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WinterBean

PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 2:52 am


I have these two friends, who I will call Friend Al and friend Ash.

Two years ago I had two other friends, who both didn't like each other.
They fought each and spread rumors about each and me.
After a while they finally told me that I had to choose between them,
and since I had been ditched on several occasions by one of the friends, I chose the other.
But the next year she moved across the country.
I was left friendless and lonely.
That was when Friend Al, her friend and I became close friends.

After a while Friend Al and her friend began to fight, and they decide to go their separate ways, and that was when her friend warned me not to be her friend anymore.
Of course I just thought "Oh, she's just doing that because she's angry" an shrugged it off.
We soon became best friends.
The next year (being the year that just past) we met Friend Ash and befriended her because she seemed nice,
and that's when the trouble began.
I am not tolerant of people who only want to talk about boys.
Which was all Ash and Al wanted to do.
In fact, it's like they became stupid.
Whenever I tried to have a conversation Al about book or movies like I used to, she would look at me like I was insane and continue to talk about the boy she liked.
Then Al started to do mean things to me and Ash,
whenever we told her a secret, she would tell everyone else.
She would also push my papers off my desk,
borrow money and then act like it never happened so she wouldn't have to pay me back,
and when we switched tested to mark, she would always say a lower mark to the teacher than the mark I actually got.

That was when I began becoming close friends with Ash.
We liked each other, and shared the same hurt feelings from Al.
Unfortunately my feelings of happiness didn't last long didn't last long.
She became like a leech.
She once called me 14 times before 8am.
I asked her to stop calling me, and I wasn't very nice about.
Then she started acting like she was better than me.
She insulted me clothes, my hair, and even some of the new friends I was trying to make.

I just got really angry and I started acting really mean to them.
When they insulted me, I insulted them back.
I tried to push them farther and farther away.
I tried to hang out with some new friends, but then they came and clinged to me (literally).
I even went so far as to tell them that I didn't want to be my friends anymore.
I was a complete jerk.
Which made me even more angry.
I was a little thundercloud whenever they were around.

One day they asked me: Why are you so mean to us?
And I said: Because I'm a b***h, and you better get used to it.
In which I case I realized I was completely right and went off and cried in the bathroom for an hour.

To get to the point,
I hate what I've become.
And I don't know if it's was because of them,
or if I'm just a terrible person.

I've tried to be better, but whenever they come around, I just go back to my old ways.

What should I do?

(Sorry for the wall of text)
PostPosted: Sun Jul 22, 2007 6:49 pm


Honestly, you can't change the past but you can make things better for tomorrow.

If you don't want to be friends with them, so be it. Let it end. But if you think that what you really want is to be with them again, talk to them about it. Tell them that though you don't like discussing boys all the time and you've been hurt, you realize that they sometimes feel the same way with you. Call a truce either way.

Personally, I've never been able to dump friends... it's so hard when you've shared so much time and memories together. Instead, I kinda shift to focus on a different group of people... and I did that for years until I gathered the perfect group of friends. We all mesh in such a way that things are always interesting and different...

... Building relationships is hard, but in the end, entirely worth all the effort.

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MissDemeter

PostPosted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 12:40 pm


To be simple, Friend Al was the total b***h, so she deserves it. And Friend Ash, well, You should've told her to get some other friends, because it's good to have a variety.

But I was in a sort of similar situation many years back. I was in... 2nd grade, I think. This girl (lets call her zoe) wasn't my friend, but was extremely clingy and she really wanted me to be her friend. And zoe kept bothering me all the time, and I had friends of my own, thank you. And so I told her to leave me alone and I told her I thought she was stupid. (I was a cruel, cruel child) And now... she hates me. She holds a major grudge against me.

But the thing was, I had so many friends! I was a popular child! And I was kinda shy too, and I didn't want to have so many friends. Plus she was annoying.

But anyway, maybe you should've treated Ash more nicely, and maybe you should've told Al to back the ******** off.
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