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 Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 4:36 pm
Hi, my name is Jen. I am nearly 17 and I am from the hell hole of America; A.K.A Louisiana. As many of you may know Louisiana is in the heart of the conservative, right winged, babtist bible belt of America. I have no problems with religions of anysort( though I believe in no Higher power of any sort ) but let me explain how bad it is in my family. We attend church twice on sunday and once on wensday religously ( no pun intended) at a "Fire and Brimstone" small babtist church. My sister dates the preachers son. Also, just the other day my father quoted one of his famous biggot quotes. It went something like this. " Them gays' should be hanged, they can suck off to the devil when they are burning in hell." I am not really having to much of a problem living as a lesbian in a heterosexist world besides the occasional " Oh my god, Tom DeLonge is so hawt!" by my friends. But lately I have been fealing the need for a girl to walk life with, to love with, to feal, to kiss, to hug, to snuggle, and to wake up in the mornings with. But this would be impossible unless I came out. If I did Im quite sure I would be thrown out by my family and my friends(except two perverted guys from school lmao). So the question is, do I come out? Or do I stay in the closet. Afterall it is nice and cumfy in here <3 Please help me with some advice
<3 Jen
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Posted: Fri Jun 15, 2007 2:56 pm
Well I'd say wait until your older or have a way to support yourself, thats the best advice their is for people with extremely religious parents... You don't want to get kicked out and have no where to go thats for sure, I'm still in the closet and I'm 22 and I'm pretty ok with that for the most part, and I don't even have to be supported by my family, I just prefer to keep it civil for the most part with the family I have. I waited a long time to move in with my girlfriend and its worth waiting
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:06 am
Take from the girl in Arkansas, there's always hope. I got off lucky (my mom, mom's relatives(the majority I like, anyway), and my mom's friends are all quite good with me being a lesbian. But I still have problems with my dad (he thinks I'm confused. And yea, he goes to church twice on sunday, and on wednsday night. And any other time he can go) and several "friends" I have.
I would say until you have a backup home (and that doesn't mean buying one. More like if you have a friend who will put you up, or if you happen upon an underground gay/lesbian support group.) Just keep yourself low profile.
But I do say start casually looking around for gay/lesbian clubs, places that have drag shows (Yes, not all drag kings and queens are gay. but the majority are, and chances are you'll find one) and areas like that.
Depending on how backwoods you are, you may not find any. But if you live in or near a city, there's a good chance.
I myself didn't even think drag queens/kings lived in Arkansas, until my mom told me about some that came through the drive-through at McDonald's. We also got a Gay/Straight Alliance club at one of the high schools...Which brought some religous group of protesters by...It was weird.
Anyway, hope that helps.
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:28 am
Yeah, it does help me. Ty hun <3. I am not to big into drag though, it is not really my fetish heh. Im sorta the girly girl XD, but yeah I will definatly look around for something of the sort. And as far as a gay/straight allaince, I go to a christian private school. :O . Anywho thanks for the imput biggrin
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Posted: Wed Jun 27, 2007 7:44 pm
I know what you're talking about!! I'm in south central Texas. I did come out, lost my friends, got kicked out of church, my family pretends to accept me but doesn't..so I'm semi-lucky in that. All I can say is wait until you can support yourself, and feel you're safe.
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Posted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 6:23 pm
I live in North Carolina, and it's pretty cool here. Because I'm a gay girl and not a gay boy, nobody really messes with me. But I still occasionally have to deal with ignorant questions, lack of lesbians in the area, and getting Bible thumped. For a while I was worried my parents would send me to a reorientation camp, but then my dad got sick.
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:46 pm
wait till your old enough to move out
o.O
move out
come over for christmas
and bring your girlfriend with you whee
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Posted: Sun May 25, 2008 8:23 am
I'm in a very judgmental school so I stay in the closet whee
But since people there like to talk about the bi girls [none have come out as lesbian and only a handful of girls have come out as bi] then when I find out who is bi, I get to know the girls.
If they're not a complete b!tch then I give subtle hints and flirt with them a little. Then if I have their trust I just casually bring up "hey by the way I'm bi".
I might even ask my girl crush out soon heart
So I'd say that you can stay in the closet but be able to peep out a little bit, just enough, to be safe but have a happy relationship with a girl 3nodding
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