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Personally, I find 12 or 13 much, much too young for sexual relations with ANY person. Even at 18, I'd still say it's iffy. But I agree it's also a personal choice as well. I feel that I would want to feel really, really in love with someone before I even had that thought. Most of my friends would agree, but so many girls in my school think having sex is a trend, and if your a virgin going into college, obviously your a nerd or geek.
I always have prefered being a geek ^^
But seriously, I'd wait a while and find someone I truly love before diving into sex head-first and thinking it's no big deal. Alot of people don't realize, virginity is not something you can get back. You can't walk up to somebody and go, "Look, could I have my virginity back please?" So going into a bar and taking somebody home that night wouldn't be something I would think of doing. At all.
Alot of people say I'm too old-fashioned as well, but that's just how I've always felt about the matter.

I believe that 12 or 13 is way too young, but it's their choice. If they want to ruin their lives that fast, it's up to them. I'm surrounded by friends who got pregnant in their senior year of high school, and two of them were left by the dead beat dads. I think that the younger you are, the bigger the chances are of having a dead beat dad.
But, like I said, it's their choice and their body. If they want to give a part of them away, then who's to stop them?

I agree with you Xiao. It does depend on the person.
There is something else that really gets to me. Young girls have sex, get pregnant and then have abortions. If you're not going to care for a child, then don't have sex, or protect yourself, even if it doesn't always work.

Virginity: the biggest crock of s**t ever thought up.

Why do people make such a huge deal about the first time? I agree that kids should not attempt to lose their virginity until they are roughly 18 or so at the earliest and they should always be prepared for what may happen if the girl does get pregnant (if it is heterosexual intercourse)...but then again teens do have sex. And honestly I find the "first time" stuff to be bullshit.

To guys virginity is something that 'must be lost' and to girls it is something 'to be treasured'. It all burns down to basic animal desires. The male feels the need to reproduce, and the female feels the need to find the perfect mate. We can overcome these damn animal desires, but most chose not to. I've seen so many guys crazed over the need to have sex, and so many girls who hold their virginity as almost sacred...until the moment they lose it to some guy who argued them into it...

haha i was 14, it was my friends sister who was 17, wasnt very romantic and whatnot, but i dont regret it, i dont regret much of anything actually but thats another topic, virginity was never very important to me, not to say its not important, but i was more focused on safe sex (i dont want any little mes runnin round and i dont wanna pee out razorblades), i also try to hold out for it, if the girl realizes that im not just all about sex from the beginning the relationship usually lasts longer

haha what movie? and it is pretty amusing, i used to be kind of bummed about it but ive really learned not to regret anything, because what ive done makes me who i am today

You can all call me a b***h if you want, because I guarantee you probably won't like my opinion on this.

No, it is not their choice.

Sure, it's their body, but they are way too immature to make a decision like having sex. Their brains aren't developed enough to possibly even comprehend the seriousness of the consequences of their actions. If you don't believe me, study Psychology, and you shall see.

They are also under the care of their parents. If they truly believe they're old and mature enough to make a decision like having sex, then they should be thrown out of the house, because, if they can make that decision, surely they know how to find a job, yes? How to raise a family? Surely they know how to get a car and a license and how to deal with all of the legalities that this world has, yes? I'm telling you right now, some of the stuff out there has me clueless, and I'm 18. Then again, I also haven't been stupid enough to have sex before finding the so called "right one", which, by my standards these days, probably doesn't exist at all. It's brought me quite a bit of pain and deception, and has lost me a few relationships too, but you see, had I had sex with them and then they had left me, I would've felt it to be a waste of time.

So I say no, it is not their choice. They can hurt others and themselves. I had a great analogy for this subject, but I can't remember. Something along the lines of giving a mentally sick person a gun, or something of that sort.

So that's my say.

I agree with Huffon on the desires part, by the way. He is very right. Humans are very stupid, selfish animals that, in most cases, look out for themselves in the end.