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This is something I found across the web, and I think is the best thing to do, and something I wish I can really achieve.

First, cut off contact from everything that gives you hope. Stick to it. After a minimum of 40 days the brain is proven to get out of a habit. So don’t go running back to look at or talk to or hear anything that will delude you to hope.

Second, keep yourself busy in other aspects of life. Do what you love; meditate, work out to a happy playlist, learn new skills. If the blues come back continually, and they do, don't look back. Read comfort books. Watch comfort videos like TED talks and tv series. Cosmos can help you realise that one’s worries are small in universal perspective. Improve yourself for your own satisfaction and believe that you are not incomplete without that event/object/subject you were hoping for.

Once you are emotionally stable and healed out of vicious thought cycles, embrace the alternative of what you were hoping for. For example, if you want to get over someone, start seeing someone new. Don't be harsh on yourself: see someone only if you like them. I think it's a sensible idea to not waste someone else's time to heal yourself.