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 Posted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 12:29 pm
I decided I will make the first 'Deep' thread in this new forum of ours. Let me start by asking everyone what their definition of 'Needy' was/is, and then have a poll asking if everyone sees themselves as 'Needy' (under any definition).
I came upon the theme of 'Needy' because, well, while I was bored at work today. I thought of ways to keep myself occupied, and found myself increasingly frustrated at the lack of conversation between contacts of mine on MSN and me. Therefore, I asked myself, "Am I needy of attention and conversation?"
Per my own personal definition, I define 'Needy' as someone who craves attention, who needs it in constant supply along with other things that go hand-in-hand with it. Now, I'm not talking about "occassionally being needy"; I'm talking about being *constantly* needy.
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 7:19 pm
I am not needy and in RL I don't have a lot of patience with needy people. Well I can say the same about my online attitude I think. If someone is constantly needy and they are trying to interact with me it doesn't work for them.
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Posted: Thu Jul 12, 2007 7:54 pm
Yeah, I remember >_>
me: "uuuuuuuumaaaaaaaaaarrrrr"
umar: "What? WHAT!? WTF, GO AWAY! OMFG! ~umar has logged off~"
me: ":'("
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 8:16 pm
No way, did I really do that? *slaps self with the salmon of shame*
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 2:03 am
>_> Well, maybe I embellished a little...ya know, just a little...<_<
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 2:15 am
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Posted: Tue Jul 17, 2007 12:41 pm
I'm not a needy person, I'm not even near it.
Hell if I get upset in anyway, I isolate myself. I just hate being around people I don't know normally, let alone when I'm in a pissy mood.
I see someone as being needy that not only craves the attention, but actually gets upset when they don't get it. I've known people that would actually bust out in tears or get heavily depressed if they couldn't get attention like that. If I didn't give them constant attention they'd start to get moody.
Despite the fact they were nice people it drove me up the wall, particularly if I'm busy trying to get some work done and they start into this needy stuff. I don't understand what it is they want because I'm the polar opposite. I still don't get it. If I'm on MSN or something, I don't need to be talking constantly with the person to be content. If the conversation is going I keep talking, sure. But there are a lot of cases I end up stop talking for a bit because I am working on something and get antisocial if I'm working.
BUt I usually get back to the window. Sooner or Later. Ethan can vouch for that! It might take a while...like...a half hour...an hour... or so...
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 10:08 am
I'm sort of half-and-half myself. I go out of my way to not demand attention (heck, my last birthday my folks practically had to hog tie me to get me to accept the accolades), but at the same time, there are certain times when I think I ought to GET attention and don't (my last birthday, again. Mom made what she wanted for dinner and dessert (usually the birthday girl gets to pick) and not what I requested and then the gifts weren't even wrapped, just still in the store bags. I didn't make a fuss, but at the same time, it's a little wrankling).
I have limited patience for needy people, myself. A former roommate's older sister was in my program at school and because of Katy (the roommate), Jackie (the sister) seemed to think that we were best friends. She's a constant talker - the kind that you could literally set the phone down, walk away, and come back half an hour later and she wouldn't even notice your absence. This girl actually threw a fit at her brother's funeral because no one was paying enough attention to her. Our friendship went on hiatus for several months last year after my Japan trip - she was on the trip too and did nothing but complain the whole trip AND during the whole aftermath.
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Posted: Wed Jul 18, 2007 5:50 pm
Ok, your Jackie friend just takes the needy thing to a new extreme!
Me, I'm needy and yet conscious of other people all at the same time. Sometimes I feel that--simply because I'm conscious of other people and make concessions to them--that they should be conscious of me and make concessions to me. It's selfish of me, really.
There are also times when I so do not want to draw attention to myself because I think other people will get annoyed if I do, or that other people simply won't like it, etc. @_@
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Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 6:06 am
You have to balance the two and it is not easy and frankly everybody gets it wrong at times. One wants the attention when it's needed and then there is the aspect of giving attention. You have to be with the right kind of friends for yourself, and the right partner. In a perfect world it works out nicely and your needs are met and at the same time you share yourself with another(s) so that their needs are met.
But mostly, it's dog eat dog.
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Posted: Thu Jul 19, 2007 2:50 pm
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Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 9:06 am
Well, I had to throw that in at the end on account of I can't be too happy go lucky ya know.
But it can be cats too. ^^
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Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 7:01 pm
~nodnods~ Yeah, I guess that's why I'm so needy some of the times. it's because I was a cat at another time of my soul's existence >_> Or perhaps God had taken pieces of cat stuff and put it inside me! :O Maybe that's why I keep licking my arms <_<
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 7:48 am
Just so long as you don't lick your butt you are ok.
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 6:16 pm
I *think* I get upset when--in a group--one person keeps talking about something I'm not personally interested in, either cutting me off deliberately or preventing me from ever talking about anything I want to. Does that constitute neediness? Am I attention starved? sad Sometimes when I get down I just want everyone to know about it -_-
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