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Friendships. An illusion? A convergence of emotional needs? A stepping stone for future success? Or is Love the mainstay of it?

I am and have always been bewildered by the exact definition of the word "Friendship". Just like there's no such thing as pure altruism (e.g you don't donate to charity soley to help but also because it satisfies your 'obligations' of being a responsible person in society), "Forever Friends" is clearly a hyperbole.

Before you call someone your friend, think about what that really means. Is he/she your friend only in a certain context? What happens when that 'friend' of yours suddenly lead a life that begins to diverge from yours? Will that affect the way you guys communicate or the value of the friendship?

Okae Socrate's dialectic method is clearly not working because i can only question and not answer. I'll write more when i have a clearer state of mind. I just thought people should take friendships more seriously. Some people can be surrounded by everyone but yet feel alone in that crowd. Popularity does not equate to having more friends. It can mean that it is harder for you to filter out the friends who love you for who you are and not what you have.

My hypothesis: "The purest of friendships exists only when people have nothing to gain but everything to lose out of it". Then again, this will never happen. Assuming that the idea of love is central to the issue of frendship and that true love doesn't exist (except for God's love) just like how nothing is absolute in this world, how can the purest of friendships exists?

Oh so maybe since nothing is absolute, everything is relative. Just like how evil is necessary to define what is good. Maybe we can view friendships in the same light ; of it being relative to other friendships we have e.g (ure a better friend to me because under the same circumstances, i wouldn't be that nice to someone else).

Conclusion NO. 1 : "There's no such thing as the phrase Forever Friends and therefore friendships always involve the element of converging emotional, physical and spiritual needs"