Can someone fall in love with someone they never met?
This question is one people are asking themselves more these days than ever. When all you know of a person is what they type, when that's all you know for sure, how much can you really know them? Which isn't to say that the content of what someone types is what tells you, because that can be faked. Anyone can be fooled; speaking from experience, having been on the receiving end of a truly majestuous fallacy of this genre, I can attest to this. No, it is the way someone types, the things that interest them, the things you both enjoy talking about and doing, even if such a doing is only imagined. These things are enough to generate the kinds of emotions that one more typically associates with someone known in a more "real" manner.
So, the answer to the above question, is yes.
Of course, this love is tricky, laced with doubt. Maybe some are so fortunate as to never question what their partner says, to never wonder if maybe, just maybe, it's all a lie, or some things are anyway. But I am not such a person. Gone are my days of indiscriminate trust. I do, however, remain basically trusting of people, a trait which may lead to my downfall once more, but, I think, makes me a happier person. Better great ups and painful downs than a constant mid-low.
As such, I find myself falling in love. This affection, the leaping of my heart when I see her online, when I can talk to her.. the closeness I feel to her, the desire I feel for her.. these things and countless more now occupy my thoughts on a regular basis. I'm not a moonstruck fool, obviously.. this is not that kind of love. It's the gradual affection, the warmth that creeps up on you as you grow to feel for someone.
So, more than anything else, I want to meet her. Of course, fear grips me like the clammy hand of death wrapped tight around my scrotum (stop... picture it... ;b ). What if she's not attractive? What if she finds ME unattractive? Regardless of the idealized crap that love literature spouts out, looks DO matter, it's fundamental human nature. I'm not looking for a supermodel.. just someone not unattractive. I feel terrible for being so concerned about it, and shallow, because it sucks that people who don't look good don't get as many shots at love, and I'm contributing to the whole thing, but that's how I'm wired.
I don't think she's unattractive. I believe the way she describes herself.. though, as always, there is the doubt. I want to meet her, and be reassured, be happy. I know there will be no moment greater than when I first see her and can be freed from all these worries and fears, and concentrate solely on getting to know her.. more intimately, in all ways. I want to be with her. I hope, I pray, that this will be "it", that she is "the one".. though I don't tend to believe we all have a soul mate, I do tend to think that some people we can just be with, and make it work, and be happy with them. For how long? Who knows? I'll take brief happiness over none. But I don't want it to be brief.. I want to make this last forever.
God willing, I'll get that chance.
Kierris Community Member 
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