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 Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 10:30 pm
Ugh. UGH.
I am SO SICK of my parents insinuating that it's time I get a boyfriend, get married, settle down, have kids, whatever!
*rampage*
I can't wait to be done with school so I can just be like "I have a girlfriend I'm not dating some guy just to make you happy rawr!"
...Um...anyway...anyone else's parents this annoying?
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 7:05 am
Mine were but now I am finacially independent and they realize if they want to stay on good terms with me they have to be nice. Otherwise I do not come home or stuff... I only have one favor to pay back and then they cannot hold anything over my head.
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 10:33 pm
psychofirewitch Ugh. UGH. I am SO SICK of my parents insinuating that it's time I get a boyfriend, get married, settle down, have kids, whatever! *rampage* I can't wait to be done with school so I can just be like "I have a girlfriend I'm not dating some guy just to make you happy rawr!" ...Um...anyway...anyone else's parents this annoying? You is mine. I'm glad my parents aren't like that though. It makes it much easier for me to never tell them. In otherways it makes it harder though 'cause I actually love mine, so I can't just say "Screw you, I have a girlfriend!" and kick them out of my life because I don't want to. Complicated issues. Yay.
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Posted: Sat Jul 07, 2007 10:11 am
My mom knew I was gay and she was STILL after me to find a nice girl and get married. She's accepted the fact that I won't now, but I'm sure she'd still like to see me have kids, like adopt or use a suragate mother or something. Not happening.
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Posted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 5:36 pm
Brandon Yamata My mom knew I was gay and she was STILL after me to find a nice girl and get married. She's accepted the fact that I won't now, but I'm sure she'd still like to see me have kids, like adopt or use a suragate mother or something. Not happening. Guh that is annoying. Just like however my mom rolls her eyes whenever I say "I never want kids"
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 9:33 am
My parents don't know that I'm never going to have kids or getting married, though I'm pretty sure they wouldn't want me to do one without the other, so if I never get married they'd just take it for granted that I'm never going to have kids. If they had a problem with that they'd start bugging me to get married first, then they'd assume that kids would therefore follow. Hopefully they will never bug me about marriage though.
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 11:51 pm
My mom's just pissed cause none of her three kids want kids...
Lol.
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 10:18 am
Azer Fireangel My mom's just pissed cause none of her three kids want kids... Lol. Indeed that does piss off a great many parents. I think it is envy. They saw how their parents ruined their children and they want to do the same because it looked fun.
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 11:15 am
XenoReiji Azer Fireangel My mom's just pissed cause none of her three kids want kids... Lol. Indeed that does piss off a great many parents. I think it is envy. They saw how their parents ruined their children and they want to do the same because it looked fun. I don't think I was ruined by my parents though. Or that my parent's lives were ruined by me. I don't think it neccessarily follow for all people that parents screw up their kids or that kids screw up their parents. I think if I'd had a kid I'd be a good parent. I just don't want to have to go through the trouble of doing it.
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Posted: Tue Jul 17, 2007 11:59 am
Adain-chan XenoReiji Azer Fireangel My mom's just pissed cause none of her three kids want kids... Lol. Indeed that does piss off a great many parents. I think it is envy. They saw how their parents ruined their children and they want to do the same because it looked fun. I don't think I was ruined by my parents though. Or that my parent's lives were ruined by me. I don't think it neccessarily follow for all people that parents screw up their kids or that kids screw up their parents. I think if I'd had a kid I'd be a good parent. I just don't want to have to go through the trouble of doing it. Ummm well what I meant was something similar to what I heard some breeder say on the bus. "Now that we are grandparents all we have to do is play with them". Meaning that most grandparents just spoil the childern of their children. They also yearn for that carefree life that they used to have. Where a child is nothing more than a human toy. You play with it and then when you are bored or done with it you put the toy away... that is more what I meant.
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Posted: Tue Jul 17, 2007 11:07 pm
Dang I hate how people, especially family, try to push everybody to follow the default course of marriage and children living in the middle of suburbia. stressed
I'd rather be dead first before living like that, and that's saying a lot because I love my life and living in general I find great.
I was talking to my mom just last night and I thought it was funny just how little justification she had to back up her desire to have gotten and be married. The only thing she had at all, which was even a supposed lesser concern (less than what I don't know and neither does she. She kept just saying she had wanted to be married for the sake of the marriage itself but could not give me ANY reason for why she should have ever found this appealing as a thing itself) that gave any reason was for the legal benefits you get. Aside from the fact that I not think any legal stuff at all should be associated with marriage, I laugh because I know I never technically could be married even if I wanted to even just for the legal benefits. lol The law is stupid and will not allow more than two people to be married.
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 8:32 am
bluecherry
Dang I hate how people, especially family, try to push everybody to follow the default course of marriage and children living in the middle of suburbia. stressed
I'd rather be dead first before living like that, and that's saying a lot because I love my life and living in general I find great.
I was talking to my mom just last night and I thought it was funny just how little justification she had to back up her desire to have gotten and be married. The only thing she had at all, which was even a supposed lesser concern (less than what I don't know and neither does she. She kept just saying she had wanted to be married for the sake of the marriage itself but could not give me ANY reason for why she should have ever found this appealing as a thing itself) that gave any reason was for the legal benefits you get. Aside from the fact that I not think any legal stuff at all should be associated with marriage, I laugh because I know I never technically could be married even if I wanted to even just for the legal benefits. lol The law is stupid and will not allow more than two people to be married.HA ha ha ha. I want a big house some where... and if suburbia is the only place to get it then so be it. But I do not care for the most part. I just want big house near video game stores ninja
But that is funny about your mom... and what legal benefits are there O.o?
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 6:47 pm
As do other people I know, though like me they prefer it not to be in the suburbs. Unlike me though, they don't like cities so want to be way out in the middle of nowhere. The up side to that plan for them though is land is typically cheaper in those kinds of places. I like middle of nowhere and city type areas (with a slight preference or city though), just not in between, suburbs.
And some legal benefits of marriage are the ability to jointly file taxes, the person you're married to gets "next of kin" status for you and you for them in case anything goes wrong with one of you, I think not until non-related adults are married can they possibly claim one or the other as a dependent on taxes but I could be wrong about that. Here's a wiki page on it. Lot of stuff here
Also, looking at this page in wikipedia on states recognition or non-recognition of even just same sex couples (let along all the other stuff that should be legal they banned), 90% of the states in the U.S. can go ******** themselves with a rusty fork. talk2hand
The United Bigots of America
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 6:56 pm
bluecherry
Dang I hate how people, especially family, try to push everybody to follow the default course of marriage and children living in the middle of suburbia. stressed
I'd rather be dead first before living like that, and that's saying a lot because I love my life and living in general I find great.
I was talking to my mom just last night and I thought it was funny just how little justification she had to back up her desire to have gotten and be married. The only thing she had at all, which was even a supposed lesser concern (less than what I don't know and neither does she. She kept just saying she had wanted to be married for the sake of the marriage itself but could not give me ANY reason for why she should have ever found this appealing as a thing itself) that gave any reason was for the legal benefits you get. Aside from the fact that I not think any legal stuff at all should be associated with marriage, I laugh because I know I never technically could be married even if I wanted to even just for the legal benefits. lol The law is stupid and will not allow more than two people to be married.She didn't say anything about loving your dad an wanting their marriage to be a token of their life's commitment to each other? Not that you can't have other tokens, but it is a nice one, considering, as your mom said, it comes with legal benifits.
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 7:14 pm
Oh of course I got that usual drivel, but I didn't mention it specifically since I was saying she couldn't give any reason aside from legal benefits THAT COUNTED. She had nothing else in any way logical. I already had argued with her (and she tried to act like I had said anything, totally ignored this point, meaning she had nothing to counter it) that nothing is different at all about a married and unmarried relationship in function that has to be (waiting until marriage for sex some people do, but I hold you are a senseless moron if you think a metal band, a piece of paper, and social approval will take you from "not ready" to "ready" for sex.) Aside from legal or possible religious differences with the status, an unmarried relationship is no different from a married one. Marrying somebody has NO relation to how much you are in love or committed to a person either, or as my mom kept trying to call it "the next step" in a relationship. If you look at how common cheating is even among the married and at divorce rates you can see this. Also, marrying or not marring somebody doesn't mean you do or do not love them. The people who try to say this is the case that if you love somebody and are committed to them you marry them defeat their own case of saying marriage is something you should or have to do if you love somebody with the very fact that they say they do it BECAUSE they love them. This implies that before being married they already loved the person and therefore you can love somebody without being married to them. Also, since it DOES come with legal benefits and social approval, some people do it just for the legal stuff (sometimes simple as getting covered by somebody else's health insurance is all) and/or social approval (aloud to have sex or kids without being looked at as a dirty whore, or even for the less clearly judgmental people to not have it said that you are just trying to use somebody or don't really love them if you won't marry them or that if you won't marry it means you're just "afraid" of commitment.)
Etc...
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