feel better with me because I'm outgoing.
3. I can be really sweet.
4. I have some good ideas.
5. I know what to say when.
I can't really think of anything else....
Body:
1. My stomach is generally flat...
2. I have long legs....
3. I'm thin.
That's really it... It's very hard to love the way you look when you're slightly deformed... Which, you're going to say I'm not, but I actually am. Medically, I have skeletal deformities... That, and I'm getting over a break up, so all I've really heard are bad things about me... Wow... Mere... You beat me. >.<
I would definately try to reassure you, Mere. But I know I can't because I don't know you that well... When people try to reassure me, and they don't know me very well, it ends up being weird. They say I'm nice, and understanding, and giving... Woah, ok... I'm totally not, and I'm proud of that! But, you wanted us to list good qualities... So... yeah... I'm a b***h...
I do know that it is very good that you can think well of yourself, Mere. You need to, it's very good... Every time I start to like myself, something bad happens to me... So, I'm not very fond of myself right now... Hopefully, I'll get better soon...
I'm not as well off as I thought I was... -_-
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Posted: Mon Apr 02, 2007 12:58 pm
Jeez, well, I guess I should do this.
Personality:
1. I have a sense of humour
2. I have a good imagination
3. I am realistic
4. I'm loyal
5. I'm clever
6. I will fight for what I believe in
Um...there may be more but I can't think of anything now.
Body:
1. I have a bright smile
2. I have pretty eyes
3. I have wonderful hair considering how much I do to it
4. I have soft hands
5. I have strong fingernails
6. I have strong legs
7. I have well-shaped ears
8. I have a nice rosey complextion so I don't need make-up
And that's all I can think of.
I personally think I'm a pain in the you-know-where and I hate how I look. And I can't honestly say I believe all of what I just said.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2007 12:56 pm
Personality:
1.I love to give
2.Loyal
3.helpful
4.modest
5.loveable?
6.amusing
7.silly
8.Creative
9.mom-like ish
10. harmonious (I like everything to be in harmony and peaceful and fair--I'm a Libra haha)
Body:
1.I love my curly hair
2. I love my freckles
3.I like my shoulders
4.My nose isn't large
5.my calf muscles are nice
6.My hips are womanly
7.my ears are good too
8. I smile a lot, my teeth are nice
9.My lips are a pretty color
10.My not short, but I'm not towering
Which of the lists was more difficult? Hmm, both because I don't want to show off and seem vain ><
Which was the fastest? Probably personality. I don't know. I guess equal
Are you entirely convinced of what you listed? Yeah, I think so. I guess there is no one that truly loves everything about them selves but in today's world, we have to try the best we can and work harder for people out there like Mere- Girls who we love even though they have a tough Challenge.
Cause I really think everyone here is beautiful inside and out. Just look at y'alls hott little photos in the picture thread! Rawr hawtness!
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Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 11:16 am
Might as well give it a shot...
Personality:
1. I'm energetic
2. Enthusiastic
3. Caring
4. Maternal
5. Loyal
6. Hard-working
7. Ambitious
8. Truthful
9. I try to be helpful
10. I love to make things for others (like cookies and such)
Body:
1. Pretty hair color
2. Long legs
3. Relatively flat tummy
4. Strong arms
5. I like my feet ^^
6. I am graceful
7. I love my green eyes!
8. I have a butt to shake (and I do it often)
9. Nice straight teeth
10. Pretty fingers
The second list was definitely harder... I do agree that the media is to blame for many of our body image issues. Darn those tooth-pick models. Real women like food (at least this one does)!
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Posted: Thu Apr 19, 2007 11:17 am
Personality:
1. I'm a good compromiser--Whenever there's a problem my friends can look to me.
2. I'm hard working
3. I'm persistent
4. I'm smart
5. I'm helpful
6. I'm a good listener.
7. I'm good at teaching people
Geeze..I honestly can't think of anything else. sweatdrop That's kind of sad.
Body:
1. I'm tall.
2. My weight is healthy
3. I like the colour of my eyes
4. My muscles are generally quite strong
5. My complexion is good
6. I have a womanly-ish figure
Er...Can't think of anything else for this list either, but Mere, you certainly have made your point. The body one was much harder, although the personality one was difficult as well. I scanned all the way from my head to my toes, and I really couldn't find more than six for my body.
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Posted: Sat Apr 21, 2007 12:29 pm
body
1.i curve in the right places
2.i love my hair
3.my nails are long and i love them
4. my eyes are prety
5. i have a flat tummy
6.i have nice legs
7.i have relitvely big boobs and they dont give me back problems
8.i have nice teeth
9.i pale but i dont burn
10.im skinny but not too skinny
personality
1. im creative
2. im very loyal
3. im a good freind
4. im independent
5.im good at listining
6 i give ok advice
7.i have good sense of humour
8.im good at showing how i feel
9. i strive for peace
10.i know that im loved
so out of both lists i found the personality one harder cause i dont know that much about who i am but its pretty easy to go an look at my self to see what i like about my body not so much with my mind
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Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 10:17 pm
Personality:
1. I'm smart
2. I'm a die-hard optimist
3. I'm very empathic
4. I'm generally crazy (who doesn't love a little random?)
5. I have a great sense of humor
6. I never refuse people in need
7. I'm a good writer
8. I love to learn about everything.
9. I'm always in a good mood
10. I laugh. A lot.
Body:
1. I have a naturally smooth complexion
2. My eyes are pretty
3. My lips are nice and full
4. I have a long torso
5. My legs are shapely enough
6. My wrists are slender
7. My ears are little
8. I have cute feet. whee
9. My eyelashes are long
10. My hair is pretty, when not waging war on me. sweatdrop
I found the personality list harder, actually...don't get me wrong, I'm not exactly the skinniest person (whats wrong with being fluffy, I ask you?) but my friends tell me I'm beautiful. biggrin I suppose the personality one was harder because in this day and age, personality means nothing if you have whats acceptable as a 'hot body', so in the wake of attempting to fit into this Mold of Women, my personality traits were pushed to the back of my mind.
One more thing, now I know that personality means SO much more than your body...and I can happily say that I love myself. ^^
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Posted: Fri May 18, 2007 7:56 pm
Okay... I've never really thought about this before.
Personality
1. I learn things quickly
2. I enjoy things other than gossip
3. I like to learn about things outside of my country
4. I have a good sense of time
5. I don't put up with "girl crap" (that's what I like to call it anyways. Basically it means when my friends do stupid things to each other and then expect me to fix them. Example: Ashlynn said to Kaitlyn "I want to know what Alyssa really thinks about me" so they called Alyssa up on 3 way and Kaitlyn got Alyssa to say all these mean things about Ashlynn while Ashlynn listened without talking so Alyssa didn't know she was there. My friends fought over this for three days and finally I said "If you three don't apologize to each other right now I'm walking out of this friendship because I don't want to listen to your complaining anymore)
6. I won't date a guy who I know won't treat me right (e.g.. Cheating)
Ummm.... That's all I can think of.
Body
1. I rather like the shape and color of my eyes
2. I like my hair color
3. I like that I have really pale skin
4. My fingernails are a nice shape
5.I have long toes
6. I look nice in long shirts
7. I don't have as many pimples as a lot of people
8. I have small hands
Yeah.. that's about it.
Actually I found both list equally challenging.
FIrstly, I'd like to say that I'm a little like Skully.
I'm a b***h.
The "Queen of Negativity" my friends call me.
There isn't an optimistic bone in my body.
Now that I think about it, my friends call me all sorts of mean names.
Mostly disease names.
Salmonella is their favorite though.
The body list was also challenging.
But no offense to me, but I have the body of a ten-year-old boy.
Seriously.
Eh, I don't really mind it though.
It helps me blend.
I hate te fact that the media tells us that we have to be skinny, and that men have to be muscular.
We all come in diffrent shapes, sizes, and colors.
Everyone is beautiful.
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Posted: Sun May 20, 2007 4:18 pm
Whatevs. I'm going to talk about what I love and hate about my body.
What I love:
1. My eyes
2. I'm thin
3. My butt is nicely proportioned
4. My cheekbones
5. My long legs
6. My neck (Shut up, I like my neck)
7. The fact that there are a zillion colours in my hair (all brown or blonde, I have zillions of shades, all natural)
8. My hips (they're nice and wide, but not too wide)
9. My lips
And there isn't anything else.
What I hate/dislike:
1. The fact that since my mom has a big butt, mine will grow huge too.
2. My ugly hands
3. My arms and elbows
4. My nose (it's gross)
5. My feet (They are so messed up, don't even ask)
6. My knees
7. My lack of boobs.
8. My nails (finger and toe)
9. My teeth (I had to have 7 pulled! SEVEN!)
10. I have an extra vertabrae in my spine
11. The fact that I'm so skinny people sometimes call me anorexic.
12. Despite that I'm skinny, i'm out of shape
13. I have tummy flab
14. I look too sweet and innocent
15. I'm weak
16. My ankles
17. My hair (even tho there is a zillion shades, most of it is dirty blonde)
18. I'm too tall, yet too short to be a runway model (I'm 5'6'')
The hate list was much easier to make.
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Posted: Sat Jun 30, 2007 10:46 pm
( Great idea Mere. <3 )
Personality:
1. I'm a leader
2. I'm loud
3. I'm affectionat
4. I'm wellspoken
5. I'm confidant
6. I'm not frightened or intimidated easily
7. I fall in love fast
8. 'Evil' doesn't exist for me, only ignorance
9. I understand philosophy and educated thinking.
10. I live life, and am optimistic.
Body:
1. My face
2. My hair
3. My hourglass figure
4. My eyes
5. My feet
6. My nails
7. My breasts
8. My nose
9. My collar bones
10. My veins ( Weird... I know. )
Which of the lists was more difficult?
Personality. I had to really look at myself in a way that isn't easy. Sit back, and try to look at the things I actually enjoy about 'Henada' , is a hard thing for me to do. I normally either very in love with myself and life and all the things in it, a mix of numbness tired and cynical, or feeling depressed and horrible. At the moment, I'm rather numb, and pushing that out and letting the wonderful in is hard this late at night. However, as I stated in my list I'm fairly optimistic, and at the moment I have a wonderful friend beside me, a comfortable hoodie on, and even though I haven't bathed in three days my hair still looks great, so things are pretty good. xD
Which was the fastest?
Body. I hardly ever loath my physical lump of flesh. I don't look like a movie star. I don't. I really, really don't. I'm short, I have a little bit 'extra' on me, my hair is insane and almost impossible to maintain, and I have a sweet face that can contort into the scariest expressions I've ever seen.
When I was in 8th grade, one of my teachers and I had a long talk. As I was leaving she said, "And by the way, you aren't fat. I know you feel that way about yourself, and trust me, these bodies we have are what shaped History. Aphrodite wasn't a skinny tall girl. She was a woman."
After that, I don't think I've felt fat almost at all. I've had my flashes. Recently for about a week, I ate almost nothing because of that feeling and thought about becoming anorexic. But that ended up passing.
Are you entirely convinced of what you listed?
Some of what I listed I see as both good and bad. My hourglass figure I dislike sometimes, but I love it more then I hate it. My loudness can be a bother, because I am very, very loud. Also, I hate my hands, so my fingernails are ignored most of the time.
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Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 10:40 am
Things I like about my personalty
1. I have drive
2. I'm smart
3. I can make people laugh
4. I'm pretty easy going
5. I can understand, but disagree with people
6. I'm not snobby, but I am pretty spoiled
7. People don't usually intimidate me
8. I know I'm going to go far in life
9. I don't run away from my problems
10. I'm not afraid to say what I think
Things I like about my body
1. I have that hour-glass figure
2. I have V-cuts that even some guys wish they have
3. I'm thin
4. I've got a defined body for the most part
5. I like the size of my breast
6. I have soft skin
7. I have a nice face
8. I love my eyes
9. I have a very nice neck
10. I've got adorable freckles absolutely everywhere
Which of the lists was more difficult?
Oh, the personality for sure. I really don't like my personality, like even though I know I've got a strong character... I always end up feeling like a failure. Bad always seems to out weight the good, like even the tiniest bit bad. I guess I'm just too much of a perfectionist to like myself entirely.
Which was the fastest?
The body, even though I stress all the time about what I look like, or weight or eat. I do actually secretly like my body most of the time. Like even if other people don't, I can find something that I find nice out of it.
Are you entirely convinced of what you listed?
Yes, mostly. They're some thing that I'm hoping if I say enough that I will start believing it too. But other then that yep...
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Posted: Sun Aug 12, 2007 9:11 pm
personality:
1. I'm worldly
2. I'm a fighter
3. I'm open minded
4. I'm understanding
5. I can make people smile
6. I'm an easy person to get along with
7. I'm not fake to people
8. I'm giving
9. I don't b***h about my problems and want people to pity me/ want them to think I'm cool because of my problems much less want anyone to know I even have problems to begin with
10. I have self controll
Body:
1. I'm thin
2. I have a dancer's body
3. I have long legs
4. I have good complexion
5. I have slender fingers
6. I have soft eyes
7. haha, my hair (I change it so much to help me move on)
8. My eyebrows are naturally pretty
9. My small boobs! (I look like Audry Hephburn)
10. How I don't need to wear any makeup to be beautiful!
This was an intiresting thing for me to do, considering I was picked on and called ugly and stupid and a whole bunch of s**t when I was little. I had to go to so much therapy and down all sorts of pills to keep me from wanting to hurt myself in the 4th grade.
Since that, I've picked myself up and became a fighter. Now I'm one of the only people my age who know who they are, and are confident with their body. I have a bunch of people tell me I'm pretty now as well! I turn heads and am also told I'm really smart (maybe not test wise, but in the more useful sense)
I don't wear makeup because I want to show people that I don't need it to be beautiful, and with that attitude, I tend to get a lot of complements on that fact.
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Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 10:20 pm
Personality:
1. Sweet at times
2. Ambitious
Body:
1. I have nice eyes.
Which of the lists was more difficult?
Body
Which was the fastest?
Personality
Are you entirely convinced of what you listed?
Yes. It's as good as I am going to get.
I.. Really don't think much about myself. I actually pretty much hate myself, but at least I tried..
I used to love everything about myself, but that was a while ago. I haven't felt that way for a long time. I am way past ruined. I barely like anything about myself.
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