All right, I always hear guys complaining that "nice guys finish last". Girls say they want a decent guy and always overlook that great guy for some loser who they think they can "change". Girls only want ripped, unrealistic guys.
I submit a rebuttle - nice girls are the ones who finish last. Now let's not pick up the sexist pitchforks for I am far from a sexist and/or feminist. It's just the other side of the coin from a nice girl.
Think of what is the stereotypical American beauty shall we? Tall, skinny, blonde, blue eyes, big breasts, maybe a big butt, hair perfect, great make-up, clothing cute and perfect. She wears short skirts and tight shirts, laughs at your every joke, is a girl who loves to go out and party and have a good time. That's what we see everyone - is it not? Maybe not the blonde hair and blue eyes and maybe not always tall, but certainly thin and showing off all her assets. Look in most magazines, in most movies. Or in my case, let's see who guys are dating.
Sometimes you have the "nerdy" girl, but even she ends up being skinny and perfect looking, with no visible flaws.
Not all girls are like this, but many are killing themselves to become that way. Look at all the eating disorders. The fashion industry certainly doesn't help it. Am I the only one who thinks a girl looks better when they're more than skin and bones? There is certainly a limit, but still...why must "pretty" girls be so skinny? Certainly men (and the women who have eating disorders) must know that it's not healthy.
I don't know about other people, but I'm not a partier. I haven't been to a club, and I'm not chomping at the bit to go to one. They're just not my cup of tea. I'd much rather be at home with my friends doing something like watching a movie, playing a game (whether it be video game or maybe even a board game X0D), or just hanging out - maybe go out to dinner or just to Wal-Mart while in college. As for dates, I'd much rather go for a walk or just hang out with my significant other or do something we both enjoy instead of going out to a club or drinking. I like intimacy and small social groups. And in the eyes of most, I am boring, maybe even a mega big "goody-two-shoes".
And I know I'm not completely unique since some of my best friends feel the same way. We're good people, nice girls. I don't consider myself to be drop-dead-gorgeous, but I do know I'm pretty. I'm kind of lazy so I don't always fix my hair, and I just don't wear make-up. I'm not against wearing make-up, but some girls over-do it and look like painted up dolls - fake. I just can't do that - I am not just a doll to oogle and stare out. I'm a person, and I am an intelligent one at that, damnit.
So, Bex, what is your point? Are you just letting at steam and frustration at your situation right now? A little I guess, but it's more to submit the idea to thought (I don't know how many people read this, so it may just be overlooked, but oh well) that nice girls have just as hard of a time getting guys as nice guys. I never heard anyone take up the side for nice girls getting overlooked for their counterparts.
Now, I'm not saying you can't be nice if you go out and party. I know plenty of people who like to go out and party and are great, nice, devoted people. It's just men like to complain about how they have to worry when their girlfriends go out and party and yet they run back to them every time. (Just like when girls complain about how they can't trust their boyfriends to go out by themselves because they're sure he's cheating, but stay with him anyways).
So, guys, the next time you complain about the girl who overlooks you for the bad boys, think for a moment and see if you can think of any nice girls that perhaps you're giving the same treatment.
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