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 Posted: Sun May 20, 2007 1:25 am
I have a friend of mine who I have known for the last 2, almost 3 years. We are friends who can laugh at almost anything, but there are limits. The problems generally surface when I decide to tell him what I really think. As long as I agree with him he's fine (accept when he gets tired of it and tells me I don't have a mind of my own) with it. It's when I tell him something he doesnt necessarily want to hear that we have problems.
Arguments of this nature tend to be one-sided. I've found that Tauruses are natural born debaters and he is no exception. His logic can be fairly shakey at times, and at others downright ridiculous. But he's a bit relentless about it, and mean. As a result I usually become a bit difficult to deal with, and just agree with whatever silly assumptions he comes up with, telling him it doesnt matter since he's always right and knows everything anyway.
Needless to say things definitely take a dive at that point, and right or wrong he wins the argument but I do remember it storing it for emotional ammo later, as does he.
So went the argument of the other night, and then he told me that I was emo along with a few other things I would rather not repeat.
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Posted: Mon May 21, 2007 4:42 pm
I don't like people who are like that. I try to avoid them as much as possible or make sure conversations are limited to basics. If that doesn't work, I politely excuse myself or only listen to 1/2 of what they say.
Sounds like he isn't a very nice friend though.
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Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 10:32 pm
Actually he's probably my best friend, but when he's good he can be very sweet and charming, but when he's feeling peevish he's very nasty and he doesn't seem to realize that just because you dont snap at him that you have feelings. Oddly enough I value him as a close friend and he considers me much the same. That's what makes the things he says hurt so much.
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Posted: Tue Jul 29, 2008 9:32 am
I realize this is quite old and the problem may have been resolved, but did you ever tell him you don't like it when he says things like that? It's hard for me to say that sometimes, but there are definitely times where it helps.
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Posted: Tue Nov 25, 2008 5:11 am
Actually things haven't noticeably changed. I just stopped putting my neck on the chopping block. It hurts less that way, like distancing myself so that my armor has a chance to heal.
As for telling him that, he usually doesn't care and will just resort to ignoring me or below-the-belt-name calling. I even created an alternate account here so I don't have to be bothered with him if I don't feel like it without the general 'are ignoring me?' crap. On a good day he's a lot of fun, but on a bad one he's a royal pain in the posterior.
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