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i have a 16 yr old girl that can't talk to me normal she is all ways yelling at me any one have something for me to do please let me know

i dont know whats going on in your situation but i'd guess.. she is afraid you might be right but wants to be grown up and right herself.

well i can't beat her that would be child abuse and she does have a cat and i refuse to hit my kids so that isn't an answer

I was joking about beating her. When my fourteen yells at me I tell her to please stop yelling. If she keeps doing it I ground her from the phone or computer or something. It doesn't always work. I think it is a phase they go through. They have a stressful time and they are trying to grow up so fast and want to be heard and want to be right. After all don't grown ups get a little loud or yell if they've had a rough day or if we are trying to get our point across? There is no book on being a parent, just try to figure out what works for you and your girl.

rofl Hey Darlene agrees with me to beat the kids twisted

There is also the mindset of teenagers (and some adults) that holds "I'm louder than you so I must be right". Maybe reminding her that you're right in front of her and that she doesn't need to shout.

My own experiences with my 11 year old (attitude starts early) have gone this way. She often yells when frustrated or thinking that I'm not listening to what she has to say. I do the above and also tell her that I'm more likely to listen to what she has to say when her voice isn't causing such a commotion in my inner ear.

With that, she settles down for a bit and when the volume goes up again (same discussion) I remind her again. I think it's either genetics or a gender thing though because her mother does the exact same thing. lol

(let's see if I get shot for that last one)