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 Posted: Tue May 29, 2007 7:13 pm
Ok. So we all know Im pregnant. Maybe that is why I am pissed, I dont know. But I think I have good reason to be. This babys daddy just informed me last night that he wants nothing to do with this baby and hasnt told his son (14 years old) about the baby because "whats the big deal? its not like its gonna be a part of his life". Im like HELLO?! My belly is already starting to get bigger... dont you think it would be better for him to know before hand? I mean, we live 3 doors down from each other and the son is my baby sitter... its not like hes NOT gonna notice stressed I could deal with the fact that at his age (37) and at this point in his life hes not ready for a baby and to start all over. The thing (other thing?) that pisses me off is he knew I was not on birth control, refused to use any protection, and now has the balls to say that he thinks I did this to trap him. WTF kind of lame a** line is that?? I never once asked him to be my boyfriend, never once mentioned marriage... the only thing i asked him to do was step up and take responsibility. We have been casually seeing each other for 2 years, btw. Why am I wrong??
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Posted: Tue May 29, 2007 9:28 pm
sorry to hear things aren't going to well for you, some men can be real idiots. I'm also going to piss you off, Just because he refused protection doesn't mean you couldn't use some kind or just not let him have you. I know you don't want to hear my opinion but i'm bad about giving it. I'm a lot older than most of you on here and I truley believe that if you don't want a child it can be prevented or you'll have to deal with the consequences.
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Posted: Tue May 29, 2007 11:10 pm
no that didnt piss me off.... i wanted this baby. And before i got pregnant i was led to believe that he wanted it too. I agree... they can be prevented or deal with the consequences... completely. But, like I said, he acted like he wanted this baby just until last night. Maybe he wasnt thinking clearly before hand and it suddenly hit him when i did get pregnant. I dont know. He refuses to talk to me anymore about it.
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Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 6:58 am
Just my opinion- give him some time, maybe he is just having a freak-out. The only important thing is to take care of yourself and your baby. He will either come around or it is his loss! My daughter's father ( my ex-husband) is completely useless and sees her once or twice a year. She is 9 now, so she does feel sad sometimes- but we deal with it. She knows she is loved. Just take care of yourself!
Sorry if I butted in and/or offended you. I unfortunately have experience with a man that doesn't act like one confused
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Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 7:22 am
I feel this guy is just being a jerk. If he planned this baby with you he should be made to be responsible and help take care of it. I know its easier said than done but I think you need to find a new man. But make sure this daddy helps support his child.
I'm just being nosy, did you just find out you were pregnant? I was wondering if its a boy or girl? doesn't matter though does it, babies are wonderful.
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Posted: Wed May 30, 2007 8:41 am
Yeah hes so gone... I stormed out of his place the other night domokun This daddy will have no choice but to at least help financially support the baby. Even if he doesnt want anything to do with it, department of child support services will be all over him. Not that his $$ in any way makes up for him being an a**....
The doctors verified the pregnancy on the 21st of this month. He has known since the 18th, when I got the positive home test, and I knew almost a week prior to that that I was pregnant lol
It is unknown at this time whether or not baby is a boy or girl, but im hoping for another girl heart heart
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Posted: Thu May 31, 2007 8:54 am
And now Ive lost my baby sitter eek Daddy told son to avoid me now domokun domokun Why are *some* men such immature brats scream
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Posted: Fri Jun 01, 2007 6:58 am
i'm sorry things aren't going to good for you right now. I don't know why men act that way. I've been trying for years to figure them out. stressed
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Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2007 7:35 pm
ditto on what Dragon said... I'm sorry about your trouble as well. crying
I believe that all fathers should be 100% in their childrens lives..whether or not they want to be with the mothers. Unfortunately, many are not.. and can't be forced. And probably shouldn't be. If they don't want to be apart of the childs life, the child might be better off without them. But it is the children that suffer the most. They feel rejected by one of the two people in the whole world that should love them unconditionally.
I pray that you will find a decent man that deserves a good woman and wants children, even if they are not his.
I know there are some wonderful men out there! I hope you can find heart yours. heart *hug
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Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2007 9:34 pm
Thank you ladies... quick update...
He apologized for being an a** the other night. He said while he still has no plans to marry me or be my boyfriend (which i didnt want in the first place!), he will do what he can when he can. I told him thats all I was asking for and he seemed to chill out a little. We will see how things go from here neutral
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Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 12:02 am
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Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 8:57 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 04, 2007 3:13 pm
yes... GOOD LUCK to you hon! I pray things work out for you, for the sake of your children. *hugs
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Posted: Tue Jun 05, 2007 4:33 pm
Sorry about your troubles...I have no advice for you, but I do understand. cry
My oldests' father is not in the picture..he calls once in a year or two..but now that she is a pre-teen I think she's better off anyway. But it does hurt them the most for sure.
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