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One Person's Flaw..Another's Perfection
If you and your friends were talking amongst yourselves about the "perfect" guy or girl, what would you say? Is he tall, with a muscular physique, a deep, soft voice, and a gorgeous smile? Is he loyal to you no matter what? Does she have sparkling green eyes and the perfect hourglass figure? Is she athletic and outgoing? Would he or she be Asian, or African American, or Hispanic? Would he or she share all your likes and dislikes, or be completely different from you? If I was asked these questions, I probably wouldn't say what he would look like, or how he would dressed or what he would do. I would probably tell you my perfect guy would have flaws, which further proves his perfection.
Through e-mails, online journals, blogs, and online quizzes and tests, in one form or another, you encounter surveys on various topics, such as "What would you do to your hair?" or "About you!" or "Your favorites," even a survey about "The perfect guy/girl!" Recently, I was browsing Bzoink.com and found the "perfect guy" survey and, for laughs, I tried it. It turns out that they ask things like "Glasses?" and "Does he use the word 'dude'?" and "Does he kiss on the first date?"... Does it really matter? Actions like those aren't as important as others. My ideal guy will listen to me, even when I complain about something silly. He lets me cry on his shoulder, as long as I feel better in the long run. He won't ever deceive me. He respects me and my decisions, and he'll always be there. Isn't that what any girl wants from a guy?
I know some people have theses same ideas, these same values. However, is it certain that anyone is going to find it all in one guy or girl? What if a guy has all those traits, but continues to deceive, and lies, to not only to you, but also to everyone else? The perfect person should be willing to accept and admit his or her faults and willing to work on them. That person shouldn't be egotistical and claim that he or she is this "perfect little angel." No one is perfect on this world; nothing can change that. We all have our flaws and weaknesses in life, and our significant other should love them as much as he or she loves their strengths and abilities. Disliking just one of their flaws will probably turn into a bad situation down the road. For instance, their little habits that get you so annoyed. He always cusses, or she always says "Like." You never say it to the person, and it just builds up, until you snap at them for this little pet peeve.
I noticed that the perfection we want is often in the appearance of the other person. He must have this type of eyes; she has to have this kind of hair, he or she must be this skin color. To me, the ideal guy or girl should be based on personality and beliefs, what you share and what you like and dislike. However, it seems like relationships are now based on how good you look with the person. I have had this unfortunate experience myself. I fell for a guy two years ago based upon his appearance only. He was tall with dark brown hair and brown eyes; I thought he was something else. Yet it turned out that he had a reputation among his exes for lying and cheating frequently. It was my fault that I fell for his looks alone. Physical appearance isn't everything and all appearances have their downfalls. A really hot guy has acne. Or a girl is everything a guy wants, except she has an ugly mole on her neck or something. Although it may not be part of the perfect person plan, we should accept their appearance anyway. Why should something small like acne hold you back from liking the person?
I know there are different points of view when defining "perfection." Some people out there that are perfectionists, myself included when it comes to written work, must have everything right and precise. Yet, I think even perfectionist will get tired of everything so specific and accurate. I'm sure that you have seen the common movie scenario where the protagonist seeks for something "perfect" and, when he reaches it, he realizes it wasn't what he really wanted after all. His perfect reality was with the flaws and imperfections that he grew up with. Sometimes, when things are too perfect, you don't get to see the flaws in a relationship.
We have our different opinions of the ideal person--their appearances, their traits, and their background. However, majority of us might not actually be fortunate enough to get that perfect guy or girl. But, when we meet the one that is meant for us, we grow to love them for the things we admire in them, and eventually, we will also learn to love the imperfections. Love that special someone, even their downfalls.
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